rawlife’s BodyBlog

   Last time it was the Lesson, this time it’s the Gift.  Last time was about learning, this time it’s about receiving.  And receive I did, but only with a lot of fighting, nervousness, and anxiety on my part.  Funny how we often fight the things that are best for us. 

   I remember Mellen-Thomas Benedict saying something on the radio that really stuck with me.  It was something like "in the future, people aren’t going to be capable any longer of watching human suffering and not doing anything about it."  I mentioned it in my last post, and I’ve come to find that I believe it whole heartedly.  The lesson on the bridge was the first of many lessons for me; which, as I said, I accepted very reluctantly and only with the worst of all attitudes.  I want to make that very clear.  By no means, did any of this happen because of my incredible desire to do good in the following ways-because I had none.  In fact, I have basically had no human compassion whatsoever in my life; instead I relegated it all to the environment-I could hug trees and even very upset over the destruction of the environment, but couldn’t find it it me to give a shit about another person.  True story.

   So enter Nils Jerker(Mörk?)  That is his real name, I don’t see any reason to change it.  Nils is a homeless alcoholic.  I ran across him one day after walking home from work.  He was laying on a bench looking awful, real awful.  To me, it looked like he wasn’t going to live for much longer.  Sores everywhere, totally vacant and out of it stare, bandaged arm.  Just real terrible.  Just so happened that earlier that week I had picked up a copy of the local homeless magazine here in Stockholm and in it was advertised a phone number to call should you run across something that looks to be in need of help.  I took it down when I saw it, thinking I could maybe use it sometime to ease my guilt at not doing anything(after the bridge incident, my guilt over not doing anything for the homeless and the alcoholics surged). 

   So anyway, I call the homeless police on Nils. I wait, they come and pick him up, I talk to them, they leave, done deal.  Nope, he’s back the next night.  ****, I say.  More guilt.  I feel like I should invite him into my house but I desperately don’t want to-if I did, it would be guilt making me do it, definitely not love.  I call the number instead.  Same thing happens as the first night, they come and pick him up, done deal.  Nope.  Comes back again.  And then maybe a fourth time, I don’t remember.  But on the third or the fourth time, I grow tired of feeling guilty all the time and I understand that I am to do something more here.  So I talk to Nils.  His Swedish is drunken, slurred and barely understandable.  Mine is childish and hard to understand because of my weird accent…so we are on about the same level. 

  Nils talks about a lot of stuff that I don’t understand, but I perk up when I hear him mention his kids and family whom he hasn’t seen forever.  He mentions their names and funnily enough, when they were born.  It’s like he is waiting for me to get the hint, which I do actually get.  So I take out my phone and I’m like "Really?  That’s interesting…what were their names again?"  He tells me and I punch them into my phone.  Then I call the homeless police again and they come and pick him up.  They tell him this time though, that they won’t be able to take care of him much longer because he is not a Stockholm resident.  If he wants, he can get free care in Hälsingborg where he is a resident, but not here. 

   Anyway, I go home thinking I’ve already done a good thing-I’ve got the names of his kids and I can call them and tell them what’s up and they will surely be glad and all will be taken care of.  So I live off that feeling for a couple of days.  Monday rolls around or maybe even later in the week, I don’t know, and I decide to look up his son and give him a call.  I am nervous as hell about this and I definitely DO NOT want to…but again, I am driven by guilt or fear.  First number I call, I reach his son. I quickly realize that his son is well aware of everything happening and that does doesn’t want a damn thing to do with his dad.  I understand this, I say, but his mistakes were made long ago, I say-we have to try and look at the situation at present, and at present your dad doesn’t know the difference between right and wrong(he’s mentally retarded, to be honest).  Son isn’t having it.  I’m polite though and we hang up as strange as the strangers we were to begin with.  I’m kind of skipping little parts of the story here-mainly they just encompass how friggin nervous I was calling this dude whom I don’t know and trying to convince him to come get his dad off the street. 

   Funny thing happens after we hang up.  About ten minutes later, son calls me back and says that Nils has a brother who he hasn’t seen for 20 years and who is under the impression that Nils is long dead.  He also says that the brother would like to get in contact with Nils.  Great success!  He gives me the number, I call, we chat.  The brother, I can tell is not in the greatest of shape either, to be honest.  But nonetheless, he is a contact and he wants to see Nils.  He tells me to take his phone number and give it to Nils the next time I see him.  I say sure. 

   I never see Nils again.

   Betch’ya didn’t see that coming.  I honestly don’t remember if I saw Nils one more time after he told me his kids’ names or not, but I do know that that little success made me hesitate for several days and kind of bask in the comfort and then when I actually got uncomfortable enough again to make the phone calls I had not seen Nils for several days and never saw him again(at least I haven’t yet).  I’ve made several attempts through the homeless and social system, and I’ve spoken with his brother again, but nothing.   

   I’ve spoken with quite a few alcoholics on the street since then.  And a few others as well.  It’s always uncomfortable and I can’t stand every second.  I don’t know why exactly, I just can’t.  It always stems from guilt from not doing more.  It started out as always being scared that I would be guilted into inviting them into my house and that was what scared me, but now it is something else.  Still uncomfortable, but not as much.  One was sitting outside my apartment building.  I passed him up thinking I could fight the guilt.  I couldn’t.  I realized I had to go back down and talk to him.  I didn’t know how to strike up a conversation, so I brought my dinner down with me.  He saw me eating raw meat and thought that was kind of funny.  Then we talked, talked about where he came from, what he had done with his life and why he does what he does.  Then I gave him a piece of raw meat.  He laughed his ass off and took two pieces actually and gobbled them down.  I’m not ashamed to admit that the real reason I gave them to him was in hopes that his internal environment was basically the perfect breeding ground for parasitic growth and maybe I could give him a tape worm or something.  I’ve come to understand that poor health and seemingly ‘bad’ events are often life’s only way of getting your enough of your attention to turn things around.  So I didn’t feel bad about that at all.

