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I love my wife! I love her dearly and I don’t think I could live without her! Yet I have to admit, she can either help me succeed or contribute to my downfall!
I have to give her brownie points though! She has made the effort of coming to the gym with me and working out! She is a good workout partner, does not complain, does everything I tell her to do! And for that I am gratefull!
But for everyone that has ever lift or knows bodybuilding, you know that lifting and cardio is only a small part of it! The diet is the biggest issue in our house…She has no problem with me eating my current meals, but she wants to eat her own thing! But than complains on how she is not losing weight and actually gaining!
I already started a post on how I feel guilty at times for losing weight and sometimes lie to her about my actual weight! It likes I don’t want to hurt her by showing my success in her face where she is failling! I try to support her as much as I can but I can only do so much!
Being around my wife has been like a test 24/7…and while it has made me stronger it also could have and still could contribute to my downfall! And it comes down to diet!
–> The other day she baked a pie! In the middle of the night I got up and threw it out! She was pissed but got over it!
–> Another day I was eating a mixed salad with chicken breast, she cooked spaghetti and meatballs! UUgggghh!!!
–> She loves to bake: cookies, pies, cake, etc. You name it, she can bake it. Hard to live around that!
I am trying hard to keep at this, but my wife cooking is making it harder! But yet, it makes me stronger…easier to resit the temptations when you go out since you have been resisting them all the time at home! Yet I want to help her so bad but she refuses to see that her diet would need to change…but tired of talking! Just hope she will realise it before it is too late!
But anyway I realise : Your biggest supporter can without knowing it be the one that is dragging you down! Just got to keep at it!
December 7, 2008 at 5:32 am
Hey man,good post. You can’t change sny one but yourself,also,I have 3 children that I have to cook for and I don’t force them to eat the way I do,so here I am cooking fried pork chops or something like that,but I can’t eat it,lol,true test of discipline. I want to reach my goals so I ain’t eatin that stuff…period. I have different things in the house that are just for me to eat. It isn’t that hard because I don’t like how that stuffmakes me feel. Let her do hr thing and you do yours and I wouldn’t even want myboyfriend to go workout with me,would just slow me down.
December 7, 2008 at 8:04 am
Great post man. Keep your chin up and stay positive. it takes will power and disipline to resist temptation so keep working hard at it and don’t give in.
Good luck bro.
December 8, 2008 at 2:30 am
chris,
as a married man who is a competitive bodybuilder giong for his pro card, I can tell that it was a strain and a struggle at first getting my wife to first "get it" and then second "support it". She used to wonder why I couldnt just miss a scheduled workout and spend the hour with her…now she hits the gym with me, or if she doesn’t she likes that I’m going. She has accepted it as a part of me….I can’t tell you how much it has made our relationship and my training better once she understood me/it.
I can’t tell you how to run your marriage, but all i can say is, is that it wouldnt’ have been possible in my situation without a lot of communication and in the end, without her support I think either my career in bodybuilding or our marriage would have fell apart, or both. So whatever you have to do…get her on board! You guys can be so much more powerful together!
December 8, 2008 at 2:59 am
Hi, it took me a couple of years to really understand my husband and bodybuilding, lets just say I went to the gym and all but I didn’t get it. It will take time, you just need to be supportive of her fitness when she’s into it and be a loving husband by at least trying her sweets every once in a while and really appreciating her when she cooks healthy meals for you, women most of the time want attention, so you need to show her attention when she goes your fit ways.
Today I go to the gym more than my husband, I’m more driven than he is and now I’m pushing him to do it more. Things can turn around, but we really try to encourage each other. peace, s
December 8, 2008 at 9:26 am
I agree with Quelly. Although with my situation it was actuallly the other way around. I didn’t mind the training…but I didn’t understand BB as a sport. I finally went to a show and was hooked. But, to be frank, even if you hire the BEST trainer, your team is going to be you and your wife/family. It’s difficult without their support. But be patient with her. She’s training at the gym with you, and it takes time to grasp the whole concept.
December 14, 2008 at 9:39 pm
hahah thats funny that u through out the pie. hahah i feel ya pain man. Its hard to diet when your partner has all the junk around the house. but she gonna have to see on her own that her diets not workin for her.
December 15, 2008 at 6:08 pm
Hey, bro, just keep being the example. I had to learn that I couldn’t let my wife sidetrack what I knew would be best for all. Hang in there until she comes around. Also, be prepared that as you become healthier and more toned, another set of issues come along. You can handle it. It’s all in the game. You’re making good progress, by the way.
December 16, 2008 at 9:44 am
dude. i feel ya. my fiance is like betty crocker. she always cooks. the old fashioned way. i can eat good all day and when i come home she has fried chicken , rice, mac and cheese, brownies. i give her A for effort. the worst part of it i work till 9pm. so i eat these big meals right before bed. i explained to her that i cant eat that stuff. escpecially that late. she knows how i feel when i dont lose weight. and how bad i feel when i do eat that stuff. it didnt hurt her feelings when i told her. in fact she would sometimes bake chicken and veggies and bring them to my work at dinner time so i didnt have to eat late. and another good thing that she found is baking chicken was not only easier but less cleanup and didnt smell up the house. good luck dude. be open with her,
December 16, 2008 at 10:04 am
I feel your pain but please do not lie to your wife. Telling the truth about your weight loss may sting a little but lying would hurt MUCH worse. Keep it real.
If your wife likes to cook then purchase her a healthy cookbook (for Christamas?) You could also buy groceries and challenge her to cook a healthy meal out of what your brought home.