Woman abusers: Wankers!
So I read this story by one of the fine female citizens here on Bspace and unfortunately, the scenario it spoke of rang eerily similar to the stories, two of my cousins, many of my current female acquintances and one of my past girlfriends have spoken of. The scenario is generalized as follows:
One day, a very nice, intelligent and good looking woman meets a man of seemingly similar qualities: chemistry is born! The two date for any given amount of time and mutually agree to either: Marry, live together and / or commit to each other. Well this arrangement, whichever it is, generally carries on for either a short or long period before a dormant demon rears its ugly head from within the man. One thing leads to another and a disagreement forms, which subsequently leads to the man physically, verbally and / or mentally abusing the woman. At this point, two things typically happen:
1. The woman sees this evil demonistic behavior as inherent and is somehow able to break free from this generally iron chained situation forever (This is a perfect scenario and generally is not the norm).
2. The woman is surprised by this behavior, but feels it was not intentional and certainly not a characteristic of the man she loves and will then confront the man with it. This scenario will then typically result in one of the following scenarios:
A. The man, upon confrontation, will apologize to his "baby," will insist that it was a mistake and by all means not something he will ever repeat….by golly, even he’s shocked at his behavior (at least he says this).
B. The man, upon confrontation, becomes upset again, and refuses to talk about it….will typically leave for an extended amount of time and will eventually return to the woman who now feels bad about bringing up the original situation: ultimately convincing herself it was probably her fault.
C. The man, upon confrontation, becomes violent and either physically or mentally abuses the woman again and insists (in his violence laced way) that she never bring it up again.
NEWSFLASH!!!!!….. The results for A through C are all the same!!!! Chances are, if you are a woman and you get abused in one way or another, guess what? If you stick around, there will be more of the same, increasingly until "the point of no return" is hit. What is "the point of no return" you ask? Well that leads me full circle to the main point of this blog.
"The point of no return" is different for physically versus mentally abused woman:
1. A Physically abused woman is convinced by her abuser that if she ever decides to leave he will hunt her down and either beat her to within an inch of her life or he’ll just take her life altogether….She feels trapped and cannot see any winning scenario. So she just accepts and continues to suffer.
2. A mentally abused woman is convinced by her abuser that she is NO GOOD whatsoever. He generally has implemented a type of brainwashing that leaves the abused woman feeling that she cannot possibly leave this wonderful man (even though he continually beats her down in one form or another), because she would ultimately just die or cause other people grief. Again, acceptance and adaptation is the norm.
Folks, I have heard this story too many times and you know what?
It breaks my heart every time……… 
I was raised in a home that taught respect for women……regardless!
For me, it is quite painful to hear these stories and in many cases, it enrages me!! Why do these men feel the need to enforce dominance over women? Do they feel tough, does it get them off, does it make them REALLY feel like a MAN!! What part of abusing a woman could possibly make a man feel more like a man? Let me set it straight for you men who participate in the abuse of women:
1. You are not more of man because of it: On the contrary, you are WAY less!
2. You more than likely have some deep seated psychological issues….that’s right you turd’s!
3. In all likelihood, you do not go to work the next day and brag that you beat up on your wife or girlfriend because YOU KNOW IT’S WRONG!
4. You are really just a huge Wanker, that most of main stream society would love to take out back and beat with a claw hammer repeatedly over days and days…..let you heal up slightly and then do it again….repeat….repeat…..repeat!
Here’s a couple of parting shots on the matter and I’m anxious to hear everyone else’s thoughts and / or RANTS:
1. If you are a woman and you are ever abused in anyway, (verbally, physically, mentally) by the dude-friend you are currently seeing…..take a long hard look in the mirror, and ask yourself: "Is this relationship worth possibly getting to the point of no return?" I would suggest that the answer to this question should always be NO!!
2. If you are a dude currently partaking in the abuse of your girl, do us all a favor, and STOP!!!! You’re not toughsh*t, you’re not a BIG MAN, you’re not even a human in my book! At the end of the day, all you are when you abuse a woman in any way is a pondscum-sucking tallywhacker…..and a pile of dogsh*t too! Change your ways today you penis!
Bodyauditor out!!
June 27, 2007 at 7:05 pm
I divorced the emotional abusive son of a b*76ch because I AM GOOD ENOUGH and I DO COUNT IN THIS WORLD. No man is ever going to put me down again or he’s out.
June 27, 2007 at 11:48 pm
Brother I could not have said it any better. I have been in law enforcement for 16 years and have seen this scenario played out on a daily basis. Most of these losers would NEVER attempt an assault on a man, but feel that laying hands, or verbal abuse on their significant other is not a problem. And in the majority of these "relationships" the abuse will escalate to include the children and the family dog. These usually don’t end well for the victims. But also know that not all abusers are men, we arrest more women than you think for domestic assault. But its still about 80% men. Just thought I would throw in my .02 cents. Thanks for another great post, hopefully someone in a bad situation will read it and see the light.
June 29, 2007 at 6:38 am
I also divorced a physically and mentally abusive a$$hole….it took me a while to sleep easy at night….but you know what…I am older and wiser and I would love to see him try that now!!!