Being a Father Can be “Special” if you are man enough !!!
On Oct 1994 I was faced with the most difficult decission i my life ! The doctors were giving me facts and stats that were going in one ear and out the othe, because all I could think of Was..”I just lost my first born”..my Baby was gone… You see my oldest daughter May she rest in Peace had struggled and battled “Lupus” for 4yrs…and with complications that comes with this disease..she developed a weak heart…so There I was faced with the decission..of How to move -on..( because a child should never leave this life before their Parent !) ,,My inner strenght came to me in the form of a whispered message in my ear from my Mom…and she said; “Baby…mourn..but don’t waddle…cry, but don’t lose site…You have 2 more babies that are confused and going to need your Strenght too…and from there I pick my dates/and nights to mourn and cry…but I had to be there for my other 2 kids..and being a single dad,…it has matured me in ways un-imaginable…and I thank GOD for giving me the strenght..to be there for them.because I’m Happy to say..My daughter is 25 and lives in MN. and my son (21).just graduated from Morehouse with Honors and lkivces in Atlanta….So being a dad is Special…”ONLY” if you have the strenght to step up and claim this prize !!!!
Carlos !!!
June 21, 2009 at 11:54 am
Happy Father’s Day!! =)
June 21, 2009 at 11:55 am
Happy Fathers Day!
June 21, 2009 at 12:01 pm
Wow, yes u need strength to be a dad.
Glad to hear that u’re proud of the others, and that you made it through.
Happy father’s day big
Sincerely
Lucas
June 21, 2009 at 12:04 pm
Thanks Fam !!
It’s good to know that "WE" step up to the biggest challenge of Our Lives !!!
June 21, 2009 at 1:50 pm
Carlos, thank you for sharing your story.
You are living proof of the immense strength needed to be a real father. Your kids and grandbaby are blessed to have you. From your example your son knows how to be a father, and your daughter knows not to expect anything but the best.
Happy Fathers day gorgeous
June 21, 2009 at 1:53 pm
Thank you so Much Porsha.. and May God Bless you for your strenght as well!!!
June 21, 2009 at 2:54 pm
Incredible inner strength and an amazing example to your children.Happy Fathers day
June 21, 2009 at 5:01 pm
I know there isn’t a day that goes by that you don’t think of your daughter and I’m sure days such as this are bittersweet for you….a celebration of the children here with you but pain for the daughter you lost. We also lost a child……my stepson lost his battle with a brain tumor 10 yrs ago at age 13……and like you, we had to continue as best we could to enjoy life with the other 3 children we have.
June 21, 2009 at 5:18 pm
Truly thru the grace of God he gives us the strength to be able to pick ourselves back up and hold ourselves together for our love ones. Being that you were a single father was the most hardest challenge for you in your life! Yet you accomplished it and so much more! Your son and daughter are surely proud of you, and I am sure that are successful because of you! Im sure as far as you beloved daughter in heaven…she is looking down at you and saying"Great Job Daddy!" As tears come down to hear your story.. it is truly a blessing to hear it on Father’s Day…especially since this is my 2nd year without my Dad..I have more strength thru you today..to keep my head up and go on ..if you can do it..so can I!!!
Thank you Carlos very much!
God Bless you and your family always!
XOXO ISABELHOTROD
June 21, 2009 at 5:41 pm
Thank you for sharing your story, Carlos. You certainly have provided a wonderful example of strength and compassion for your familly! The true definition of strength is when we feel we can not go on but yet we are able to dig down deep into ourselves to move forward….you have definitely proven your strength and compassion! Happy fathers day, my friend! Carolyn
June 21, 2009 at 7:25 pm
I want to thank you for the "Wonderful Comments" you all have truly embraced me ..and with this Bitter-sweet Day..I am exceptionaly Proud to call you ladies & Guys Friends…thank you !
Carlos
June 21, 2009 at 9:26 pm
I too lost a child, but at birth. I know how you feel. Congrats on how well your children have done! Happy fathers day!
June 21, 2009 at 10:26 pm
Awwwwwwwwww Carlos your story makes me want to give you a HUGE hug! Just for being you. I can’t even imagine going through what you and the others have from losing a child.
I’ve had two miscarriages and after that I was never lucky enough to have a child. God had other plans for me I guess but it’s still difficult when Mother’s Day comes around, I’m always reminded of what could have been.
You have two children who are lucky to have you as their Dad! You have a beautiful and loving heart and soul my friend. It’s such a blessing to have met you on here.
I hope your day was both a beautiful and memorable one ~ Connie
June 22, 2009 at 12:00 pm
Carlos: I knew we shared a similar bond. The love of our children irregardless of circumstance. My son is 20 and was born with cerebral palsy and a Dandy Walker Cyst on his Cerebelum. I am blessed to have him and in my trials and tribulations I and I am sure you also value what is most important…. living and breathing and loving if only for a few seconds, it can transcend all time and imbeds in our soul and in the souls of others. You are beautiful for sharing! Your friend Juliet
June 27, 2009 at 6:58 pm
Carlos, I’ve always said that any man can be a father, but it takes a strong special man to be a ‘daddy’, you sir, are that man. Thank you for sharing this with us. You are a shining example to your son! I know my comment is a week late, but I hope your Father’s Day was wonderful!
June 27, 2009 at 7:05 pm
Thank You very Much ! it was something That I needed to share "Especialy on that particular Day"..I wish More Fathers/Dads would step up to the plate and be a guiding figure for "Our Children" !!
God Bless You !!
August 5, 2009 at 9:24 pm
nice post! Props to you….and your kiddos!!
August 5, 2009 at 9:27 pm
god is love!
whatever u do work at it with all ur heart as working for the lord not for men
-colossians 3:23
August 5, 2009 at 9:32 pm
I truly want to thank "ALL" my bb.com family and I can only hope that this meesage reaches and touch Father’s 2B..and those who are already Dads…Keep showing those children the "Way"
Thank you !
August 9, 2009 at 10:46 pm
Your story has touched my heart. I am so sorry you have to live this life without your daughter. I can only imagine the pain. I commend you for picking up the pieces of your shattered heart and "choosing" to appear strong for your children. I imagine the difficulty of raising children as a broken man, by yourself without a partner.
You, my man have left a legacy of strength to those children, and it has nothing to do with those ripped muscles all over your body=)
August 12, 2009 at 9:30 pm
Thank you so Much Tracey…they are a Blessing ! (children)