This is a selfish sport.
So I say this is a selfish sport. Yes, it is. What is one of the most common answers for a persons success? They say that they never miss a workout. If I do, I make it up on my off day. When my girlfriend and I started dating over 6 months ago, i was lifting everyday. 1030 every night i would lift and then i would call her or go to her place. I hurt my shoulder and quit lifting for 6 months. She got me whenever she wanted me. Everyday. Well I also gained 40 lbs of fat back. I got to feeling horrible like I was going to die. Not kidding. Leg pain from poor circulation. Hard time breathing as I have asthma and being fat does not go well with that. I just felt depressed and worried that i would develop diabetes. I used to run 5 miles a day, lift every day, and count every calorie and protein gram that I ate. I am an ALL or NOTHING person. I quit lifting so I let the rest go also. I tried a few times to get back on track but she just wasnt flexible with the fact that i have to lift every day. I told her you tell me when, morning, afternoon, evening: pick one and that will be the time that I lift. And I will lift that time and only that time, but everyday. She still didn’t go for it. Well 3 weeks ago, my best friend told me he has been lifting weights at the highschool where he works and wants my help to improve. Well I am a stubborn know it all so this is perfect for me. I can tell this guy what to do and look smart. I do know what I am doing, I am just making the point that it keeps me motivated because now I have to answer to him and show up for him. This has been an amazing 3 weeks, we have not missed one workout. I am back on my game. I havent quit got all the running and calorie counting in yet but it is getting there. Today, OMG, our lifting cut into visiting my girlfriend. She gets so pissed. I always try to be done before she gets off work so that I can go spend time with her and her daughter. I work tomorrow morning so i didn’t think i was expected to go over there tonight, so i waited until GJr was off work before we went to lift late. She called me all pissed off and says, I don’t always have to lift with him. I told her this is how and works and I try to work it out always but it cant be 100%. She text me and told me she was done and not to call her. She thinks this stuff is always happening. Well this is a selfish sport, but I am happy and healthy finally, and thats more important. If she wants to be selfish in life and have all her time with me and disregard my health, fine. Goodbye then. I love her to death. I may want to cry over losing her. But I have cried over my health when it was at it’s worse and I thought I was headed somewhere very bad healthwise. My health has scared the shit out of me. I have survived love. But no one survives poor health. This is a selfish sport, or is the world to selfish to give us what we deserve.
No excuses, take no chances
We will all get there…
June 5, 2007 at 10:13 pm
Man, I know her type well. To well. It won’t stop unless you pull out. Maker her realize what she has lost, that she can’t control you by throughing a temper tantrum. Your not selfish at all man, first comes your health. She should love you all the more for getting healthy FOR HER (for you too), but it is to make sure you are around in the future. Why can’t she see that? If she TRULY loved you, she would let you be you and stop trying to mold you into what she want’s. Sounds like she is the selfish one. She should want you to be healthy and happy, that’s what a loving partner does. Sorry, didn’t mean to but into your personal stuff, but I’ve BEEN there bro, it’s not fun, what ever the direction. Good luck man and keep lifting. Keep getting healthy, you only live once, make the most of it. Later bud.
June 6, 2007 at 2:28 pm
Thanks bro. I am not stopping this time. My best friend and I are in this together now. We no longer answer to ourselves.
June 21, 2007 at 9:43 pm
That’s awsome, it’s nice to have the support of someone who is right there doing it w/ you, who understands and knows what you are going through. How’s it going?