Why laugh and not help?
Yesterday, I was in the gym and doing my warm up cardio just before my weight training. Of course, like most people, I have that wandering eye, so I look around the gym at people while I do my thing. Well, I couldn’t help but notice these two guys cracking up. With that catching my attention, I had to turn the ipod off just so I can hear what the deal is. They only whispered, but I couldn’t help myself something told me to pay attention. As time went on Billy arrived so we began our routine. These two guys started again. Finally, I see one pointing so I look being nosey and there is this guy, working on shoulders rocking his body to pull massive weight. By no means am I a pro but I know better and I am sure you all can agree it sounds wrong, just as I see it was being done wrong. The guy breaks goes in to another room, those boys start talking about it. I just looked at them. I can’t believe they would laugh and point at someone doing it that wrong to a point he could injure himself and instead of helping him just laugh. It is unbelievable to me. So, the guy walked in the room to do another set, here he goes again, so me being the person I am I stop what I am doing I walk over and explained how to do it and show him the proper way. I told him I am not trying to be mean but he could really hurt himself. He thanked me, after that I walked over to the two guys who seem to think working out is a joke or something to do, and told them that no one is perfect and obviously the guy is new, like we all were at one point. I asked what harm is it to tell someone what they are doing wrong instead of making fun of them. It only takes a second. I said here you are thinking you are better than one person b/c he is knew and you have been in here a few times more. It really bothers me that people would act like that. I mean at one point we were all new and clueless but we learned we sought help but some don’t as they do the monkey see monkey do process. I wish someone would have pointed out to me years ago what I was doing wrong, b/c maybe I would have never given up and lost so many years working out b/c I didn’t see results and just ended with a ton of failure. I wonder if the would have laughed if they saw this guy injure himself. Maybe its just me, but I don’t see it as funny, and I don’t see how people can be so cruel.
Anyways, I need to stop talking about this so I will end my blog here!!
January 10, 2008 at 12:23 pm
Way to go!!! Great job in helping others when no one else is willing to. Those other guys are just posers.
January 10, 2008 at 12:24 pm
That, or rather my fear of that is what kept me out of the gym until just a year ago. I know that was very foolish on my part but it’s true. I find most everyone at my gym are not like that and I would imagine that most people at all gyms are not like that. But the world seems to have no shortage of cruel people - just look at the news everyday. It is unbeleiveable the things that humans can do to one another. I hope he took your advise to heart before he hurts himself.
January 10, 2008 at 12:31 pm
I feel what you’re saying. Unfortunately it is a problem with society. These types of actions are essentially taught or at the very least not taught as wrong. They were trying to make themselves feel better whether they realized it or not. "Common courtesy" as I learned it is now "Uncommon Courtesy" or considered being a "wuss" or "too nice". It really is a sad state for society to be in.
On the flip side, it really did take a lot of courage to go over to the new guy and give him your constructive criticism. For the same reasons as mentioned above. Many people today are not capable of receiving constructive criticism without seeing it as some sort of attack.
January 10, 2008 at 12:31 pm
Good for you!
January 10, 2008 at 6:06 pm
I am glad to know that you helped that guy. Most people won’t even tell you if you have a booger hanging out. I try to help any time I can, especially if they have a booger. LOL
January 12, 2008 at 7:31 pm
Awesome job Alicia!
— Randy