The Assault On Macho Men Round 4 - Homophobia
A common trait of the Macho Man is Homophobia. The hatred and misunderstanding of gay people runs through the veins of every machismo king on the planet. It’s ridiculous, close minded, and hilarious all at once. My question has always been simple. What’s the use?
The Burning Question…Why Hate Gay People?
Of all things to be uptight and afraid of this one confuses me the most. Gay men choose to live their own lives and take on male partners. I won’t ever be able to figure out why they do (but they do)! With that being said I have to ask "Who Cares?". Seriously, why is it any of YOUR concern who a person chooses to date, marry, or congregate with.
Living in Atlanta makes it virtually impossible to avoid gay people. A major pride parade and weekend are hosted here. An entire section of downtown is populated by gay people. With that said I’ve seen way too many macho men get wrapped up in ridiculing gay men. Before I got a clue about life I used to think their jokes were funny. Then I woke up and realized it was childish.
If you’re a man that makes fun of gay men here’s a question. How can you hate someone so intensely based on the way they live their lives?
What to do if/when a gay man hits on you
Before I continue I have 2 pieces of information I must share:
- I’m not gay
- I’ve been hit on by gay men
Yes I’m a straight man defending gay men on a masculine web site. Shoot me.
The first time a gay man hit on me I was furious. My blood was boiling beneath the surface. My eyes filled with rage and I balled my hands into two tight fists. I was embarrassed beyond belief and I felt violated in a way that I still can’t put into words. My better judgement kept me from getting into a fight that day.
The 2nd time a gay man hit on me I was surprised. He “stalked” me for a short while before I let it be known the interest wasn’t mutual.
The 3rd time a gay man hit on me I laughed. I learned to take their passes for what they were and move on. The event in and of itself isn’t life changing at all. It’s good for a quick story, not for a life long crusade against gay men.
Conclusion
If you’re a macho man with homophobia here’s some advice:
- Grow Up
- Respect People for who they are
- Realize 99.99999% of gay men are never going to bother you
- Grow Up
- Have a conversation with a gay man (He’s a person too)
- Figure out why you hate/fear gay men
- Grow Up
- Knit a sweater
- Remind yourself that 99.99999% of gay men are never going to bother you
- Grow Up!!
Homophobia is by far one of the most ridiculous things I’ve come across in my lifetime. If you’re an adult macho man and you hate gay men get your act together. They aren’t out to conquer (or even threaten) the world you live in.
Me - 4 
Macho Men - 0
The assault on macho men only gets better next week.
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October 23, 2007 at 6:51 pm
Word
October 23, 2007 at 6:53 pm
(judges score card)
"This post was gay."
i KEED!
Hey, agreed on all counts. Seriously, you’ve got to admire ANYONE who can find a relationship that works. More power to ‘em.
I do, however, hold some bitterness at the fact that they’re aren’t - to my knowledge - Heterosexual Pride Parades and I can’t enjoy a rainbow sticker on my car for fear that women will scratch me off my already tenuous position on the date worthy men list.
Anyway.
October 23, 2007 at 6:55 pm
I hold greater bitterness over the fact that I used "they’re" instead of "there."
Signed,
Curt - straight, but grammar impaired
October 23, 2007 at 10:35 pm
Well said.
Curt, good catch on the grammar!
October 24, 2007 at 2:39 pm
Good blog my man…you always tell it like it is!! Much appreciated!! I did an entire presentation in college over this very subject!
October 24, 2007 at 4:34 pm
True, but nothing like a good gay joke.
October 24, 2007 at 7:39 pm
Bryan thats interesting. What class did you do it for?
October 24, 2007 at 9:37 pm
I’m complimented when anyone finds me attractive enough to make a pass at me. Hey, it’s better than being so ugly, you have to sneak up on a glass of water.
October 26, 2007 at 7:50 am
I don’t care for the topic you have written on, but I do like your writing style. Good Blog. You should do well in your public speaking aspirations.
October 26, 2007 at 5:41 pm
Thanks man. I really appreciate it.
October 28, 2007 at 1:48 pm
This blog tickled me. I do not understand homophobia, the backlash around gay marriage, and general anti-gay sentiment. My first reaction to the whole, "If a gay man came on to me, I’d..blah, blah..blah.." is "Don’t flatter yourself’.They suddenly become victims, swearing gay people are indiscriminate sex machines who prey on unwilling, unsuspecting heterosexual males.
Anway, I enjoyed your blog, as usual, and waiting to see what you write about next.