Married people flirting on bodyspace… more losers who need to get the f**
Ok, enough is enough people. I get it. You don’t understand the concept of a meaningful relationship. You also must not get the concept of marriage with all the married people on here flirting with others. What the hell is wrong with you? If you are so starved for attention then you need to address it with your significant other, not run around on bodyspace and talk about ‘how bad do you want it?’ Give me a ****in’ break people. Maybe I am just old school and believe a vow means something, but to me that is no better than sneaking around at a bar trying to pick up someone while your partner is at home. You people make me sick. I guess I shouldn’t be suprised, with all the pieces of crap out there, some of them had to end up on bodyspace.
January 4, 2009 at 11:38 pm
Haha. Right on man! I 2nd that!
January 4, 2009 at 11:46 pm
Dude you are so right. Thats why divorce rates are up the roof in america… People just arent satisfied of what they are blessed with in their life. But yeah totally agree with you!
January 4, 2009 at 11:50 pm
This site has changed drastically in the last year. I cant say for the better either. It has lost its seriousness about bodybuilding and has become a platform for attention whores.
January 5, 2009 at 10:46 pm
I’ve gotta say, while I agree, you seem WAY too aggressive about the situation. Unless you’ve had women who, knowing you are married, still hit on you and you were upset about it, I can’t really understand why you are so angry about it. This isn’t Laynenorton.com, this is a public blog/forum and people are free to act as they wish, if you don’t like it that’s fine, frankly neither do I but you know what, live and let live, other people’s opinions are just as valid as yours or mine. You have a pro card, you are getting your doctorate, and you have some fine accomplishments but you seem to throw your weight around as if you own this whole site sometimes. I respect your your accomplishments but that doesn’t make you the law around here, there are plenty others on this site with similar achievements and I rarely hear them ranting in a negative manner as you seem to do. I mean this respectfully, but be the change YOU want to see in the world, and forget about the rest. You can spend your days ranting and raving about others but it’s not going to change a thing, or you can be a good husband as you seem to be and see a huge change, even if only in your life.
January 7, 2009 at 8:44 am
Layne,
Your right. People to often think this is a personal site. The focus of bodyspace isn’t to get off on. Its funny how the last poster writes "…forget about the rest" when they can’t even follow their own advice. Bodyspace is about bettering our physical beings with some intelligence. Keep posting what you like to post, Ill be sure to continue reading.
January 8, 2009 at 7:58 am
I agree Layne; and its funny as most of the people I have seen acting like that are also the ones that proudly annouce they are married.
The other thing I find strange is that fair enough this is a body building /fitness site but I see too many "ladies" who are "happily" married but still post pics / vids of themselves that are borderline porn material! I mean, why get upset that some guys are saying things like "huge tits", "nice arse", "I so would" when you are the same one that puts those kind of pics on your own bodyspace!?!?!?!
It just does not make sense. As much as you are happy with your body, progress and confidence, the fact that you are married should indicate some kind of respect for yourself and ALSO for your partner (except if you or him are in the adult industry ofcourse).
I believe that people will see and treat you the way you carry yourself either face to face on even on a board online. Adn for the record, there seems to be no age issue in this; I have seen females from 18-55 that fall into this category.
I just imagine some husbands going online for the first time to see their wive’s page and reaction to the type of pics on there.
Oh well, as a married person myself, I would be in shock if I saw my wive’s online page to look like some of the ones here and God knows, I am no prune. ……..
Oh well, different strokes for different folks I guess.
January 12, 2009 at 7:32 am
Same reason you can’t use the chat without people acting silly.
January 12, 2009 at 7:53 am
U mad?
January 15, 2009 at 7:51 pm
Damn adguy, I was thinking the same thing!
January 15, 2009 at 8:52 pm
well obviously this got a response.
I’m not mad at all. I just think these people are sad losers and I felt the need to call them on it.
BL85, I don’t own the site. I’m giving my opinion, so take your own advice and if you don’t like it… don’t read it. There are 3 men on here who I know for a fact are married and are flirting with other women. One of them went so far as to talk to another women about his "nine inches" and how he was going to give it to her.
Maybe I’m just old fashioned and actually think marriage is sacred and actually give a shit about my marriage.
January 15, 2009 at 9:11 pm
your wife is a lucky lady. someone who believes in their vows. you rant all you want.
January 16, 2009 at 8:23 pm
i hear you, Layne. I sometimes take time to browse bodyspace and im frankly amazed at how many women are brushing off predators! I wish these internet fiends would piss off too and spend some time in the gym like they claim there trying to do.
Ive always found in the past you cant stray far from home as you’ll always get caught. word gets around like wild fire, so for the desperado’s out there who are married, chill the engines…..
Also, is it me or does eurasiansurgeon spend 24 hours a day on here chatting to random lowlifes?
Ban?
January 16, 2009 at 9:56 pm
Yea, her comments section is literally a who’s who of schmoes on this site.
January 16, 2009 at 10:11 pm
I have been married for 20 years. One of the aspects I enjoy on here besides comraderie and information is the flirtation. I have been on this site almost 3 years and never taken it past flirtation…but it is a part of what I do here. Does my husband know? Of course. Do I love him any less because of it? Of course not. It keeps the marriage alive. How long have you been married Layne?
January 16, 2009 at 10:20 pm
if you need to flirt with strangers to keep your marraige alive???? have fun that I guess. It’s one thing to congratulate someone on their physique on BODYspace and tell them they look great… it’s quite another to make advances and flirt.
And just flirting is dangerous… even if you never planned to take it past that, do you know how many weirdos exist that don’t get the difference?
