I have been wondering…
Sometimes I wonder…. how much importance do i put on my perception of what others think of me? And is that bad, normal, odd, unrealistic, unhealthy, etc. to do so?
Is my personal quest for transformation geniune to me, or is it deep-rooted in my never-ending desire to get affirmation from others? And what in goodness sake’s name makes a person care so much about affirmation or being liked? Was it something in my upbringing….in my past relationships….or is it just integral to my core?
Is it selfish to feel these things, weakness, or a sign of a person that wants to please?? And even bigger….can you be so concerned about pleasing another that you forget what it is you really want and like?
Okay…enough random thinking….
Had a great leg workout this morning….with my best gal…. man, it makes it easier to do this with someone else…thank goodness for her!!!!
Did some supersetting and really put the emphasis on those glutes….(mentally, I keep willing my butt to lift…will see if that part of the training helps - LOL) Will plan to get an hour of cardio in sometime later…still going to focus on toasting those legs… 
Have been working more now that school is in full-swing. Love my job and love that it is flexible so I can do my gym thing AND be with my three little loves!!! I find the days that I work, eating clean is no problem. Its days that I am home working that I have a hard time keeping my nose clean. Still seeing gains, even with my minor slips, but this Sat. I am 5 weeks out…need to buckle down and take joy the fact that these next few weeks will show the biggest changes.( if i am good)
Plan to take pics today…looking forward to seeing if there are any changes….there has been in my clothes so…. I am optimistic!!!
September 14, 2007 at 5:50 am
I feel it is normal to feel one needs acceptance from others. It’s something we all deal with at sometime. I have been guilty of that in a major way. Then I realized and remember others don’t matter. In my life there are only 2 people that I need to worry about, in terms of who or what I am, myself and God. If I live to please God I know I can be pleased with myself. (Sorry to get spiritual on you but thats what I felt)
September 14, 2007 at 5:57 am
Alright. Breathe. You’re perfectly normal lol. In fact, part of this, I’m going to be covering in an upcomming blog myself. It is OK to seek approval from others in fact, it’s instinctive to us since we are social creatures that have always depended on the whole (pack, community, you get the idea) for survival. As such, it is intrinsic to our nature to recieve feedback on an action to determine it’s possible impact.
It’s also biology that we would want to be incorporated into and accepted by the community.
When this becomes unhealthy is when we give up our personal values and identity in order to achieve it. Perspectives, views, opinions will change but the core of who you are should not.
Just my take
Dave
September 14, 2007 at 6:05 am
I know that my drive comes from what others think of me…… have to be honest! I know I would not work this hard if I thought no one would see. I have always been a short guy….. you know that small guy in school that girls thought was cute…… in a small way.. not like I would date you way….lol Well I figure if I will never be tall , I will be large other ways to get nocticed. Now I have been married 13 years and have 3 boys…. So I know this is just a inner-personal battle I’m fighting… I always have liked a good fight.
Great Blog….. keep it up!
September 14, 2007 at 6:31 am
It’s natural to care and feel good about self acceptance. If we didn’t the fashion and beauty industry wouldn’t be a multi-million dollar business. However, once you feel good, I mean REALLy good about yourself(from within), it doesn’t matter what your body looks like, you will walk down the street with the confidence of a Hollywood star at a premiere, even if you’re going to your kids’ soccer game with your sweats on and a ponytail.
:)
September 14, 2007 at 7:04 am
great blog!! really funny and interesting! keep it on!
September 14, 2007 at 7:19 am
LOL Love the blog…. have a great day!!!
September 14, 2007 at 7:23 am
I think that if we took a poll of the membership here and asked them to state the number one reason why they started a fitness program the overwhelming answer would be because they didn’t like the way they looked. Translation…..they didn’t like the way they looked to others. I mean who isn’t flattered to be the object of someones desire??
September 17, 2007 at 10:14 pm
Girl, I am willing for your booty to lift too.