Is It worth it?
I am having a really hard time with Warren’s death and it is making me take a second look at things. For those who read my blogs and my goal…I have goals I want to reach by 40 in MArch….Is it really worth it? I mean an 18 yr old can be gone like that…is it worth it to work my ass off for a goal at the end of the day that really doesnt mean that much? I am so broken hearted for Warren’s family and my own daughter that I feel like I am just shutting down…
August 27, 2009 at 6:08 am
Nothing seems important when compared with someone’s death, either is someone close to us or a total stranger.
But it’s so irrervesible that the only way to deal with it is to make the best possible of our time.
It’s normal that for the moment you feel like this, i would too. But consider the accomplishments of your goals as your cry of rebellion, and dedicate it to the one’s you like the most, and allways will.
Take care!
August 27, 2009 at 6:14 am
oh anissa..i am soooo sorry to hear of his passing, my prayers go out to u and ur families..i cant even imagine how hard this time must be for all of u..life can be so crazy, frustrating, unfair and overwhelming sometimes..but regardless of age, wealth, status or physical ability, we r all here only one day, one minute, one second at a time..the best thing we can do is be as happy and positive as possible during that one day/minute/second..is ur life more exciting when focusing and reaching ur goals..r u more positive with life in general when u look in that mirror and see how awesome u not only look but seeing how u can recognize all the hard work and dedication u have given urself..r u sharing the best part of urself with ur friends and family because u have more energy and arent ashamed of ur body?? just from checking up on u from time to time it is obvious what an amazing difference ur life has been like with all ur progress..keep striving for every happy second u can get..give urself time to morn but dont let the sadness take over ur life..turn to ur great friends and family for support and encouragement and remember some of us r just an email away..my best to u!!
August 27, 2009 at 6:57 am
Yes it is worth it. You have to think about how much your family depends on you, if you don’t take care of yourself you’re robbing your family of time with you. By being fit and working out you are adding precious time to your life. Unfortunately not everyone gets that opportunity, life can be short due to illness, or accidents, but you got to enjoy the time you have, and you’ll enjoy it more by being fit, and your kids will see your example and take care of themselves too, its like a legacy.
August 27, 2009 at 7:09 am
Don’t change the outcome, change the purpose! This situation may have given new meaning to what you are trying to accomplish! It is now even more purposeful and expanded. It is about being strong, setting an example, being physically prepared for a health emergency… and looking and feeling better in general. And it is not about a clock, it is a lifestyle. You can and should continue!
August 27, 2009 at 7:17 am
anissa, EVERY and i mean everything you do is sooo worth it. Why, because you are worth it. if Warren’s passing causes all of us to take stock of our lives, who we are, what we are doing and to whom we are doing it to. if we stop for one moment to tell our children we love them, stop to look at the sun set, watch the moon glow. if we stop for just one second to say Thank you for a new day because it is not by our own doing that we rise. if we but for one moment in time embrace the small stuff while waiting for the big stuff then my dear friend Warrens death was not in vain. God said in all things there is good. and so my friend it is worth it!
August 27, 2009 at 7:37 am
Ditto above. God may take me tomorrow, but I want to be the best me while He has me here. For Him, for myself, for my wife & for my kids. And major ditto w/ Kermane……..If I get struck down by illness or an accident, I want to have the best fighting chance to overcome. And that means being healthy, fit & strong.
Prayers for ya Anissa.
August 27, 2009 at 10:25 am
Absolutely its worth it.
Leave nothing on the table.
Live your life like it’s the only one you get…..
Keep your head up and keep fighting.
August 27, 2009 at 10:29 am
What you’re saying doesn’t make sense. The grieving you’re going through will mess up perspective.
I’ll tell you this though, don’t you think Warren would love to be able to get out there and live life to the fullest given the chance that he doesn’t have anymore?
It would be a waste to let life slip by when you have every opportunity to live it to the fullest.
August 27, 2009 at 10:37 am
Its something we all think about Anissa. i’m sorry he didn’t pull through but some of us are here to leave a legacy and then they are taken back home. At 18 he had an impact on someone’s life in a positive manner and their life has changed for the better because of it. While he was here he got the most out of life and he didn’t have to live to be 100 to do that. Life everyday as if it will be your last because you may never know who you will help in doing so
August 27, 2009 at 11:52 am
Yes, it is worth it. Something unusual happening to someone else is irrelevant to you. Even if you died in a month, assuming you believe in an afterlife, you’ll have had a purpose. Assuming (far, far more likely) that you live a long, long time to come, then this purpose will have made you stronger, better, wiser, healthier, and happier than had you not done it.
You also increase your odds of surviving longer. And healthier. And being there for kids. And friends. And family.
No question about it, it’s worth it.
August 27, 2009 at 12:14 pm
It’s worth it. It may help you handle some of the overwhelming emotions you are feeling now. You might even suggest that your daughter work out with you. It will give her something else to focus on.
August 27, 2009 at 6:54 pm
We only get one chance at this life Anissa. It’s hard because sometimes we see the best people in our lives get hurt. The guys I know who’ve been killed overseas were the best of my generation, no doubt about it. I think about it everyday…"Why did it have to be them, they were so much better….why them?"
It’s only natural to ask those types of questions. But in the end, it’s why I keep going. It’s why I keep pushing harder, training harder, and striving to reach the goals I set. I can’t quit, because in a way, I’m doing it for them too. For those that never got the chance…..
It’s worth it Anissa. I can only hope that when I see my brothers-in-arms in heaven, they’ll say "Well done". Warren will be there to say the same to you when it is your time. Keep going babe. For him, for yourself and your daughter.
August 31, 2009 at 6:34 pm
Time and unforseen occurence befall us all. Hang in there.