You’re such a guy!
I’m feeling a little better, but not at my 100%. So, on one of those “not feeling so well” nights my husband and I were in bed. It was that time….you know, kids are in bed, dog has been taken out, lights out and no noise. Quiet enough to the point where you can actually look at your husband and SEE him and have a conversation and hear what he is saying without being interrupted. Our conversation started about his week and how on this one particular day he was listening to the radio and a man had called into the radio station and mentioned how he was no longer attracted to his wife because she had put on a substantial amount of weight. My husband said to me he found the guy to be a real jerk and if he was in it for the waistline he was in it for the wrong reasons. He proceeded to say he loved me and he did not feel that way. “Seriously?” I asked. “If I gained an enormous amount of weight you’d still love me? That’s not the issue, the issue is would you want to have sex with me? If this man married a size 2 and now the 2 is an 18, he’s still suppose to be passionately attracted to that?” “Personally,” I continued, “I would not be cool with it. I didn’t marry a 300 pound man. Now, if you were a 300 pound man of pure muscle, well now, walk this way. However, if you were 300 pounds of fat, I don’t think so." I was called SHALLOW. LOL. I agree it sounded shallow. After a pause I replied, "Well, maybe I am shallow. I’ve had a couple of girlfriends give me a call saying they love their man but weren’t attracted to them because of their weight gain. I’m inclined to believe more women feel this way, but because of the whole love thing and the fear of being judged they just keep it under wraps. She told me, didn’t tell her man, I’m not one of those chicks." He laughed and said, "You’re such a guy…."
January 28, 2008 at 11:39 pm
To get out of shape and still expect your spouse to hace sex with you is abuse. Both parties should do whatever they can to stay competative.
January 29, 2008 at 2:41 pm
My wife was not attracted to me. I could tell by her suttle hints like your fat a$$ needs to lose some weight. I am working hard to get back to that body she first fell in love with. She stays sexy I need to do the same.
January 29, 2008 at 8:40 pm
when i was married to my ex. She started out as a size 5, then the next thing i know is that she is a size 2x then back to a size 10. she was a biach …so, you can change the cover but you cant change the pages… if she would have treated me right then i could care less what size she was…
January 30, 2008 at 5:17 am
that’s the thing about most spanish men, most really don’t care…the bigger the girl, the more there is to love. I think for some it might even be a jealousy thing. My sister starts losing weight and my brother-in-law starts becoming jealous…she’s fat, he’s happy.
January 30, 2008 at 5:31 am
i can feel where the guy was coming from on the radio. I actually cant say if I would be like that but the way i feel now I can say I wouldnt like it at all if my wife did that. I dont do the big women at all. I may not be intimate with my wife if she gained a lot of weight but whos to say 20 years from now i will feel that way.
January 30, 2008 at 5:32 am
I dont think it is shallow to want your spouse to stay in shape. Physical attraction is a major part of any marriage, love and freindship are great and are what keeps a marriage going in the long run, but intimacy will suffer in any relationship when physical attraction decreases. I think that guys have a tough time with this, as most cant look at their significant other and explain the fact that their wife might need to hit the gym a little more, no matter how tactful they are.