Feeling guilty for losing weight!
Is it normal to feel guilty for losing weight?
The current situation is that while I am losing weight, the wife is actually gaining! I know that she is happy for me but that does not keep me from feeling guilty that I am seeing progress while she is not!
And sometimes it feels like she resent/envy me for my progress! This morning I got on the scale and went up 3 lbs and was actually happy about it! I just did not feel like telling her I lost weight again while she was sitting outside all side about gaining weight!
I need to learn how to deal with this because I will end up sabotaging my own progress!
December 5, 2008 at 10:31 pm
Are you sure she is envying you? Is she currently on a weightloss program. Well, the good news is that if she wants to also lose weight you two can do it together. Sure, it could slow you down but it really doesn’t have to. You can plan your meals together. Cook together and go to the gym together. I am sure your workout program is more intense than hers but that’s okay. You don’t have to do the same things.
She might be feeling shy and insecure but if you will show her that it is not a competition. Show her that you 2 can get healthy together she will let go of her guard and it can be an enjoyale thing for the both of you.
Good Luck on your goals. Plan smart and it will work out for you. What ever you do, keep going on your progress and gently bring her along.
:-)There goes my Dr. Phil moment. LOL
December 5, 2008 at 10:34 pm
Relationships! Ugh, why do we do this to ourselves?!? Marriage can be tricky like that. I was in the same boat you’re in. I just stopped telling my wife about my weight loss, because her’s wasn’t coming along as fast.
Now I’m bulking and packing on the weight, so things are different around here these days. She is starting to make awesome progress, and my weight is getting higher every week so the scale isn’t a problem for us right now, but YES, I THINK IT IS NORMAL TO FEEL A LITTLE GUILT, BUT DON’T LET THIS STOP YOU FROM REACHING YOUR GOALS!!!
December 5, 2008 at 11:04 pm
Wow, tricky situation.
Invite her to work out with you or to go take a walk together. And I agree with the commenter above - plan your meals together! But DON’T stop what you’re doing for her.
If you’re not happy yourself you can;t be a god husband to her, so keep doing what makes you happy!
December 7, 2008 at 1:52 am
December 7, 2008 at 1:54 am
Thanks for all the comments!
She does workout with me but refuse to follow the same diet as me! My wife is a great cook/chef so the idea of her eating about the same thing every day does not seat wll with her!
She likes trying different recipes or food every day etc. So I think while she is working out with me, the diet is the big issue!
Still working on it!
December 7, 2008 at 4:27 am
Good luck! That is a tough situation. I think the suggestions above are excellent. It’s funny one of the bodybuilders at the gym and I were talking about this just yesterday. His wife is heavy and he talks to her about her food. I told him that he can talk until he’s blue in the face, but she won’t do it until SHE wants to. So you do you! You have to do what’s best for you EVEN in marriage. It’s a partnership, but not a mutual destruction society. You go boy!