This site and other’s views
Alright, I feel i need to write a little something about this site and how people not involved in this site might perceive it. This is intended as a vent, so if you don’t want to hear me get a little disgruntled, you might want to stop reading and go view another happier blog.
I have found that in certain circles in my non-virtual life, this site is being viewed as something other than how I view it. So, I want to be very clear to those that may read this outside of the bb.com membership. This site is not a place for me to meet men. This site is not a place for me to flaunt myself. This site is not a place for me to hide or to act young again…. This site is not a replacement for my real-life relationships…. This site IS a place I go to for motivation. It is a place I go to to learn about the sport that I truly enjoy. It is a place I go to for encouragement and to help encourage others. It is a place that I can discuss workouts, rest, recovery, supplementation, etc. It is also a place where I have met real people in very different sets of situations, yet have found a common bond with in the world of excercise….
Please know that is what this site is about…and if you have a hard time believing it, that is not for me to worry about…. you have the truth now….Now, I realize that others may use this site for something other than this…. however, if you know me, REALLY know me in my non-virtual life, I would expect for you to not throw me under the bus, but rather support me and my sport… it is sad that you don’t.
July 4, 2008 at 6:53 am
It’s a shame BS is being viewed as another myspace or facebook or even match.com, or compared with mybodysite.com, when in fact it’s the anti-myspace.. everyone here is real.. in real battles.. looking for real support and motivation.. you are so right in what we get from this site.. camaraderie with like minded people… BS changes peoples lives… I’ve read a few rants such as this lately and the fact that we have to interrupt our progress and flow with these disclaimers is crazy.. I’ve never experienced this first hand, but I can only imagine what you guys who look good go through!…
Now back to your regularly scheduled workout!!!
July 4, 2008 at 7:03 am
I hear you girl!! I’m here for motivation myself and it’s a great site for that. Keep doing what you do and let the haters continue to hate!!
July 4, 2008 at 7:19 am
This is the age we are in. We are a generation that can form support groups that surpass geography, race and economics. This site connects people of like mind with the central focus of fitness. It is sites like these that provide an option to social clubs, meeting on a week night with only a few select.
I started off fat and frumpy when I joined this site. Yes a few bozos messaged me with inappropriate comments/suggestions, but no response meant that they went somewhere else to find likeminded bozos. In the meantime, true normal people like me with the hopes and aspirations of getting fitter started to connect. People like Julie. Julie has helped me so much (through her blogs, her e-mails and her random acts of kindness). If it wasn’t for this site, I would definitely have given up a long time ago.
My in-person friends are great, but fitness is not their thing, so I would have not have reached my fitness goals. I needed friends of like mind and this site provided me with that.
If you are insecure about your friendship with Julie then perhaps this site has helped you as well. For you to cause her so much angst and sorrow over a thing like this could mean that there was instability in your relationship with her in the first place. Check yourself.
Also, I don’t appreciate you reading Julie’s blogs and causing her grief. My husband is not part of this site and would never be (he is just not interested) but he reads my blogs from time to time. He uses some of the information as conversation starters and to remind me of my goals when I am slacking. Why don’t you try the same? See the positive? Julie has in no way been appropriate so far. If so, she wouldn’t be my friend.
You really need to do your own soul searching before you tear someone else down. What would make you feel better? If we were a support group meeting in person? Maybe we should…Maybe once a year, the tight circle of friends should get together…maybe we would connect even more and then you will really lose out. Don’t cause this on yourself. If you want to be a part of this, then come on into our circle!! We are dorky, cool, hardworking parents who just want to achieve our health and fitness goals.
If you are a professional colleague of Julie, double shame on you. What right do you have to spend hours pouring into Julie’s personal life without truly knowing her? On what grounds do you have to make judgements on her? Hurt people, hurt people. Go find problems in your own family life to solve. We all have work to do.
So Please stop tearing Julie down. You have no right to do this. This is the age we are in. A technology age. Get with the program…bb.com is here to stay and this particular circle of friends isn’t going anywhere.
Julie, never mind them. They are just jealous.
