Be the Change…I guess
Was at the Monique show last night with hubs for our 6th anniversary (thank you). Was a fabulous show. She is beautiful and performs such real heartfelt comedy we laughed the whole time. The audience was really with her.
The interesting thing about Monique relevant to this blog obviously is her weight and the weight of those in the audience. There were many many fat, obese, and morbidly obese people there, men and women. Since I was obese not even 18 months ago, of course I can relate to these folks.
I want to reach out to them so badly…but what can I do? What can I do? What?! I have little cards printed up advertising my coaching business, with a picture of my belly now in my oldest jeans…ones that were tight when I began this. I want to scream out…”You don’t have to be Fat!” You don’t have to be, you don’t! You don’t! I brought a little stack of cards with me to the show and since we had good seats I was going to give one to Monique if she pointed me out–but fortunatly she doesn’t do that kind of comedy. My husband was looking around and said “Give a card to these ladies over there. They could use your support.” I didn’t do it. I mean how am I, an ostensibly not fat chick anymore, going to approach someone about their fat? How would I have felt if some skinny bitch came up to me when I was big and said “You don’t have to be fat!”? Bitch please! There could have been a fight or hurt feelings or something.
I am really having a tough time figuring out how to talk to my people about this. How do you touch on something so sensitive, to strangers? I don’t have a “fat chicks membership club card” to show people I’m coming from where they are now. I know. I know what it’s like. I know!
I haven’t figured it out. I guess I will just continue to be the change I want to see in the world until then.
Cheers!
Alissa
June 29, 2009 at 9:05 am
Hey!
My opinion is you can’t approach someone unless you know they are interested. I know I would not want someone to approach me (unless they knew what I am now doing to get fit…I love any info and help I can get!), even though I am now well on my way to regaining my body and life back. I would be offended. Unfortunately, as you well know from personal experience, nothing will change until THEY take the initiative. Anyway, I feel you on wanting to reach out to heavy people. I want to do the same when I reach my goal. I am already trying to map out how I am going to do it.
Good luck w/your training business!
Best to you!
June 29, 2009 at 9:10 am
Yup it’s tough. Thanks!