   I’m going to end with one more story.  Probably the biggest success of all of these strange happenings.  Kurt.  I woke up one saturday morning with that very familiar feeling-I’m going to meet someone.  Immediately I became uncomfortable.  But to be honest, I was so damn tired of being uncomfortable all the time that I just refused.  Today I was going to go out, meet this guy and I was going to take it with a grain of salt.  I was going to do it with a smile and I was going to be nice to everyone on my way there.  That was that.  No more avoiding anyone, no more walking down different streets so as not to meet any alcoholics on the way there.  I was going to do this right. 

   So I did.  I smiled at everyone I passed, I might have even said hello once or twice.  And my energy soured.  It really did.  I was flying high when I met him.  And he recognized me before I recognized him.  I saw this guy in a yellow shirt and grey sweatpants stumbling along looking confused and I knew it was him.  ‘Oh, there he is,’ I said to myself.  And, of course, I got nervous again, but I tried to fight it.  He talked to me before I talked to him. ‘Do you know where the Maria Clinic is?’  Nope, I didn’t, of course.  But I’ll help you find it.  Good samaritan idea popped into my head again.  This is what I have to do and today I’m at least going to try to like it, or at least not hate it.  So, a woman with a cross around her neck walks around the corner and stops, strangely right in front of us.  Of course, I don’t ask her.  I look for other people to ask, look around the corner, wander aimlessly for a bit and then just look confused.  Then I ask her.  Quickly she turns around and says "oh sure, it’s right over there, around the corner, take a left at that street…etc.’  Then she takes Kurt’s hand and very kindly and intimately wishes him well.  Then I say ’cmon, I’ll take you,’ and he thanks me very graciously and we go on our way.  Kurt is the real deal.  He’s not homeless, he’s got plenty of money, he looks like absolute garbage, and he totally trashed.  So trashed that as we stand in the clinic, getting medicine to treat his alcoholism, he pops open a brewski and sips away.  These alcoholics don’t chug, I don’t think they’re in the kind of shape to be able to chug.  They of course, kick him out and we leave. 

   Anyway, there’s not a ton to this story.  We spent the whole afternoon together.  He told me everything.  He was a retired pilot, addicted to pain killers and alcohol-like 30% of all pilots are, he says.  He hasn’t talked to his kids in years and he hit his wife for the first time yesterday when she took away his wallet and keys.  She wants a divorce.  One thing I’ve come to understand is that things are both more and less our own faults than we really understand.  I try to purvey this message to them and I think I got it across with Kurt.  For the most part, these people I talked to love blaming other people for their various problems.  Since I don’t have any past experiences with them and thus no feelings attached to my relationship with them, I don’t have such a problem telling them that they are in the position they are in because of their own actions and the things they are bitching and moaning about are usually other people’s REactions to their obvious life abuse. 

   On the other hand, I stress to them a kind of self forgiveness.  I told him that despite the fact the he got himself into this mess, he and his wife are going to come to the conclusion(hopefully b4 she leaves him) that the mistakes he made were, for the most part, many many years ago and the life he is living now is just a kind mindless result of them-they can’t be called mistakes anymore, in my opinion…now they are something else, something very natural that most of us would do, I believe.  I told him that basically the only reason any of us do anything is to satisfy our desire to become less uncomfortable and to be more comfortable.  I then told him(in a way that he could understand) that whereas most of us other people have many different outlets to find comfort in, he has created an instantaneous neural superhighway to comfort via alcohol and painkillers, and nothing else.  Not tv, not food(some of these guys don’t eat for days), not friends, not sex, not reading.  Alcohol and painkillers.  He felt uncomfortable when he was 18 maybe being social or whatever it was and started drinking.  A slow evolution began and 40 years later, he feels uncomfortable just being in his own skin and drugs and alcohol are the now knee-jerk, totally and completely thoughtless answer to solving that problem.  I assured him that his wife would have to soon come to the conclusion that he has never chosen the drugs and alcohol over her as a whole.  He chose his immediate comfort over her immediate discomfort.  Not until her actually leaving him becomes a reality in his own mind(which is hard in his mentally retarded state) does that situation even come into play.  So far, it’s always been his immediate comfort or lack there-of over how it’s going to make her feel when he drinks……not her presence in his life.  Threatening divorce is still not the same, it’s still just a threat.  Although it’s closer. 

   I told him that he got himself into this situation, that it was all his own doing, but then I tried to comfort him.  Truth and love.  I told him also that that is true for all of us in every situation and that anyone could find themselves in his, given the right circumstances.  Constantly seeking comfort where you find it most readily available is about as natural as natural gets.  He told me that he was a Christian and went to church 2x weekly.  I told him that he needs to turn the other cheek.  When he goes home he needs to be totally honest with his wife; which means telling her exactly why he does what he does, about comfort and his lack of it, and that he hasn’t chosen it over her.  I told him that she is going to be mad and is going to yell and that that is her way of taking something back from him which she thinks he took from her.  Energy, we’ll call it, the upperhand, the win.  I told him that he has to fight his knee jerk reaction to do whatever and just turn the other cheek.  Tell her that he is done and that maybe he can’t offer her anything inherintly positive now but he can at least offer her nothing negative-as in no abuse, verbal or physical-he can be quiet.  I told him to tell her how hard it is for him and then I told him to go to church, even more often, go everyday.  Read the Bible everyday.  This is his saviour.

