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rawlife's Stats for Am now 27
Created:09/20/2009
Last Modified:09/20/2009
Total Comments:3



Am now 27

…Feeling pretty good about it, to be honest.  I feel like I’ve got a lot figured out about myself thus far.  Ha! I feel like I got a lot of that lot figured out in just the last few days.  Been thinkin more than usual lately.  Not quite the same volume as was thought in the 2005-7 era, but quite a lot of thinking nonetheless.  On the one hand, I really can’t keep going as I’m going.  I’ve got to lighten up and not be quite so anal about the physical ‘leaks’ in society and human behavior.  On the other hand, I can’t deny my own mind and ability for happening upon them and doing something about it.  

   I keep thinking about what defines a person’s intelligence, and I think I may have been somewhat wrong up until now.  A person’s intelligence, in addition to having to do with mental acuity in regards to subjects one can observe, count, measure…etc, is invariably and much more heavily and intricately entwined with a person’s ability to recognize and be able do what works to get him/her the comfort/happiness he/she desires.  The truth of the matter is, a focus, especially and extreme focus, on the physical doesn’t have the potential to deliver happiness on the great scale…and if that is the goal, then a person desperately searching for happiness via that/those channels isn’t a real smart one.  (I’ve written a lot about this in the book, I’m trying not to actually say a whole lot that I do in there….I only have so many good points, you know). 

The person that is ‘dumber’ often ends up on top of the person that is ’smarter’…and I’ve kind of come to the conclusion that it is because they are not dumber at all, they are smarter in regards to the things that actually have the potential to deliver them happiness, which probably makes them smarter overall, in my book.  Instead of focusing on being a hotshot, getting to the top of his game, he’s focusing on being a good person that can often connect well with other people and promote a sense of well being and happiness so people can continue to improve and be happy.  In other words, he’s working on the foundation from which all other things come up, whereas the ’smarter’ person is often trying to improve society by promoting an ideal which is a result of the foundation-a symptom….he’s telling people to eat better, live more eco friendly, and he’s telling them exactly why….but he’s not promoting the things that actually help people come to those conclusions themselves: the comfort, the love, the joy in it all….That’s actually not smart.  That makes him the ‘dumb guy,’ because the original dumb guy was at least smart enough to see that human behavior isn’t driven by logic, rather comfort/love/happiness-or the avoidance of their counterparts.

    It’s not like this **** is new to me, to be honest, but it definitely hasn’t sunk in yet.  A big problem I consistently face is: how can I be the things that appeal to my spirit while achieving the ideals that appeal to my mind?

ps.  If you are a cute and nice girl and want to get into contact with me, please do.

2 Responses to “Am now 27”

  1. obtoulson Says:

    I’m not a cute, nice girl, but I’m gonna message you anyway :-P

    What you’re referring to is called "emotional intellegence" in the psychology world. Different from book smarts, this kind of intellegence is a person’s ability to feel and recognize empathy. This is actually a good intellegence to have, because a person that is emotionally intellegent can motivate and shape other’s behavior. Positive psychology relies heavily on this concept.

    There is also a branch in psychology that deals with how people grow as they age. I’m kind of rusty on this (I’ve taken a four month break from school) but there are levels that people reach in life…this usually revolves around a conflict. The younger years revolve around the self, and the later years revolve around society. Most people get stuck in the last stage of the self…the self vs. love. This stage is about finding a mate, being attractive, etc. Having kids usually will push someone beyond this level though, as the person starts thinking about others and their place in society.

    …k. Enough psycho-babble. You post kinda got me thinking :-D


  2. bradl Says:

    In regard to EI, there’s a book too, "Emotional Intelligence", by Daniel Goleman.

    Good post. The human thought and emotional process leading to certain behavior is complicated sometimes.

    Smart is not always smart, but do the cute and nice girls always get the guy?


  3. bradl Says:

    Does that mean "Happy Birthday" is in order too?


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