The IMPORTANCE of Family
Family is so important! Who else do you have during trials, tribulations, and the happy times? Your family should be your rock when you have no one else to lean on and to give you that gentle push that we all need at some point along the way. My father is a great Christian man who really does love me. I know this and I have no question as to if he does. However he NEVER calls me to see how I’m doing, how my day went or simply ask how are you doing in school. The times I do talk to him are on his birthday, my birthday and Father’s Day. It really hurts me to know that he will not pick up the phone to see how is daughter is doing. I want to share my life experiences with him but it seems that he doesn’t reach out to me. I feel as if history is repeating itself and he is doing the same thing that he did to his own father. I also have 2 older sisters that each have children. One of them has 4 kids the other 3 kids. I only talk or see them at Christmas. I have tried many times to reach out to them but they will not reiterate it back. Their kids do not know me and it is so sad! I hate that I have to carry this on my shoulders and it is really draining. I understand I should let go. I am 30 years old for crying out loud!! It seems like I give, give and give some more but never reap anything back. I look at others families, and see how they are so close knit and that is what I long for. I know it is something that I must accept and move on from but it still comes back to try to get me down. That is why this time I am writing about it rather than sulking and becoming depressed! I totally understand that everyone has a different upbringing and has had different challenges growing up, but sometimes I feel that I am the only one. I know I’m not but everyone at some point feels that way. The “oh woe is me” pity party! I am one to wallow in pity at times but I’m not going to let this get me down. I am a stronger person than that and I refuse to let anything, anyone or any situation bring me down anymore. What I will do is use it to fuel my desire to be all that I can be and all that I want to be. I will end this blog on a note that I LOVE my mom!! She is my rock and has always been there for me!!
September 18, 2009 at 10:04 am
Hang in there.
September 18, 2009 at 10:07 am
I didn’t have a very close relationship w/ my father, and I’m trying to break that pattern w/ my daughters. I try to get dates with each of them 1-on-1, and savor this time. And, I hope to keep that closeness into their adulthood.
Have you spoken to your father about this? That you’re hoping he’ll take the initiative to reach out to you? And how it makes you feel? If not, DO IT. Some folks have to be told things like this. ESPECIALLY if this is a pattern he’s repeating from his history with his father, as you allude to. He simply may not realize there’s a different & better way.
Good luck. Hope it gets better. Keep up the workouts. You look GREAT.
September 18, 2009 at 10:16 am
Just this week I had a confrontation with my sister. We love each other but she is the one person in my family that just treats everyone else like crap. Nobody can do anything good enough to make her happy except her daughter who she is training to be just like her unfortunately She is probably the least supportive person in the world. So i feel your pain. Because your father is Christian just pray to God that he will make an effort to open up to you a lot more often. I have no doubt your father loves and cherishes you. Some men just have a hard time expressing that love.
September 18, 2009 at 10:27 am
Don’t know him and am not trying to defend him, but some men just don’t communicate well. My father is one of the greatest men I’ve ever met and we talk very infrequently. Nothings wrong and I don’t feel as if he is slighting me by our lack of communication, it’s just how he is. Some guys just don’t ‘reach out’ to use your words. Doesn’t make him wrong or love you any less. It’s just how he is. Sounds like if you want to talk to him, you’ll have to call.
The sibling thing I also understand. I don’t live in the same state with any of my siblings, but even when I did, communication was fairly infrequent. I still enjoyed seeing them when I did. I lived my life, they lived theirs.
Sometimes, that’s just how it is.
September 18, 2009 at 10:27 am
I say keep reaching out, you continue to do what you know is right. You may regret it later if you just move on, keep calling…you won’t regret that. Just my opinion from my experience. All the best to you.
September 18, 2009 at 10:53 am
My heart aches for you dear one. Not only is family important but the relationship a daughter has with her father is critical for it is a girls first true love. I agree with both Wayne and AL pray seek God’s direction ask that He gives you the words to share with your Dad and that your Dad’s heart be soften to receive in love that which you speak. My Dad was a man of very few words and if you didn’t know him you would have thought he was cold and uncaring. To get that man to say I love you was like pulling teeth LOL but when you went to him for a hug he would hold onto you like he never wanted to let you go. I learned to interrupt those hugs as if they were the spoken words. Hope you are feeling better real soon!
September 18, 2009 at 1:31 pm
You have great perspective. I hope you will continue to reach out to the rest of your family, if only for your own sake. I will pray for you that you get the outcome you desire. All the best.
September 19, 2009 at 4:01 pm
Sorry, that you are having familial issues. Keep trying to stay in touch and hopefully they will see that you really want ot be a part of their lives.
September 25, 2009 at 4:30 am
You are only in control of your actions. If you give it an honest effort and don’t get anything in return then at least you know that you did what you could do. Be proud of yourself…and YOUR accomplishments, YOUR goals…I went thru this recently. I was always looking for others to validate me or to ackknowledge how well I was looking, doing at work, and things of that nature. In the end you are left with you. And if you are ok with that then all is the way it should be. YOU BECOME WHAT YOU BELIEVE! Remember that everyday and you can never go wrong. Hang in there!
October 8, 2009 at 5:49 pm
whats dill mustard??! lol…