    I don’t know what happened to him.  I do know what happened to me.  My energy levels have risen somewhat.  I’m vibrating just a bit faster these days.  I feel like I’ve paid back some karma from being such an angry human being for most of my life.  I talked to one guy on the Faroes for a while, but other than that I haven’t had any more experiences with the alcoholics or homeless.  The guilt isn’t nearly as strong, I’m very thankful for that.  I came to understand that people have to be in the right place spiritually to get help and the one helping has to be too.  Lots of people I talked to probably didn’t budge an inch after we talked.  Kurt, I think, probably did.  I came to a lot of conclusions actually and I think I’ll end with one of the more important ones and that is to not be judgemental and not think too much of ourselves-as I often did and still do.  It is our past experiences which create our belief systems and determine our course of action in future situations.  I’ve come to find that, no matter how many people look down on these people for living the way they do, very few have actually had to live they did.  Meaning, very few have actually had to go through most of what almost all of these people have.  If you think your story is bad, theirs, I can assure you, is likely worse.  We do what we do to get comfortable and some are so uncomfortable that being comfortable over the long term isn’t something that even crosses their mind.  Addiction to a substance is very in your face and it’s clearly, visibly wrong to us.  But there are many of us who have lived these hard lives that have equally as large problems that aren’t nearly as visible that go under the radar of everyone else-that are much more acceptable to everyone else, like anger, or rudeness, or arrogance…these are all, I’ve come to understand, just as bad.  I’m guilty of them all and these lessons were, I think, just as much for me as they were for the people I talked to…and given that I think I only REALLY got through to one of them, they were probably more for me than for the people I talked to.  Thank you and good night.

Well, it’s my 26th birthday today and as good of a day as ever to talk about my life, I suppose.  Sorry it’s been a while in between blogs, haven’t really gotten back into the swing of everthing yet after the trip.  I’ll start with the bbing news: not much.  I minorly tore my soleus the other day, but other than that training is going good. The bruising is basically gone and it’s only sore to the touch-my functionality is fine.  I have torn a muscle 4 times in my life and haven’t been to see a doctor for once.  What do you think, bra eller anus?

    I was born in Sweden and lived there until I was five; then moved away under somewhat questionable circumstances.  I only say questionable because my two parents have two totally different stories and I can’t tell you for sure which one is true.  They split when I was 2 and I don’t remember a whole lot more.  My mom and I moved to my grandparents house in a suberb of Chicago where we lived for 2 or 3 years before getting our own house. 

   Most people would probably have described me a pretty happy kid and adolescent.  This is kind of true, but I think the real truth is that I was, for the most part, when in the company of others, just very happy to see them and when not, a generally angry kid.  Looking back on it, I think it’s kind of rediculous and I get upset at how angry I was all the time and how poorly I treated my mom.  Never did anything outrageous-just constantly angry, not often being nice to be around. 

   I would say that that trend continued up until roughly last year.  Not with quite the same intensity, but roughly the same nonetheless.  Nice, patient, kind and loving with strangers; arrogant, full of pride, incredibly impatient and intolerant with those nearest and dearest.  This has played out especially much with girlfriends.  Up until recently, and actually still but not as much as before, nothing could irritate me more than my girlfriend-whoever it was at the time.  Funny how that works.  I always considered myself such a good guy too.  Anyway, as of yet my relationships have been pretty much marred by girls pressing my buttons(which are not hard to find) and me flying off the handle in a kind of subtle way, if that makes sense.  Just like with my mother, not freaking out, not yelling and screaming all the time, just me being visibly angry and clearly disappointed in what I was convinced was sheer and utter stupidity.  I’ve since come to understand that the moment anyone finds themselves in the situation that I find and have found myself in so many times in which extreme anger arises from a misunderstanding, that we have then also found yet another person who doesn’t understand.

   Life has a way of helping everyone out and evening out the the score at the same time, wouldn’t you say.  I would.  At least that’s what I’ve been experiencing for the last half year or so.  Probably much longer than that, actually garunteed much longer than that, but the last half year has been obvious and here’ how it started:

   Since I was a little kid, I’ve had a kind of religious obcession that soon developed into a kind of phobia, specifically focused in and around the subject of hell.  It sounds kind of weird, but a lot of people have this problem actually and it’s one that’s not easily dealt with because there are, obviously, not too many ways to clearly prove or disprove anything in regards to it-and obcessive minds aren’t usually particularly prone to just accepting things because they make sense or don’t.  So anyway, this has been a kind of gift for me in my life, really.  It has been very hard but it, I believe, has been life’s way of getting me to search for a deeper answer into spirituality.  There have been lots of these things in my life-for example: one day I found out that by using English gematria(a new system revised from the traditional one using multiples of 6) the letters in my first and middle name add up to 666-that struck me so hard at the time that it made me search for a deeper meaning-it was so uncomfortable that I just had to keep searching for answers-I literally could not let it just stand at that…and I think life knew that.  Even if other people wouldn’t think twice about it, the obcessive person thinks way more than twice about it. 

