Seeking support
Wednesday, June 13th, 2007Well it is official.. after a 6 week recovery (6 weeks on Saturday) from my appendix surgery, I am back. I can almost say better then ever before with regards to being fully committed to my new 11 week goal in sight. Despite how estatic or enthusiastic I am about it- it seems to me that those people closest to me are not supportive and almost deliberatly try to sabotage my goal…. I suppose the first example I will use is my husband… first let me start by saying I love him very much, I cannot imagine my life without him- we have been married a little over a year now. My husband and I are like night and day with everything. He likes the fast night life of a city and me- well although ocassionally I could use a night out on the town- I prefer to hang out at home and get up early to get outside- go to the beach or hike just anything OUTSIDE! With this being said… 9 out of 10 times I am more on the extreme side of healthy… I am really careful about what I eat- while I eat foods that taste good to me- I eat for a purpose to fuel my body not just to eat or satisy my short term cravings, I take all of my supplements and will train until my body is absolutley exhausted and still want to do more. He just started working out (good job!) - I am really very proud of him but like I said back to night and day- he will workout for 20-30 min max then go home and eat crap and not return to the gym until the next week..his average is once a week which I admit is better then nothing! Now here is the kicker…he absolultey REFUSES to work out with me… not really sure why… Whick ok he doesnt want to workout with me- no problem- I am kinda a solo gym goer anyway …as long as I have my Mp3 player I am good.. The next kicker… he complains about how much I train and how I loose fat and tone my body- nto all the time but I get comments like "You are getting too skinny" "You need to just take a few days off from training" "Why do you eat like that, why cant you ever eat normal food?" At first I took it as a concern from him..I really thought these comments were made out of genuine concern.. well recently its become more frequent I hear these things, instead of encouragement or "good job" when I come home completely excited about breaking through a barrier I hear why do you even do that? It makes it hard… I have discussed on many occassions the need for him to be more supportive but it doesnt seem to sink in… any suggestions? Next up is my Mom and Dad- who thankfully live in Alaska while I am in beautiful Hawaii. I love them very much but wow… sometimes it is just like talking to a wall.. they dont understand my passion for health and nutrition… they dont understand while I continue to train or eat the way I do.. I hear - "We worry about your health" … all I want to say in response is you should be worrying about your health.. but I dont.. I guess what I am trying to get at before I ramble on forever is this… I need support. I need a support system of people who can be my cheerleader as I push towards goals. How do I make the people who I need most (my family) be more supportive or do I seek support elsewhere? Is there anyone else who encounters this with their family? Aren’t there other people out there who are just completley 100% interested in health and fitness and have family members just the opposite? How do you handle it? thanks for listening to the rambling… Andrea






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