Told the wife the truth.
when we got home from gatlinburg, we unpacked and got the kids settled. she was brushing her teeth, and I came in and sat down and watched her. she was real suspicious.
when she came over, she had a pissy attitude. she new what was coming. i had her sit on my lap and told her I had something to tell her. she sat down, and siad, "you did talk to the doctor didn’t you? and you didn’t want to ruin my vacation."
yeah. I told her I just wanted her to enjoy her time with the kids and not worry about the cancer and the up coming chemo. I set her appointment with the oncologist for tuesday morning, and called her mom to come to that appointment. everything was all set.
there was lot’s of crying. she thinks this is the end. she is all worried that I don’t know the kids schedule. of course they haven’t even started school yet, so she doesn’t know it either, but don’t let that stop her from worrying about me not knowing it.
I set up her computer a long time ago for her to be able to write letters to the kids in an organized fashion for me to distribute them later. she said she doesn’t know if she can do that. so I said, start with one that is a long way off. like our youngest one’s wedding. she know’s intuitievely there is no way she will be there for that whether the chemo is succesful or not. so it is an easy one to do. then work from there. she agreed. hopefully this project will be a success. I don’t want to raise them without her.
Post by: TDetroit
August 30, 2008 at 12:47 pm
This was so heartbreaking to read. I cannot imagine the pain you and your wife and family are going through. She is very lucky to have a kind hearted husband like you. I’m sure you’re very lucky to have her too.
I wish her the best of health and longevity. What you wrote will stay with me for a very long time.
This was very powerful, sad, loving.
August 30, 2008 at 12:54 pm
You are indeed a good my Bro. Your family will be in my prayers.
August 30, 2008 at 2:07 pm
1st, I still think you did the right thing initially. As soon as I saw your post title my heart just sank. Your blog post was just heart breaking. I have no words to offer that could even hint at the sympathies I feel for all of you.
I hope she finds the inner strength to embrace her letter project.
August 30, 2008 at 2:09 pm
It just breaks my heart to read this. I’ll continue to pray for both of you.
August 30, 2008 at 2:12 pm
I cant say I know your pain but I have a close friend going thru the same thing. It seems they spend more time at MD Anderson in Houston than home now, its hard. I can pray for your family though. Hang in there and cherish every day