   So anyway, I was reading up on one of my favorite subjects about 6-9mos ago-NDEs.  I’ve read a ton of these over the years and I was always kind of scared and perplexed by the hellish type ones.  And that day, probably that whole month as I recall, life was pushing me hard in that direction-that’s when I found out about the above.  In other words, I was worked up-constantly reading about it, constantly thinking about it, constantly looking for some kind of answer, constantly not wanting to go to hell.  Since going raw, I almost haven’t been physically able to get this obcessed about anything-my mind just isn’t that cloudy any longer, but this time around it really hit me and I needed an answer.  So I turned to where I’ve always turned, prayer.  This has always had a calming effect on me and this time I prayed over and over again for the truth.  I need to see the truth, show me the truth.  I prayed it silently, audibly, and even very loudly. 

   I walked over to a friends house that night, over a long bridge called Västerbron.  We had a great time, I don’t remember barely any of it, but it calmed me down some and that was nice.  But the moment I left and started walking home, the nagging came back.  I needed, very badly, to see the truth in this; and again, I asked for it.  Very loudly.  

    And then the truth began unravelling itself…something very special happened.  I’m standing on the bridge again, it takes about 10 minutes to walk across, and see a kind of ethereal glowing white vertical stick of sorts-way in the distance.  Very luminous, very noticeable, and far away as I recall.  I knew, I absolutely knew something was up.  As I walk nearer, I realize that this kind f glowing stick is actually the white cane of a blind woman.  I walk right up to her, right beside her, and realize something is very wrong.  It becomes very clear to me that this woman is about to jump off the bridge.  A lot of people commit suicide here in Stockholm this way.  So I get immediately very nervous, but realize that I can’t just walk away, and talk to her.  She’s going to commit suicide.  She’s crying, she’s amongst the most physically unnatractive people I’ve ever seen, she has one totally dead eye, and in all honesty, resembles what you might think a troll would look like.  I can see that this person has had a hard life and now I’m really anxious beyond basically anything I’ve experienced before-very scared would be a good way to describe it.  Anyway, we’re going back and forth and in the state I’m in, I’m trying, even though I don’t actually believe or perscribe to any of this, to help her with kind of religious talk.  And it does nothing.  As I recall, she insulted it.  This struck a chord with me. 

   What did seem to work though was connecting with her, and trying to connect with her lighter side-the happier side of her personality-trying to make her laugh.  She told me that everyone has a right to do whatever they want with their own body and that it was her body and she wanted to jump off the bridge.  I promptly told her that I agreed and that this was my body and I wanted my body to keep her body from jumping off that bridge.  I also reminded her that I was much stronger than she was and that it just wasn’t going to happen.  She didn’t really laugh at this but it was a start for me, it sparked a small understanding. 

    I pretty quickly got the attention of a woman over the highway and she came over and helped a lot.  She, of course, worked in the same building as the mental institution this woman was just released from-despite the fact that he told them she was just going to go back and commit suicide.  Coincidence?  This woman was my savior because she made us laugh, and then that helped me make them laugh and that created a situation in which suicide became much less of a reality.  Once the first joke came in, it was like everything was going to be ok-once our deay lady smiled.  I knew the lady wouldn’t be dying tonight, but I wasn’t totally calm. 

   It was around that time that I was mentally confronted by a scipture that I had read earlier that day about the Good Samaritan.  It’s funny how it all played out, because that woman that I hailed over was one of the two that stopped out of several more than just walked or rode their bikes right by, not even acknowledging the situation.  It has become pretty clear to me that the truth that I was praying for was in that lesson-dropping everything and doing everything I could to help this person.  Even though, to be honest, I was crap at it-it wasn’t until that other woman came over that the situation really calmed down-she called the police as well.  When the police came and took her away, I asked where they were taking her.  I called my girlfriend at the time and told her everything and told her that I wanted to go to the hospital to make sure she was alright and to see if we could helpme-then my girlfriend actually asked to talk to the girl because she, too, had been suicidal and thought she could help.  In the end, the police took our woman away and my girlfriend came and we went right to the hospital. I went with a Bible in hand as well as a Bhagavad Gita.  Haha, that must have looked funny.  Haha, nutjob?

   The attendant wouldn’t let us see her, so we gave him our phone numbers and emails to give her if she ever needed someone to talk to.  We then left and that was the end of that.  I saw my dear lady a couple of months later walking with someone here in my neck of the woods and that made me feel real good.  I don’t know how she is doing now, but I know she made it past those couple of months and it felt nice. 

   Since that night I have had many such occurances-which I have referred to for the last half year as my ’secret life.’  I’ve come to understand that even though it may seem as though I am helping other people, these things that I have been doing have been life’s way of helping me.  Helping me understand and helping me to physically raise my energy level and turn me into a better person after having spent so many years as an angry one-while at the same time doing some penance and helping others.  I’ll go into them in more detail in another blog, but it’s become real clear to me that in the future people are going to become much less able to just stand by as others suffer.  The people I have come into contact with and helped, I have not helped because I am a particularly good person, but because I could physically NOT not help.  A deep hot anger would rise up inside of me if I didn’t, and I was scared of it.  I’m going to have to finish this later so it doesn’t all get jumbled up so I’ll talk to you soon. 

