My what?
Well, I was told I have an "unhealthy" obsession with fitness. WTF? A girl I’ve gone on a few dates with told me that last night. She said I’d rather workout when I don’t have my son than see her. Well, guess what? It’s true!
The last girl I dated seriously (and the 1st since my divorce) lead me astray way too easily. Spent almost all my free time with her and my fitness goals slowly faded. Sure I maintained, but gained some BF as well (let’s call it a bulk). That ain’t gonna happen again. I let myself be lead astray.
I can’t help it if you get offended that I don’t want to go out drinking after work and instead want to do something for me like try to accomplish some goals. Yeah, success is unhealthy.
I just don’t understand. I tell a girl first date that I’m wired differently than other people and I’m dedicated to achieving my fitness goals. They act like they are cool with it, but then try to derail me. Well, guess what? For once in my life I’m going to put ME first. Don’t like it? Hit the bricks….
Sorry, just had to vent.
March 25, 2008 at 10:43 am
She needs to appreciate your lifestyle. She shouldtry to be a part rather than complain. As long as you are still making some time for her all is wll. This isnt an obsession its a lifestyle. Something you should never give up.
March 25, 2008 at 10:46 am
You’re lucky that you’re single I get similar comments from my wife… who I simply assure that I’m trying to look better for her and be healthier for our children.
I don’t know what kind of girl she is, the one with the aversion to your healthy lifestyle but you could always try to get together for "fitness dates" where you run together or go for bike rides… something that meets your needs of fitness and her needs for time with her. Someone lookign to drink and party (especially frequently) is definately on a different path then you and you’d probably want to remove that influence sooner rather then later. I say you invite her on a fitness date or two and if/when she isn’t into it, you thank her for not wasting too much of your time. Then look for your next date at the gym as you’ll be more likely to have a similar lifestyle…
March 25, 2008 at 10:46 am
There are a whole lot worse things you could be putting your energies into. You know that and I know that, but the vast majority just don’t seem to get it.
Kudos to you for putting you first and good luck with your goals!
March 25, 2008 at 10:50 am
That sucks.
She sounds like she may not be the right person for you. It’s tough when we get along well with a person in every other sense except for one area… and to you, it seems like it’s not an area that can be compromised. Stick with your guns, be yourself, and you’ll find someone who not only understands your goals, but supports you as well. 
March 25, 2008 at 10:51 am
ummm…. I hope that was the last date….and the good news in this…. she isn’t your wife! Time to move on!!
There are plenty of women out there that would share your passion….to thine own self be true!!