Woman and their weight??
I just don’t get it…what is the BIG issue!
The wife and I had a fight on Saturday because I accidentally let slipt her weight to her cousin. Her cousin looked like she lost weight and when asked said that yes, she has lost about 25 lbs and wants to lose another 25. Also she informed us the reason she was doing so was because her doctor told her she was borderline diabetic.
So the whole convo was about her issues with losing weight and what her heaviest was. And I was giving her some tips as to diet, weight loss, cardio and weight lifting! But the whole time the cousin never told us how much she weighted and I did not care.
At a point I told her about a certain exercises she could do : squats, deadlift, leg press, etc. that are great and she answered that did not want to look like a man. I told her that is was genetically impossible for a woman to be built/bulk like man and the woman that do when lifting weight takes steroids full of testoterone which gives the male facial expression and physique.
And here comes to hoops : I added that my wife has been going to the gym with me for the past 3 months and do everything I do. Just different weight. While I squat 335 she squat 80-90. I bench about 225, she does about 55-60. Just some examples. And as she can see my wife still looks like a woman and have maintained her weight of…..
My wife looked at me like I was crazy! In the car she told me that she does not need the world to know her business, and did I not realise that not at once her cousin told us her weight! And went on and on about how it was her secret and just because she chose to share if with me, that did not give me the liberty to share if with the world.
I mean it was like I told the world her deepest scariest secret! I just did not get it. I have no problem telling people my weight when they ask and I am a member of fitness web site where my weight is kinda out there for people to see. I just did not get it.
So ladies or men, why is it not acceptable to ask or tell a woman weight? I told that was only an issue about age!
November 17, 2008 at 10:10 am
Major faux pas!! Young grasshopper, yours is not is not understand, yours is to learn that woman are a different breed from men. And you will never completely decipher the code. LOL
Chalk this up to a early marriage lesson. There will be many more……..
Good luck with the w/o’s. It’s great that you two find this an important thing to share.
November 17, 2008 at 10:13 am
Hay dude..they make no sence and probibly are geniticaly prevented from doing so by some sort of gene or something. My wife fliped out at me for a whole day becaus i told a frend with a close to emaculat house who was apologising about her house being a mess not to worey because it was beter than our house. She even admits to me that thare house is beter!
Obviously if they are that neurotic about the basic truth than they will be neurotic about something as personal as weight and atractiveness. Good luck with the necular fall out..I’ll pray for you.
November 17, 2008 at 10:15 am
Hey you’re just going to make your head hurt if you try and figure this one out. I could give a rat’s ass what my wife weighs but it’s a big deal to her. So chalk that one up to inexperience. Just file it away, there will be many many more.
November 17, 2008 at 10:25 am
Well, it is hard to say what the correct answer is for this…but, my philosophy is that women are just as competitive as men. No matter if the woman looks great or whatever, she doesn’t want her significant other to tell her weight or ask her weight because she will feel like you are comparing her to other women. It’s an ego thing. In her mind, she probably thinks you are wanting her to look a certain way some other women look and that you aren’t happy with the way she looks. Just tell her that you are proud of her working out and the progress she is making. She will feel better about herself and she will notice that you are noticing the positive changes in her. Good luck!
November 17, 2008 at 2:58 pm
DUDEEEEEEEEEE
been there done that dozens of times in my 24 yrs with my wife.
SOME cant deal with HOW they LOOK and why they cant weigh what they want to weigh. JUST let it ride and if needed apoligize a few dozen times and buy her some flowers.
November 17, 2008 at 4:35 pm
Get ready, you have a lot more of this too go through yet. lol
January 17, 2009 at 8:13 pm
Some people are simply "close mouthed" about "their business." My grandmother was 85 and didn’t want anyone to know her age. She got mad at me for telling. I’m like "you’re 85 and ashamed?" as if that was something to be ashamed of. Later she got over it because when she got 95 you couldn’t shut her up. . . go figure. The point seemed to be that she had to be the one to pick and choose what venue, the audience and the time to divulge her own age. Apparently it wasn’t for me to do.
January 17, 2009 at 8:30 pm
Because most of the time, the woman has not admitted or accepted how much she really weighs, so when you put her on blast, it’s like "damn, now everybody knows!" You follow me?