am i an alcoholic?
Since ive been back, 2 weeks now I have managed to do the following:
Gone to the gym 3 times in total :s
Been drunk 5 time, hungover another 5 days, making that 10 days out of 14 that I’ve killed brain cells and leached nutrients out of my body. Great.
Have not been getting the amount of work that I need to get done. Why? Distractions from every corner, up right left..
One of my best friends is going through a rough time in her life right now, but by helping her I think Im going down with her. Like friday I clearly did not want to go out cos I could feel myself getting sick. Now I am sick n paying for it.
Yesterday I emptied the vodka n wine that I had left. I always do this when I drink too much, but this time around I felt like an alcoholic throwing it out. This scares me, because I don’t want to be one of these ppl who have to stop drinking forever. Not that I would miss it. But just knowing you can’t do something, makes it that much more tempting. But clearly I can’t control my alcohol intake. Its ruining my ****ing life. There I’ve come out and said it. It inteferes with my health and my school. What am I supposed to do ? Tell my friends not to ask me to drink with them?
September 28, 2008 at 6:26 am
Yes. Let them know that it’s consuming you, and that you have goals (school) and alcohol is keeping you from them. It may take a few times, but they’ll catch on. I don’t drink when I go out, and now one of my friends calls to invite me out all the time because we don’t have to drink to have fun together–and man do we have some fun lol They’ll get the hint, and may actually start following in your footsteps
September 28, 2008 at 6:26 am
u don’t have to quit……..just b your own person………just cuz your friend is going thru somethin doesn’t mean u need to get drunk.suck it up……i used to binge drink 4 awhile,i just stepped back after flipping my truck and realized what a huge amount of bullshit it all was.i don’t barely ever drink..socially maybe 2-3 times a year?……i don’t miss anything about being shit-faced……nothing.no your not an alchoholic:)aaron
September 28, 2008 at 6:43 am
i think its important to realise that every student goes through this stage! well, we pretty much all do in the UK. At least you can realise that when you’ve gone a bit too far sometimes its time to lay off for a while. Problems occur when you dont realise what ur doin and before u know it you need a few sips of whiskey to get u up in the mornin! THATS an alcoholic! I think its best if you just cut down the number of days you drink, try and find something that really motivates you not to drink the night before. For me, that was always a football match. Never would i drink before a game! If you can find something you are really passionate about, not drinkin for that night will be a breeze. Once you cut down you wont feel so shit going out and it’ll be easier to reduce the number of nights
September 28, 2008 at 6:46 am
My guess is that u may not be an alcoholic, but maybe a drunk. I know whats the defference. This reminds me of myself when i was your age.I drank & partyed all the time. I mean 6-7 days a wk. Then finnally i messed up 1 to many times & got my 3rd DUI. To make a long story short, i stopped drinking for 2 yrs.When i started again i did alittle bettter, not so much trouble. And i didnt get really wasted all the time. Then real life began to happen got married had kids became a responsible man. Take a good look at yourself to see y u r drinking like u do. Is it just to have fun or is there some under lying reason. I know i had to get drunk to have fun, & i know i idnt like myself very much. Do u act different when u r drunk. Do thing u normally wouldnt. It might be a good time to quit for a while. Do some other things with freinds, Find new ones. Put your time & energy into working out & school. U r a pretty young woman & look like u could have a lot going 4 u. Takke some time to grow ( up ) a little. Drinking could have ruined my life. I didnt let it. If u would ever like to talk about it let me know. I will tell u like i see it, no sugar coating. Best of success to u. Bob
September 28, 2008 at 6:48 am
Try getting your friend to do something other than drinking… go for a hike together, go for a drive.. if your friend is going through some issues, drinking isn’t good for her either, so help her see that drinking is never the answer… by helping her in that way, you’re helping yourself as well.
September 28, 2008 at 6:55 am
What good are your friends if they are witnessing your behavior and not saying anything about it? Clearly alcohol is interfering with your life and this is the point when you should take control of the situation. I’m not saying that you should quit drinking. Not at all! What I am saying is that you should identify a limit for yourself. That’s what I do. When I got out I limit myself to 2 drinks max! And, I really enjoy those two drinks too. I have never been drunk, or had a hangover and I would never want to experience those things. You need to be honest with yourself. It’s good that you’ve identified this problem, but now you should start setting some boundaries for yourself. And, no matter how close you are to your friend, helping her is great of you, but don’t let it drag you down. Good luck!
October 4, 2008 at 4:50 pm
I told myself that the drinking and partying was killing me, oh-yeah and I said that for ten years! Don’t wait. Your soul is telling you something. When I stopped my friends were no longer around. My phone stop ranging. That was a nice reallity check. Sometimes to make things better in your life things have to go the ugly part first. Your real friends will understand and the rest, well, their really not your friends. Stay strong- JT