I didn’t know I was so catty!
It all started last Friday. I went to lunch with "the girls" The kind of lunch that usually last well into the night because everyone starts to drink and just hang out. I had already decided before I went that I didn’t want to talk about diet and exercise, or my muscles, etc. God forbid people just leave me alone. Sure enough, as soon as we finish ordering food (mine was ordered, without cheese, sause, croutons, etc.) the conversation focused on me and how crazy I was. It started to make me mad. Of course I was also the only person without a mixed drink or glass of wine. Then, the one person at the table who had not yet asked me to email my diet to them said, "Can you email me your diet, I want to try it." I was so fed up by that point that these horrible words came out of my mouth, "Why should I email it to you. I have emailed it to everyone I know and nobody has actually tried it. Frankly I am getting tired of it". Ohhhh, does that sound catty or what? As soon as I said it I regreted it. Thank God this particular friend has thick skin, she laughed and handed me a piece of paper with her email and said "what the hell could one more person hurt then".
Monday I am having lunch with this friend to create an eating plan. Then we are going to go grocery shopping. I guess being catty made me feel bad and I am going the extra mile with her. I hope she follows through. I would love to have a friend close who is committed to eating clean and being healthy. Wish me luck!!! And pray that I have a forgiving heart when she falls off the wagon. lol….
September 26, 2008 at 8:31 am
You go girl. I love a person that speaks their mind, the world needs a whole lot more of them.
Don’t let her fall off the wagon. MAKE her stay with it, or tell her it will be living hell if she doesn’t give it 12 weeks worth of 100% effort, and then decide if it’s for her or not.
September 26, 2008 at 8:32 am
Good luck !!!
September 26, 2008 at 8:33 am
Don’t feel bad. We all have those moments. At least there was someone who is willing to ask you about it instead of critiquing it. Just point her in the right direction. The follow through is up to her.
You’re doing what’s right for you and your body. That’s all that matters.
Good Luck!
September 26, 2008 at 8:34 am
Let me preference this by saying "Keep in mind, I don’t have your body (yet;))". BUT I can so relate!! You hear the snide comments "Oh, yeah, you can’t/won’t eat that". Truly, why should it matter to them anyway about what I will or will not eat? I mean really. It’s a matter of choice that we have made to get/be fit & is it "our" fault they do not have the disipline? I have this one friend who keeps asking me "what are you doing, are you really eating?" grrrr
Sorry, this hit home with me too… Irritates me.
hugs to you~ I hope you convert your friend:)
Roseanne
September 26, 2008 at 8:36 am
It’s hard to not get mad for obvious reasons. We know how difficult it is sometimes and how dedicated we need to be to eat clean…we miss a lot of the good stuff. When people call us crazy or stupid after all the dedication we put into being healthy, it gets very aggrevating. It’s good that your friend has thick skin…my friends do too…most of them. I would have done what your friend did and laughed it off…I thought that was a funny story myself.
September 26, 2008 at 9:03 am
I get the same comments not about my diet more about my workout routine. It get to you somtime fully understandable.
September 28, 2008 at 4:17 pm
I understand where you are coming from, and I take it as a compliment when they ask me for my work outs and diet…I always tell them that you can have my diet plan but you really have to want to change your lifestyle to achieve what I have achieved. You can have it but you have to really do it for it to work. And they will fall off the wagon cause they dont really want it. Their fault, not yours…so dont feel bad.
September 28, 2008 at 4:41 pm
LOL! I get it all the time, and then nobody ever follows through. I guess it’s all a part of the lifestyle that we live. I have a nutritionist, and people that know it have the nerve to ask me to share my diet plan with them. Are you kidding me? Maybe this friend will be the one to succeed. If you keep casting your "diet plan" out, you’re sure to catch something in the net!! Good luck, but if she falls off the wagon, just keep moving forward, stepping over the other bodies in the road on your way to perfection!
October 2, 2008 at 7:07 am
hahaha you sound like my boyfriend.. he lost so much weight and gained muscle everyone gave him such a hard time but he looks so good . Well he had this diet plan and he gave it to everyone.. so one day a lady at his job made a comment about what he was eating…he kind of went off on her about not starting the diet.. etc etc… she did deserve it you wanted the diet but then you talk about what the person it eating ugh!!