Married BBers? How do you do it?
Thursday, May 31st, 2007I assume that many of my friends may have noticed that I haven’t been active online in 4 days. Well there’s a reason for this. My boyfriend from Germany is here for a week and for some silly reason I thought that I could continue my normal routine as usual. **BUZZ** WRONG!
Before my boyfriend got here I told him that I have a routine that must not be broken. I told him that I go to the gym every morning Monday – Friday and sometimes on Saturday. Now even though I told him this in German over the phone he said he understood but when he gets here it’s a different story. Every morning when I prepare for the gym he starts to complain about me leaving, how lonely he is when I am gone, why can’t I do this when he goes back to Germany?…….blah, blah, blah! He got away with his guilt tactic the second day he was here but after that I just ignored him and went to the gym anyway. Then last night he wanted to go to the pub. So we go and he orders a beer while I order cranberry juice. He asked me to drink with him and I lift up my glass of cranberry juice and said that this is a drink. Of course he wants me to drink something with alcohol in it but I refuse. The good news about all of this is that he’s in a hotel for a week before he goes back to Germany. Yup! I made my boyfriend get a nice hotel suite instead of staying in my house. Why? Because I need a place to escape when I wanted to be alone. If he was here then there is no place for me to run to for some peace and quiet. Like right now. As I type this I am here in my home all alone. I’m not going to the gym today because my arms hurt from yesterday but I’ll make it up tomorrow. So he thinks I’m at my gym but I’m really here in my house relaxing and enjoying some “me time”.
Now don’t get me wrong. I understand that a relationship takes compromises but I refuse to give up two things. I refuse to give up morning workouts and I refuse to give up my need to be alone from time to time. I never have been the type of woman who must be with her mate 24/7 all year round. UGH!
Since I’m not married it’s easy for me to do what the hell I want to do but it made me think how married BBers do it? I think the majority of BBers out there have mates who don’t bodybuild. Of course a married couple will live together so there is no escape location (unless you count a gym as an escape location). But how do married BBers stay dedicated to their bodybuilding goals without being selfish?
When it comes to BBing, I must admit that I am very very selfish. I will do what I want to do with my BBing goals regardless if my boyfriend, fiancée’ or husband has a problem with it. I know couples are suppose to be true to each other but I’m afraid that when it comes to BBing? I have to be true to myself.






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