Sexy?
I was listening to an interview with Jennifer Nicole Lee (awesome role model!) and she was takling about the prevailing lack of sexiness among American women now days. Something like 60% of women surveyed said they didn’t feel sexy. Damn! Unfortunately I can relate.
I was super sexy when I was fat. At my heaviest I was still pulling dudes…regular ones not chubby chasers. I dressed up my fat self and was quite a hot thing. However, this was a while ago. Like before I got married, when I was in the clubs and single and such. Now I don’t blame my marriage on my lack of sexiness. My husband remains interested whatever my body looks like. So what is it? I think for me it is the burden of adulthood…job and bills, and parenthood, and stress, (and marriage). All that, plus fat took their toll on my sexy. I guess it’s time to bring my sexy back!
It’s funny, because since beginning this body transformation, seeing changes in my body, getting to know it better (and liking how it feels), looking better in (the few) clothes I have, etc I like what I’m experiencing. But weirdly none of that has translated into a feeling of sexiness. Even with my husband “appreciating” me all over the place. Even with positive attention from men (and women). Even with being told almost every day how good I look. No sexy mojo. I miss it (although it did cause problems from time to time). I hope I get it back soon. I’ll report if I do.
Alissa, The REAL Fitness Diva
www.size10chronicles.com
December 19, 2008 at 5:17 pm
Remember that sexy is only a state of mind. It doesn’t matter if you’re a size 2 or a 12, if you believe it others will too.
December 19, 2008 at 5:42 pm
I agree with bulldogz. It’s all about state of mind and confidence. The way you hold yourself too.
December 19, 2008 at 7:19 pm
I agree with you both, it is all in the mind…and mine is turned off. I appreciate my thus transformed body but I still don’t feel sexy in it. Weird. Gonna think on that one. Thanks for the input.