What would you do?
Okay so I haven’t blogged in awhile, but I’m a little frustrated right now and I need to vent!.. Okay, so I’m at the gym 5-6 days out of the week, and most of the people there know me and are always friendly. Except for one, there is a female trainer there ( she’s been there about 6months now). For some reason from day 1 she’s been giving me dirty looks.. What did I do ? ( I wondered to myself)..Nothing, that’s what. Now the dirty looks didn’t really bother me, but now she’s been making comments about me to the other trainers when I’m around and because they encourage her by laughing, she keeps doing it. According to other gym members that notice this, they feel like she’s jealous because alot of people assume that Iam a trainer by looking at me, and she doesn’t even look like one. Oh, by the way one of her clients came up to me and asked me for advice right in front of her! (how funny 
.. Anywho, today was the day that I was just tired of the petty crap, I feel like I’m in highschool when I go there, because that is the only time I can remember a person being so silly and immature. So as I sat there boiling, wondering how to handle the situation without being dragged out of there in handcuffs(j/k)..my friend told me to bring it up to management.. I was a little apprehensive because I didn’t want to seem like a tatle tale , but went ahead and did it, by the time I was done talking to them within 5 min. I was leaving the gym and everyone at the front desk already heard about my complaint and they were all being nosy trying to get info out of me.. One of the trainers that usually always talks to me when he sees me, walked by me looking down to avoid making eye contact.. So now I’m wondering if things will be even more awkward when I go in tomorrow.. I don’t know, how would you have handled the situation? comments and suggestions would be appreciated
March 10, 2009 at 2:11 pm
i would have brought it up to manage ment too!. Let them handle their end. As far as the rest of it, act like there was never an issue. If you dont entertain it people will stop talking about it. Wear headphones and focus on your workout, If everyone else worked out instead of talking about other people in the gym they would look like you! You look great keep grinding on and dont let this jealous trainer bother you. The issue will fade…
March 10, 2009 at 2:20 pm
You did the right thing. Ridiculing or harassing members of any gym should be grounds for termination. If they shun you any further is a game to play on your conscience. Grown folks should act as such. As for the woman that started it all, yes, you must really intimidate her just by walking in. You have attributes she doesn’t want to put in time to earn. Good luck on all of your endeavors!
March 10, 2009 at 2:21 pm
act like they dont exists. It a waste of time to try to fight them. As for the going to the mangement I dont advice you to do that because it makes alot of more trouble then it really is espeically if the trainer didnt do anything directly and they are usally the trainer go in groups so if you have trouble with one they will all intervine to help her. Also another alternative is to go to another club.
Alway keep focus on your goal and remember why you are at the gym at the first place.
March 18, 2009 at 4:12 am
Hi, belize_beauty2! I think that you may have 3 clear options on how to handle this woman.
#1 Do as the other have said. Headphone Up, nose to the grindstone and continue to work on that Sexy body of yours and ignore that woman.
#2 Challenge her to a Bare Knuckle fight out in the parking lot, Kimbo Slice style. The loser to clean out her locker and never to return
#3 Can’t beat ‘em, Join ‘em! Make friends with her! Walk up introduce your self, ask her advice on how to better do an exercise or perhaps a question on nutrition. I don’t know, make something up, to set her at ease. I know, why humble yourself to this perceived rotten lady? Because you want peace. This will lower her defenses and hopefully end the animosity and she will save face and retain her Queen Bee status (at least in her eyes) among her peers. Be the bigger person. This does not make you a pushover, it gives her an out and also, it defused the situation. Of course I am looking at this from the outside and I’m sure you gave us the Cliff Notes version (short)
I hope you find a way to resolve this issue with as little drama as possible. If you do choose option #2, can you please record and post it on your Body Space page?
March 18, 2009 at 4:52 am
I’d have gone with tdletterslinger (what a mouthful) option 3.
confront but as he says, in a polite manner, introduction etc and ask how she is enjoying working there or something, now she has been there for a few months, hows she settling in.. yadda yadda….
if she is rude then or whatever.. then take it further, you tried and she clearly has no manners!
March 25, 2009 at 8:46 am
Well thanks to for all the advice guys.. I actually had spoken to management that day and everything has been fine ever since, although for the first couple days after it ,seemed like she was afraid to even look at me. Which did make me feel a little bad. But I figured my only options were to either "Challenge her to a Bare Knuckle fight out in the parking lot" like tdletterslinger suggested (really love that one
.. or let her management handle it. The old me would’ve handled it in the parking lot.. But I’m too old for that now(lol).. But honestly I’m glad I went with the decision that I did, everything seems to be peaceful again. Thanks guys!