    Grandma passed over yesterday, calmly and peacefully.  The funeral’s next monday morning and I’m leaving that afternoon.  Kinda of funny about Grandma that all of my best memories of her seem to be when I am getting in trouble of some sort.  I don’t know why I laugh at those memories but I do.  I remember when I was 9 or 10 or so, I told one of my friends that she hated(a word she would never ever use) him and when she caught word of that she dragged me over to him by the ear and gave us both a talking to-I don’t remember exactly what she said.  I remember getting swatted on the butt for being a jackass when she asked me to slice a roast and I ruined it.  I remember getting reprimanded after asking my Aunt May how old she was.  I remember getting easily the most sarcastic intro speech ever by her after I didn’t clean the car to her liking after she had lent it to me-"Paul, didn’t you like that car??" she said.  I’m smiling right now thinking about all of these things.  I think that’s good, because in the past they were kind of embarassing memories and now I just think they’re charming.  The truth is that every other time I was around her, all she ever did was help me and care for me.  In fact, she used to let me into my house on a friggin regular basis after I locked myself out it-a tradition I have kept alive to this very day.  I remember a lecture she gave me about hate one time-about what a strong word that is and that ‘you(as in we) don’t hate anything.’  That sums up her attitute basically and I have a feeling that people are going to be coming out of the woodwork to pay their respects because of that attitude of hers and how it affected everyone she came into contact with.  Just a real nice old lady. 

   All of this flying and driving is killing my back. But I am responding with love.  Ha!  I just felt like writing that.  Seriously though, I am doing more Mckenzie exercises and back strengthening movements than I have ever done-feels like I’m doing something to counteract the pain almost constantly.  That in and of itself is a pain.  But you know what?  Fugettaboutit.  What I really need is a month where I don’t do anything that irritates it.  I’ve noticed that it takes about 2 seconds to knock it out of whack and about 2 days to get it back into whack.  If I get on a roll of a couple of days without pain, then it’s really a whole lot better and harder to dislodge.  That’s what I need, a roll.

   In other news, I keep experimenting with this candida issue.  Again, I don’t have it real bad, it’s really more of an annoyance.  Despite that though, it’s been one of the best things to ever happen to me-and kind of weird how it happened-with me doing something totally uncharacteristic of myself-taking antibiotics.  Anyway, my diet has changed so much and I have such a better feel for it now that I’m actually very thankful.  Not that I want this forever, but I’m thankful for the lesson it has taught me in finding truth-finding the best path through trial and error.  Obviously I haven’t found the very best path yet or my stomach wouldn’t be making the crazy sounds that it often does but I’m getting there and I’m much farther along than I’ve ever been. 

    You know, had it not been for this, I think I would have lived a much less healthy life than I ever thought possible on a raw diet.  I think most raw foodists are of the opinion that as long as they are raw they are healthy; I’ve found this not to be the case.  I was eating fruit like candy.  Huge amounts of sugar.  That was the wrong path.  I should have known-the signs were there: bad dandruff, bad body odor, and a general feeling of unease, anxiousness.  That last one is the big one.  I’m convinced that there is a big group of people out there experiencing what they think is the fault of a genetic chemical imbalance causing them to be depressed, angry, and anxious all the time when it’s really the result of a learned chemical imbalance via constant self imposed sugar highs and lows-which, I might add are much like real drug addictions in that you don’t actually feel the high, you just feel like you are back at default, back to where you need to be to function. 

    I guess I’ll leave you with that. I do have a big update to do pretty soon on what I call my secret life.  For the last couple of months I have been having some unusual experiences that I kind of felt like keeping private, but I don’t feel like it anymore.  So stay tuned.

  I’m heading back to the States for a week.  My grandmother is on her last days-she’s the last of my grandparents and she’s actually pretty ready to go.  At least, she’s told us as much over the last year or so.  Real special lady, basically lived for her husband, real old school.  And she loved it, that was her life and it was the way it was supposed to be.  He died 4 years ago after 50 years of marraige, 8 of her 9 siblings are gone, and many of her friends are gone.  I’m trying to see this as a good thing.  She’s going home, I can accept that, and I told her that.  So I should be on a plane within the next day or two back to Chicago.  -while I’m there, I think I’ll HIT it up as I haven’t done in quite some time.

   I’ve been working out regularly, enjoying it somewhat, and making some good progress. Haven’t had a real HIT workout in a while though.  Miss it.  Last time I did one, I was on high for days.  Miss that.  The back thing is what’s really been on my mind in regards to working out.  Actually, just being a fully functional human being again.  You all know that by now I guess.  My adventure was somewhat tough on the back, way too much sitting on busses and planes, so I had some catch up work to do when I got back.  Although, I have to admit, it’s still better than when I left. I definitely worked out while I was there and did a lot of stretching.  Stretching and deep tissue are the only things that can really get me out of immediate pain.  I have had all sorts of ideas on how to expediate the process and, for the most part, they have failed miserably-including my last one that I should get an adjustment from my napprapat, Frida, before my workout in an attempt to strengthen the musculature while it was sitting pretty, everything in the right place.  I was actually warned not to do that by my last chiro and I have had no success with it in the past but I figured I would try it again and it just made things worse-had to do a lot of Ingid exercises to work out those kinks.  Good thing I didn’t lose any money on it though; Frida dear gave me that one on the house.  Great Success! 

    In other news, as I’ve already mentioned, I think experimenting on myself is always the best way to figure life out.  The state my stomach is in right now is a clear indication that drinking 6-8 week old homemade kombucha with your own homemade bacterial culture is not a good idea.  I had this cool idea, which I still think is a cool idea, that instead of paying a grip on probiotics I could actually make my own awesome super probiotic for almost no money if I took a great store bought probiotic, dumped it in some kombucha minus the kombucha culture and fed it sugar.  Of course, I got a fermented probiotic drink.  Although, I don’t really have a good way of finding out if my finished product is just an amplified version of my initial ingredient or some mutant killing me from the inside out.  Let’s hope not because I’ve been drinking it for months.  No blindness or hair growing on my palms yet.