July 4, 2008 at 7:22 am
Like you said my friend those who really know you and knows what you’re about and what you stand for knows why you’re here. Those that don’t or aren’t interested in knowing don’t matter.
July 4, 2008 at 8:53 am
Hey Jul,
I don’t even want to know who or what situation made you feel you had to write that.
I am sorry that there are ignorant and judgemental people out there that are giving you a hard time about this site.
I am also happy to hear your thoughts on the subject. I am 100% in agreement and I am here for the same reasons. In fact, you are one of my first bb.com friends, for I was impressed with your blog, your profile and, of course, you know I covet your legs…lol.
I live in a small village…yes a village of farmers and down to earth people. Nice folks, but nobody is interested in fitness. If I didn’t have this site I would have no support. I would not have been able to make the progress I have made…which is the most progress I have made in years. I thank you and a few other cool people I have met on this site. I take what I want and ignore the rest. I also get so much out of supporting others, that has also been key in my success.
Thanks for vent…it was a very enlightening and classy…just like you.
jennifer
July 4, 2008 at 3:39 pm
Jules you have some spirit girl! I love that. I’m so glad you’re my friend. I’m like JJ and not sure what you’re going through but…..I am in total agreement with you! Unitl BB I lacked positive workout relationships because our gym is full of guys…and although they are totally great great guys….it is such a bonus to have other professional women to encourage and be encouraged by that share in my love of clean eating and fitness! VENT AWAY SISTER….WE GOT YOUR BACK!!!!
July 4, 2008 at 4:07 pm
AMEN SISTER!
July 4, 2008 at 7:18 pm
wow that is so true and i double what every one has said. I love this site. The friends i have made are inspirational including you Juls. Dont worry about some comments. People will always say things. Let it go and remain focused and comments are usually made out of jealousy.
Hopefully you will see how much more this is in a postive way versus negtive…smile and keep on bloggin you are loved.
July 5, 2008 at 10:09 am
Well said……those folk who have decided to spend their time "judging" motives and looking for something that does not exist should consider putting their energy into more positive, uplifting endeavors. But, there will always be those who are so soured in life that they will always look for a ways to try and bring others down so they can seemingling lift themselves up. These are not "friends" but folk who are out to satisfy their own agendas…….let it roll off your back and keep being who you are! You have been a wonderful inspiration to many; so as they say, don’t let a few bad apples spoil the bunch. My sense is that these are jealous attacks and if this or these inidviduals really cared, you would know it.
July 6, 2008 at 12:22 pm
You said it! I rarely talk about this site to anyone besides my boyfriend, who understands what it is for. All that matters is what you think! Thanks for all your motivation.
July 6, 2008 at 1:09 pm
well put, jules. Best blog I have read in a long time.
July 7, 2008 at 4:17 pm
I’ve found this community very supportive, and I try to support my limited# of online friends. An outsider looking in would be blown away by the sensual nature of this site. And I’m sure there are many opportunistic people on this site as well, but their circles, and my circles don’t cross paths.
July 8, 2008 at 8:30 am
Juls, you are one of the most honest, genuine, positive people I *know*–true, we have never met in person, but the support you have given me and your truly caring personality is very real. I’m sorry you felt you had to write this blog, I’m sorry others are judging you without knowing you. It’s honestly a shame. Chin up girl, you know the truth, and those that matter know the truth–let the rest slide off and keep to their jealousy. And I second Suzy’s words…you are loved.
Be well.
July 8, 2008 at 12:38 pm
Well, if we were in cyberworld-i’d have to do a round house kick and beat that ass! Excuse my mouth! i hate ignornat people. either say something nice or stf up! geezz…(adn that F is for Fudge!) i dont get it! do you! Live the life you deserve, online-off line! whatever the case maybe! no one can judge you but God! people have alooooot of nerve! i don’t do myspace or any of that otehr crap…i come here for motivation, giggles, and all sorts of stuff. granted i happened to meet my b.friend here, but i wasn’t looking and neither was he. we started off as friends and through that long friendship, a beautiful relationship bloomed!
be blessed hun and keep doing YOU!