Shedding light on a problem
I think I have figured out one of the main reasons why I get down…
Yes, I encourage others, I like to think I am a great cheerleader to my friends. But I think I use that to compensate for my lack of esteem. That I make everyone else feel so great that I ignore MY feelings and I get low as the others around me feel high. It is something I have always done and it is hard for me to think about ME first. VERY hard.
This is something I have always done, even during my childhood. I was all about other people, making them feel good, possibly because I was using the old adage that do unto others as you want them to do unto you. But I never got that back. The first time I got the feeling of people truly caring for me is in here on this site. So this is still very new to me. I have to learn to self-help, but I honestly don’t know how. Please, if anyone can shed some light on this and possibly help me help myself. I would be forever greatful. I have been given some names of books to read and I am going to look for those but if anyone has had similar experiences would love to hear them.
December 18, 2008 at 1:49 pm
First off, i glanced at your profile/site and WOW YOU ARE DOING FANTASTIC!!!!!!
KEEP IT UP!!!!!!!
I think I could speak for everyone and say we all wish we could make such dramatic changes in such a short time!
Thank God for you!!!! We all need more cheerleaders. It takes 1000 + comments to get rid of one - comment. Don’t loose that about yourself!
However, take care of yourself! If you don’t no one else will. Your story sound like what many mothers go through. They take care of their kids and put the kids first. That is great but if the mother doesn’t take care of herself, who will take care of the kids.
Find something you like about yourself. Maybe a freckle or dimple or even that you have hair on your head (lol) whatever it is find something and keep hold of that. No one can ever take that away from you because it is yours to have!
I’ll get off my soap box for now, and workout (I played on this site too long yesterday) but I’ll keep checking in. =) Lots of luck!