Mancave
Alot of you already know from my previous blogs how hard it is fro me to get around the wifeypoo to go workout. Ive erected a pretty nice gym in my basement with pretty much everything I need to get business taken care of. There are a few peices of choice equipment I would like to have, but I do go to the gym when I can just to switch things up as much as possible. Anyway…last night was the same ‘ol story. I hear the….."arent you going to spend anytime with me?" or….."your body is more important than me." Sometimes I may not go down in the basement until 11 at night after she goes to bed, just so I can get a good workout. Ive honestly tried though….I ask her almost everynight to come down and do some abs or the stepper for a few minutes, but it all comes down to stubborness. She wont because she is so against me doing it. I will never quit. I will never go back. The thing is…its been years since Ive been going down there and she still wont just except it. Whats the deal. I have to hide my creatine and protein in the ceiling joyces because she read somewhere that its hard on your kidneys. She doesnt like really big men so I always know when Im making progress when she gives me that discusted look with a shirt off. I dont really care about that though. I do it for me. I have my own goals that I have to meet. I call it the cave because I absolutely have to go down there everynight to burn out stresses of the day. Clear my mind, jack up the music, and grunt and scratch like a man needs to do in his cave. Anyone who has a supportive spouse is damn lucky to have it whether they realize it or not. I cant imagine the progress I would make with some support
June 4, 2009 at 11:36 am
I know exactly how you feel. My husband told me to get a hobby so…. 2 kids later I decided I wanted to finally fulfill a dream of mine, that is competing professionally in women’s figure competitions. It was all good till my body started to change and guys started to notice (and compliment me). Now its bitch, bitch, grip, grip ahahaha… from my husband. He examines every supplement I purchase as well. Its not that he doesnt like the changes I’ve made. Its more so the attention I get from others whether its be females or males.
It makes since to me now why most athletes are usually married or dating an individual that shares the same passion, diet, and lifestyle. Makes it so much easier to enjoy.
June 4, 2009 at 11:40 am
Stinks to have to live like that though, hope she will come out of it at some point. Even though my wife thinks I am crazy and maybe a bit overboard she still supports in what I’m, doing. Hang in there man.
June 4, 2009 at 11:45 am
I’m not allowed creatine by my wife for the same reason. She doesn’t give me grief about working out, but usually that is when she’s not home.
Sorry about your hassles.
Do you have other time that you DO spend with her? Like a compromise?
June 4, 2009 at 11:49 am
wow I can’t even imagine living with someone like that..she is just making herself miserable too~
June 4, 2009 at 12:05 pm
Flip the script on her. Complain that if she wanted to spend time with you, she could come down to the basement and work out with you.
June 4, 2009 at 12:24 pm
I feel lucky to have a supportive wife who goes to the gym with me after reading your story. If I put myself in your place I would have a serious talk with her about how important your training is to you, and how important it would be to have her support. That’s how the husband/wife ralationship is supposed to go! I would also educate her about your supplements…creatine has been around for decades and shown no longterm adverse affects.
You could always hit the gym early in the morning before your wife gets out of bed. How could she complain about that?
June 4, 2009 at 2:23 pm
I agree with Blue. Open up the lines of communication. She’s most likely feeling the way she’s feeling because you’re getting healthy, looking awesome, and she’s not. There’s hints of jealousy that need to be addressed. We all go through the same thing in one way or another. My husband got me started on fitness but I have friends that don’t understand it. My work contacts don’t understand it, unfortuantely you have to feel the negativity every day. Have a team meeting and hopefully she’ll come around. Offer to workout with her instead of her watching you from the stepper. Those who sweat together, stay together. Good luck!
June 5, 2009 at 5:05 am
Your progress is inspiring to me. Being that you are are a life long diabetic, you already have so much in your life that is out of your control. This is merely a part of your life that you can control. You have been working towards a goal and are doing an excellent job of achieving it. If you were my spouse, I would be telling you how proud of you I was. It is not easy having a diagnosis of diabetes, and living every day with it. Nor is it easy to make a major transformation to your body in the way you have. Hopefully she will soon realize that this is something you NEED to do for yourself. And maybe she will accept it and be encouraging like she should be. It is hard to have someone barking words of negativity in your ear everyday when you are trying to do something so positive.
July 1, 2009 at 1:24 pm
It’s crazy that a woman is basically complaining you look too good. Every woman married to a man who looks like Homer Simpson with a big belly would love to trade your physique for their husband’s. She’s crazy, I think.
I wouldn’t normally tell someone to criticize their spouse’s body but since she’s doing it to you, tell her you don’t like her body and see how she feels. I don’t know if that will work but maybe?
July 1, 2009 at 1:39 pm
As a fighter I train in the morning and at night some days. My wife is very supportive and I let her know every day how appreciative I am of it, but my obstacle is my two year old little boy. Every night when I get ready to leave for the gym he he starts to get a little fussy and will follow me to the door looking sad. It’s a tough thing to do.
I made my wife a promise that I’ll put my family first always and that if I do that I can train when I need to.
Good luck with your wife, I think a good sit down conversation is in order. Something like exercise should never come between you guys.