   Last, I added a ton of adventure pics to my site, so give’em a look if you feel like it.

   Well, I’m back from my much needed vacation.  Was on the Faroes for 9 days, Iceland for 6, and in the States for 12 or so, and now I’m back in Sweden and starting work again tomorrow.  The Faroes were exceptional, really breathtaking. They were so green, so wet and lush, and so dramatic I couldn’t help but be knocked out by them. In fact, I was a bit disappointed with Iceland after having been on the Faroes for the last week.  Although, I only saw 3 days worth of nature there and I don’t think I went to the coolest spot. 

    As usual, I left on my vacation wanting a great adventure and I got one.  And again, as usual, it didn’t happen when I went out looking for it, it happened accidentally like all the rest of my adventures-in an attempt to get myself out of a situation that was the result of a garunteed stupid decision.  It went a little something like this:

   I spent my last day on the Faroes on the westernmost island called Mykenes.  They call it the pearl of the Faroes, really beautiful, really dramatic, huge rocky cliffs that are probably 40 or 50 meters in some places, and maybe even more, above jagged rocks and ocean below.

   Sounds a bit hard to believe to me.  I was using a Precor elliptical type machine(a newer model, bit different) which gave me an HR reading of 180-188 for a full 20 minutes straight yesterday.  That seems a little unlikely to me.  Nonetheless, I had a great time doing it.  My feet fell asleep for the last ten minutes or so, but the rest of me was lovin it.  I don’t often do cardio although I’ve said on at least one occassion before that I am going to start doing it regularly.  Now I think I will.  Much like my new dedication to stretching(which I have kept up), cardio appeals to my sense of being a more well rounded athlete-which is pretty much the only thing that makes me work out these days.  As I’ve said on numerous occassions before, I’ve lost almost all drive to get bigger.  That’s become very unappealing to me; and part of that is due to a kind of obcessive thought or feeling I keep getting that my head will look to small for my body.  I see this all the time on guys, I wonder if I’m the only one. 

    Another reason is that I’ve become somehow very turned off by the whole ideal.  I haven’t actually thought that bigger is better for several years now…I don’t know why I should be striving for it.  My new idea as of late is to start doing things that I really think are fun and what I’ve always thought of as fun are puzzles(I did a TON of puzzles as a kid).  Right now, figuring out how to make my body work correctly and better than it has before fufills that desire.  Maybe when I get that straightened out, I’ll be turned on to competitive bodybuilding again as a means to create something visibly artistic out of something fully functional.  That’s an idea. 

   In other news, I am going on vacation this thursday.  It will be a week on the Faroe Islands, just under a week in Iceland, and then just under two weeks in the States.  I haven’t packed yet and I don’t know what I will be bringing.  I keep toying with the idea of not bringing anything, of just going and seeing what happens.  I don’t have enough money to stay anywhere, so the plan is the sleep outside.  That’s always been the plan; but I was originally planning on bringing a tent. The tent is out though.  It’s going to weigh too much and I don’t want anything that weighs a lot putting pressure on my spine.  They do have ultra light weight tents but they were out of my price range.  So we’ll see where I end up sleeping.  The thing about the Faroes and Iceland, I’ve heard, is that they are windy.  And rainy.  I do have a poncho.  In one way or another, it will get sorted out and I’ll have a great time.   

   I can’t even begin to express to you how more than happy I am with private Swedish health care.  The physical therapist I’ve been seeing has put me through the ringer with these new back movements.  They’re a combination of stretching and strenthening, both of which I am at a severe loss for in regards to my back.  Some of them are so friggin hard yet so almost astoundingly easy looking that I almost can’t believe it-and those around me probably can’t believe their ears when they hear the loud grunting noises I’m making either, given the seemingly apparent easiness of these ’supercises’.  In addition to loud grunting noises, I swear a lot.  This helps get me through my set.  If I blame the pain on something other than myself-usually the piece of equipment or some part of my body(which I consider outside of myself). 

   My shoulders, my dear Ingrid, are also friggin wrecked.  Wrecked in a good way, but wrecked.  Some of these movements require me to hold a broomstick of sorts behind my back with good posture(something entirely foreign to me) and keep it there for up to several minutes at a time while I labor laboriously bending and contorting myself into positions remarkably reminiscent of highschool cheerleading.  This is what I always wanted. 

   But the back, my friends, is feeling much better.  It really is.  All complaining aside, I am so thankful to have been given the motivation to actually do something about this problem once and for all and then to encounter such great people in the process who are all more than capable of helping me.  And by the way, the motivation was me hurting it again, bad enough this time to really get my attention.   Surprise surprise, a negative becomes a positive. 

  I did a minor crushing of the legs yesterday.  Two sets of plate runs(which, once agin, if you haven’t tried, you are missing out), a set of YoYo leg curls, a set of lateral walks, and some abductor/adductor work.  They’ve been minorly sore all day.  Might be getting a little worse as I write this.  For those who don’t know, which is probably most of you, there is a new technology in town.  It’s called YoYo technology.  To be honest, we only have two pieces of that kind of equipment at our gym and one of the two is pretty damn shakey, but the other is up there in the excellent category.  It works like this: there’s a resistance wheel which is attached to a belt which is attached to the lever.  As you pull on the lever, the belt spins the resistance wheel with however much force you applied.  As the belt reaches it’s limit(at the very top of the movement), it yanks the wheel back in the other direction with that same amount of resistance.  Like a YoYo.  Very good if you want to concentrate on the eccentric portion of the movement.  Also a very cool feel.   