I’ve been married less than a year so I guess that means I know nothing huh? I’ll tell you this much, I know that in the 5 years I’ve been with Isabel I’ve never felt the need to get attention from other women and you won’t see that change. I am confident… I don’t need meaningless comments from shallow people to fill me up
January 16, 2009 at 10:21 pm
props to str8flexed. thumbs down (BOOO) to maddi and the ones like her. nuff said. str8, i guess that’s why we stay away from the ones who stray.
January 17, 2009 at 1:05 pm
Nobody is straying. There is a tremendous difference in the maturity of a 22 year relationship versus a 5 year relationship. Let me know how you feel if and when you get there. Too much judgement for me on this blog. I will stick to the encouraging informative ones.
January 17, 2009 at 1:32 pm
No you’re right I don’t understand. I don’t understand why you feel you need flirtatious attention from other men. Call me crazy but I made a commitment to my wife, and I believe part of that commitment is emotional and means not engaging with other women even if I don’t intend on ‘acting’ on it. Just because you aren’t actually engaging in sexual acts of cheating or the like doesn’t mean it’s not hurtful and isn’t emotionally straying. But what do I know… I’m just a dumb young kid
January 18, 2009 at 1:31 pm
Layne, I’m reading this b/c it’s here, I enjoy your material because you are a good bodybuilder, naturally this caught my attention.
The thing is, this is the world… married women (and men) flirting is not some phenomenon exclusive to this site. It’s something that has existed for ages, you are barely married and still in the "high" of the relationship, at which point a woman is nearly impossible to steal….. I hope this lasts for you as you seem very happy with Isabel, but most marriages do NOT remain that way year, after year, after year. People have natural urges, for most people these are very strong, without an effort to keep a constant spark alive in a marriage, it’s only natural that couples will flirt and possibly fall into temptation. Is this fair? No, I certainly try my best not to do it…. but again, marriage is something WE created, sexual urges are something NATURE created. Man vs Nature, I have to say, man is the underdog.
January 19, 2009 at 5:37 pm
Oh boy Layne you really got this rollin!!! Ha. So i guess I am going to have to put my measely two cents in as well! i agree with Layne 100%.
I’ve only been married to Ben for 2years so I’m sure I dont know what i am talking about either…ha! But, I do know that I have enough respect for myself, my body and my marriage not to put up provacative pics just so I can get some attention from random guys on bodyspace. The times when I have received inappropriate comments I have simply deleted them.
BL85…Marriage is something GOD created, not us! Yes, sexual urges are normal, but lusting after someone youre not married to and subjecting yourself to forms of temptation (ie. flirting, porn, dirty magazines, etc) only set one up for failure in a marriage. You make it sound like all men will cheat because it is in a man’s nature to. Yeah, temptations are out there and in today’s society they surround people every day. But like anything worthwhile, a marriage is something that takes work…hard work!
My husband and I may have only been together for a few years, but we make it a point in our lives to keep our marriage GOD centered and focused!
January 22, 2009 at 11:02 am
Exactly!
January 24, 2009 at 12:18 pm
Thanks for speaking up Layne. The site is bodybuilding.com! It’s sad when people have such self-esteem issues and need this kind of attention from others. I get my self-esteem boost by lifting heavier than I did the day before, not from others, from my own personal accomplishments!!!
January 28, 2009 at 7:01 pm
layne is the shit and dont forget it! all you hoes who dont respect your significant another enough to show love to them you have yet to grab the concept of pure and true love!
January 29, 2009 at 4:32 pm
Layne is 100% correct, and obviously has some morals, unlike the ever-growing number of desperate, pathetic BodySpace members seeking love and attention in the wrong places. I’m sure their families would be proud if they were to come across their BodySpace profiles. Love may fade but doesn’t mean you have to chase someone 20 years younger on BodySpace to feel good about yourself. Disgusting.
January 31, 2009 at 8:13 am
looks like i’m not the only one here who actually has a brain:
http://blog.bodybuilding.com/JamerJay/2009/01/27/bodyspace-glorifying-the-rise-of-the-female-attention-seeking-pornstars-2/
January 31, 2009 at 9:36 am
Bro, i am so glad to see you’ve already brought this to the attention of people on this site.
I guess I never really touched on the marriage/relationship issue.. But you’re completely right.
Like you & your wife, me and my girl have a very solid relationship and trust each other completely to be on this site and know that it is for purposes regarding bodybuilding and fitness, not to pick up or flirt with girls or guys.
I really don’t think being old school is any excuse for what these men & women are doing.
Like you say.. There are married men & women (anyone in a dedicated relationship, too) flirting openly and posting pictures that should not be seen by anyone but their own partners.
I mean, there are married women here with children.. And they are posting pictures of themselves spread over furniture like pornstars.
If I could also throw in another thought, which i’m not saying is 100% correct as i’m not married, but which I believe:
I do not think flirting keeps a marriage alive. Trust, honesty, being deeply attracted to every aspect of your partner, and making sure you keep the romance and flirting alive in YOUR OWN ONE ON ONE RELATONSHIP is what keeps a marriage healthy.
There is difference between a healthy 5 year relationship and drawn out 22 year relationship.
How does this lady above even know her husband is still in love with her? I would question any man who thinks it’s ok for his wife to flirt openly like this. There is something deeply wrong rooted in that relationship.
I am glad you are highlighting the issue bro, keep it going!!
August 11, 2009 at 10:34 pm
hey man,
i know i’m a young guy but i’ve seen marriages go down the drain because of the very thing your talking about…keep on preachin’ it
November 5, 2009 at 12:37 pm
WOW!!! I love your opening statement. You are right. I love to read comments from those who are NOT afraid to step outside the box and articulate their opinion. Kudos to you.