Laproscopic surgery…
My soon to be ex-wife had laproscopic gastro-intestinal bypass almost 2 years ago. I told her she needed to address the reasons she had become obese in the first place. She has lost a lot of weight and looks fantastic. Unfortunately, this surgery screws with your head. She resented the people she knew before she lost the weight because they wanted to hang out with her now that she was thinner. It was really that she was happier and more confident. She became depressed and she never got the proper nutrition as supplements are required because you can no longer digest enough nutrients. She got a lot of attention from the opposite sex. Unfortunately, studies show that 75% of the people who get the surgery wind up divorced. Well, I have become part of that statistic. I don’t know if she resented me because I lost weight the hard way with diet, discipline, and dumbells, but she changed a lot. If you or a loved one is considering the surgery, please educate yourself. Please begin by making a commitment to lifetime health and nutrition. Join one of the post-surgery support groups and talk to someone who has had it before you do this to yourself. Your body may change, but your self-esteem takes time to adjust to that change. If you don’t change your habits prior to surgery, you will still think and feel like a fat person. Apparently, the effects of this are psychologically devastating. I consider this surgery to be necessary for some, but I definitely recommend against it.
June 8, 2007 at 8:54 am
Some may need it, but I still feel its taking a short cut from doing the hard work. It is sad that once it happens their entire attitude just changes. It seems they take a part of them out when they are doing the surgery that just changes them completely. I am very sorry that you are now becoming a statistic. I do not think she resents you, I think she just doesn’t know how to handle the newly found self esteem. When you go years with not many people paying attention to you, then suddenly you are on the different side and they are giving you nothing but attention, it just gets to you. You would think a person who was once fat, would understand the hardships of being fat and remember the feelings and treat everyone with respect and not as a person they think they are far better than. Sure they lose the weight, but they were once fat. Just because you become thinner doesn’t make you better than anyone. When they develop those crazy attitudes it makes them so hugely unattractive. Again, I am really sorry for what is happening to you.