Not sharing success with your spouse…
I have come to a decision: I will not share my weight loss success with my wife unless she asks! Off course if I am doing what I am doing, she will notices!
But it has come to a point where she feels that I am rubbing my success in her face which is the last thing I would do. She feels that she knows best about dieting, so every advice I offer she rejects! Or get mad.
It has become so frustrating that I feels it would be best if I just don’t mention it, don’t give out any suggestion and leave it alone. I told her today that I was changing my diet and that I want my lunch and dinner to be mostly brocoli/salad and some type of meat. As for breakfast it would be cereal or oatmeal, and two other snack in between.
Of course she had to add how eating like this was not regular and how I would gain the weight back. I explain to her that this is a lifestyle choice for me now, not a diet. I am not going for fast food anymore, no pizza, no dunking donuts…I might eat a few things at a party or taste a slice a cake, but that would be once in a while. You do not need it everyday…
And than she goes on the defensive…To make a long story short…I now stand alone, this is my journey. I shall post my progress and pictures here and only here. She will join the bandwagon when she chooses…but I am not getting of this train!
September 22, 2008 at 10:50 am
ITS GOING TO BE HARD, BUT STICK W/ IT. IT WILL BE WORTH IT. YOU NEVER KNOW, SHE MAY JUMP ON THE BOAT WITH YOU WHEN SHE SEES YOU HAVE STUCK WITH IT.
September 22, 2008 at 10:52 am
Thanks…I sure hope so!
September 22, 2008 at 10:53 am
Haha. You and every other spouse (both husbands and wives) are on a lone journey here. Some are fortunate enough to be able to work together on it, but that is when they are totally on the same page. My husband teeter on the same page, but he’s much more aggressive about it than I am. And so he gets frustrated seeing me not reach my goal as quickly as he was able to.
Good for you for not getting off the train. Everyone has their own pace at getting things done.
September 22, 2008 at 11:36 am
Taking care of yourself is a lonely road of faith, man. I got into the same spat with my wife a while back, and realized I have to do it for me.
Keep your head up and hang in there.
September 24, 2008 at 5:05 am
Stick with it bro. My wife and I went through some really difficult times when I started making changes. She later confided in me that she was mad because I wouldn’t partner with her. She likes to talk while I work out, so it’s better that I be on the lone journey or with a partner that is focused. However, the good news is, she became very focused and is now working out daily. She goes early, I go just a little later. It works out and we’re cool!
September 28, 2008 at 11:54 am
Don’t give up! Anything worth having is going to be hard. It’s going to be a fight both internally and externally, but this is your life we’re talking about. This is your health that’s at risk. Who knows, if you lead by example, maybe she’ll come around. Don’t force it on her, just explain when you have to why you’re doing what you’re doing and keep moving forward. There are going to be soooo many obstacles that you’re going to encounter on this journey, just stay focused and prayerful, cause you can’t do it without Him in your life. God bless and good luck. I’ll be watching!