   Tomorrow I’m gonna crush some upper body.  Tonight, in about two minutes I’m gonna crush some raw sailor’s beef, some chopped onions, some watercres, some parsley, some olive oil and some raw butter.  For the time being, I’ve taken any kind of ground meat out of the nutritional plan.  It just wasn’t sitting that well.  Chopped up meat, on the other hand, sits real well. 

   Haven’t heard that song in a looooong time.  Haven’t heard that band in a long time.  Live win, dare fail, eat the dirt and bite the nail-I like that.  Funny people moaning about post Black album Metallica not being very heavy. Post black album was when that band got heavy. They slowed down a whole lot, but they they were crushin the scales with lyrical weight and new found base lines.  My opinion anyway.  Don’t believe me?, compare Until it Sleeps or King Nothing with any of their speed metal tunes from back in the day.  Way heavier.  I like it all though…kind of.  These days I find myself pretty sensitive to negativity in music.  Haha, I find myself at the front desk of my gym A LOT more often than before asking to change the music.   

   The last week has been focused on back rehab, and all, I must say, is lookin up.  I’m actually really impressed with Swedish physical therapists.  I had my first official visit to one yesterday for my back(DEFINITELY not my first visit to a physical therapist) and I left feeling damn good.  Damn good.  Really positive experience.  Thank you Ingrid.  Thank you Frida for referring me.  Couple of highlights:using deadlifts and even running(haven’t been able to run in forever) as therapeutic exercises and getting a new Mckenzie adjustment exercise-actually the missing link I’ve been looking for for a couple of years now.  Thank God.  And I do.  Funny that it came in the package it did-as a ’set up’ to the other exercise…this is something that has a lot of meaning to me because lately I have been learning a lot of lessons having to do with just that-making things work by setting them up correctly and then doing whatever it is I have to do.  Candida is a perfect example, prebiotics then probiotics. 

   In other news, I did only a minor crushing of the legs yesterday, given that I was being careful in regards to the back.  I’ve pretty much made the decision to live and train for physical health first and goals/accomplishments second.  In the back of my mind, I feel like the latter are still important to me, but they’re just not going to be achieved if I don’t get this body in working order.  I mean, I was thinking about it yesterday and I have pain in pretty much all my bodyparts.  A lot of us experienced trainees do. 

    I did a 473.25 deadlift when I was 15 and tore ligaments in my lower back, now have problems with herniating discs.  Before that I had shoulder impingements and still do.  During that same time I started developing forearm and bicep problems that I still have and still haven’t gotten diagnosed.  I have periodic elbow pain.  I just started getting occassional pec pain.  One of my calves is half the size of the other and cramps roughly half the time I try to flex it.  I’ve torn my hamstring once and my gastroc twice. Tears are no joke, bud.  I think that just about covers it, but shit, that’s a lot.  I’m actually glad I listed it all out just now.  I’m just 25.  That’s a lot.  I need to take care of this body!  People wonder why I live the way I do…I have to! 

   Last, I found myself in two somewhat heavy conversations yesterday and the day before, I believe it was.  Yesterday’s was really heavy.  Funny thing though, for one of the very first time’s in my life I left the conversation with a point to drive down people’s throats still in my throat.  I said something that might have made me seem less positive in the eyes of others regarding something that was said at the very end of the discussion and after a moment, I decided to just let it rest.  I think the others are more than capable of putting two and two together given everything else I said in the same conversation and given my energy.  That was a bit of a test for me…to just be quiet.  I need to do a lot more of that.  Life is probably helping me by putting me in a country in which the language is still difficult for me. 

   The other conversation was about bodybuilding.  Funny, for the second time in a couple of months I found myself quietly defending the very people I tend to dislike more than others-bodybuilders.  It started with me saying my usual schpeal about how I tend to see bbers today and immediately think ‘what are you doing, why are you wearing what you are wearing, why are you acting the way you are acting, why have you decided to de-masculinize your own body and then try to pass it off for the exact opposite…what are you compensating for?’ 

    So I got all that out of my system and then, surprisingly, I found myself thinking ‘wait a second, why does anyone do anything?’ ’what motivates anyone to do anything?’  Well the answer I’ve come up with is curiousity coupled with some kind of want, or in other words, lack.  I think the reason most everyone does everything can be boiled down to trying to compensate for some kind of lack…the most enlightened of all people only lacking a sense of satisfaction or maybe even just fun-doing things just because they are bored…but the vast majority seem to do things because we are in some kind of significant discomfort based in fear and separation from what I would call the source, or God.  Most people have spread out their compensation over a wide variety of acts and avenues to feeling good, but some have put all the compensation into just one or two things-which sets them apart from the rest, maybe making them stand out as weird or even dysfunction in a way…but I think all boiled down, they are not that different at all from anyone else in regards to their need to compensate.  I think you’ll find that most of the people we consider to be the best of the best in anything share this single avenue quality.  From music to sports, maybe even to charity. 

  Just some thoughts… 

    That’s alright, a lot of good comes out of failure.  So I went to the wedding the other day, fasted all day till about 7, which started feeling pretty dang good right about then.  Then we went in for the banquet and I quickly realized that instead of it being a serve yourself kind of deal, it was a sit down and get served three proper courses type of meal with arranged seating and everything, which then made it harder for me to continue my fast given that it was going to draw attention to myself and seem somewhat rude, imo.  Of course, I could have done it, but at that particular moment, doing that was out of my comfort zone.  Kind of embarassing after everything that I wrote in my last entry, but I’m manning up now to clear the air and get back on track officially.

   Otherwise, of course, everything’s been good.  I ate great yesterday-had some raw lamb filet and that was surprisingly good.  I’m going to eat that more often, lots of fat on it.  Anyone who eats the way I do knows that fat is a most prized possession.  Everything is so anti-fat today that getting meat, organic meat, that hasn’t been stripped of it is like finding a goldmine.  These butchers and grocery stores don’t know what they’re throwing away when they callously trash pounds and pounds of organ meat and fat.  I would gladly pay for just the fat and the organs.  In fact, lately, at least one if not two of my daily meals consist of only fat. 

   In other news, I had a phenomenal time yesterday with my friends from work doing a physical/mental team challenge at the castle in Vaxholm.  Really fun challenges, specifically one where you had to make your way across a dark stone room, swinging on chains, to retrieve a key and put it back in it’s rightful place.  Part of the difficulty there was not just getting across the room but also getting back because by then your other teammates occupied most of the chains behind you that you needed to get back on while you were using the ones they needed to get there on.  Interestingly, my back does not feel nearly as permanently damaged as I thought it was going to feel today.  In fact, I dare say that it feels better than it did the day before!  I was relatively sure that all the running and wild movements were going to leave me with a blog that went something like this: ‘Hi guys, I’m quittting bodybuilding as I can no longer feel my legs.  Tack och hej, leverpastej."  Although, this idea that every new moment is just another oppurtunity to create whatever you want was one that was running through my mind right before we got started so I thought that if I stretched really well before the day’s activities maybe that would re-align me to an extent, which it did, and also free up some formerly paralyzed muscle tissue surrounding the disc to be used and strengthened with these very likely wild and flailing movements, thus making the situation even better, which it did!  Great Success!  In all seriousness, I was really apprehensive yesterday.  I was 100% sure that I was going to do serious damage.  Running+Paul does not usually=Great Success.

   Another great success for the day was eating with the team.  I don’t know how much everyone enjoyed watching me eat my raw lamb filet, but I enjoyed feeling somewhat comfortable eating it with them as they ate their food.  It has been too long since I did that.  Whereas before I was always eating the raw meat in public places to get the attention of others, lately I have been only eating it at home specfically to avoid the attention of others.  The first two stages served their purpose but now it’s time to start bringing everything back into reality, to start diffusing back into society and giving people the oppurtunity to accept me for me.  Nice feeling, new feeling. 

  Good morning, good morning, good morning!  Nice to see you, thank you for coming.  I’ve realized something in the last few days.  Something that I’ve, of course, known logically for quite some time but hadn’t actually REAL-ized, that hadn’t actually diffused into my whole body just yet.  That is that many of the ‘mental’ problems people are suffering from, are actually physical problems resulting from poor nutrition and lack of sleep.  And I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that chronic anger is the biggest one and depression is the next biggest, often being a result of the anger.  I think, though, that a lot of people’s mental issues are the braindead child of chronic self inflicted physical abuse-not just depression and anger, but a whole slew of things that plenty of people take plenty of perscription drugs for, which, by the way, happen to end up in our waterways leaving us with toxic fish and dead plantlife.  

   With the exception of last night, because of an awesome conversation I had with my now ex Kristina, I have decided that for the time being it’s best that I start getting ready for bed at 8 and try and close my eyes by 9.15-9.30 or so.  I’m doing this, not because I particularly like it, but because roughly twice a week I have to wake up at 6 to train someone at 7 and if I were to only try and go to bed early on those nights, I would never be able to fall asleep.  Hence, the early bedtime every night.  I’ve also been eating great lately.  I mean really great, and I’m enjoying it.  In fact, a couple of times, I’ve walked by people eating junk and I’ve actually been very thankful that I ‘don’t have to do that.’  That I have come to the point in my life where I can actually turn my back for good or close to good if I want.  That I don’t have to be driven by that urge to act and kill myself slowly.  Now THAT, my friends, is a nice feeling.  The whole goal right now is to get inspiringly healthy; and, as I said in my last post, if I have to miss out on a couple of things because of it, then that’s what’s going to have to happen right now.  You make sacrifices in life for the greater good.

    I’ve noticed in these last couple of days, as my energy levels have been steadily increasing along with my dislike for low energy that I am actually in control over how I feel.  That even when falling into the old patterns of anger and resentment, I can say to myself ‘I don’t actually have to feel this way right now’ and then, seemingly magically to me, stop feeling that way.  This has never happened to me before.  In fact, I’ve always been a kind of slave to certain emotions-anger and frustration being the big ones.  Maybe because they’ve been the driving force in my life for so long.  They’ve been very useful, those two emotions, but I think it’s time to go.  It’s time for me to start doing things because I want to do things rather than doing things because I desperately don’t want the negation of those things.  There’s a damn big difference between those two motivating factors.  

   In other news, the workouts have been pretty stellar.  Did upperbody/lowerbody sessions this week and I’ll probably continue doing that for a few weeks.  It seems to me that one of the main issues with fullbody sessions and taking so many days off is that the growth hormonal effect on the body is not as great as with the daily sessions. I’m not just talking GH here, I’m talking testosterone as well.  I notice that when I do at least something daily, I’m a bit more like the person I’ve always identified with and when I train just 2x weekly, I’m a bit more subdued.  Having said that, it counts even if it’s just stretching, some cardio, and just a bit of strength training for a smaller muscle groups like forearms or neck or calves. 

    Anyway, I have a wedding to go to and I have a wrinkly suit that needs ironing.  I’m fasting today…we’ll see how that goes over at the banquet. Ha!