Through Another’s Eyes - Meditation
First of all my friends, I am SO deeply touched by how many of you read my blogs! The incredible supportive and smile enticing comments are very much appreciated and felt!! I had a lot of requests for this meditation - so I’m going to blog it!! I hope you all get a chance to try it!!
First this just came to me! Sometimes there is no explaination for how you find something that helps not only your own soul but others…they just come to you! It worked wonderfully for me, and like I said in my last blog, I was able to feel and see myself as the beautiful and sensual creature that I was intended to be even at a size 13! I was able to find in myself and see what others could see!!
In the past 7 years I have met so many women, wives and lovers who will not let their husbands see them naked! They hide! I was shocked! Now admittedly i’m a bit of a nudist…so even when I was heavier I was never SO ashamed of my own being that I couldnt let a lover see me. But I did understand what these women were feeling! So I shared with them….and slowly….with the meditation many of them found themselves suddenly being that Tigress in the bedroom with their hubbies!! Finally able to let themselves see the beauty that their husbands already saw!
I have also had men do this meditation too!! In my journey into mind/body and spirit I have been discovering that many men suffer much of the same feelings of inadequecy of self! So a few brave souls have tried this, they also have included yoga into their lives and omgosh they are the most sensual men ever! Giving and sharing and making a difference in the world!! I love it!! So if I somehow can touch a few more lives with what was given to me (maybe by an angel!) then it is with the deepest and warmest smile that I pass this on…..
Anothers Eye Meditation
The first thing you need to do is set aside at least an hour for this. Make sure your phone is turned off and walk away from bodyspace (lmao).
Run a nice hot bubble bath. Choose whatever essential oils or sea salts with scent that entice a feeling of relaxed in your soul.
Light candles and place them around the edges of your tub. Turn the lights down and sink your naked body into the warm water and bubbles.
Meditation music is a wonderful atmosphere enhancer, not necessary but is nice to have!
Look into the flames of the candles and begin to breath in really deep, in through your nose and out threw your mouth. Do not rush breath. Visualize the breath coming all the way from the soles of your feet and breath in life! As you breath out focus on consciously ‘letting go’ of the day, of stress.
Stare into the candlelite as it flickers and you continue to breath. Do not rush this.
When you are feeling fully relaxed it is time to go into ‘third person touch.’ Close your eyes and continue to breath.
Let go of all that you are and in that moment know that you are more than your body.
You need to adopt the perspective of ‘other’. This is no longer YOU looking at your body, but OTHER or how others see your body! So you are going to use your hands to see rather than your eyes!
Start at your feet or your hands. I love feet, so starting at feet is wonderful for me! But if you are going to be hard on yourself over your feet..start at your hands (this is NOT about how you see you…we are our own worst critic’s…this is about how God see’s you…how those who love you with all their hearts see you!)
Run your hands over your toes and feet. ‘See’ your feet. Then start running your hands up your legs. Keep your eyes closed. You are to be seeing with ‘touch’ not with eyes. Feel the curves of your calves, how pretty your knees are, the softness of your thighs, or the hard muscled curves of your thighs.
If you start thinking negative thoughts….go back to breathing and staring at the light of the flickering candles. Once you feel peaceful again, close your eyes again and continue. Run your hands over your hips, belly, chest, breasts, arms, fingers, face….seeing ONLY with your hands…only with your touch.
Remember to continue to breathe. And any time negative body image thoughts pop up…go back to concentrating on your breathing and the candle lights.
This takes time.
Do Not rush.
And dont worry if it takes you 10 or more long hot baths to really start to see yourself threw the eyes of ‘Other’! Our Ego’s want to jump in and tell us how imperfect we are. But guess what?
We are ALL PERFECT in our imperfections!! And what is perfect changes with societal changes. YOU ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!!
In the Eye of the Storm






June 14, 2008 at 11:10 am
That very last line says it all. And it is exactly what we all need to know and hear.
"We are ALL PERFECT in our imperfections!! And what is perfect changes with societal changes. YOU ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!!"
Thank you!
June 14, 2008 at 11:15 am
very cool. very good.
June 14, 2008 at 1:05 pm
Stormi,
I can relate to this blog. I am a licensed Avatar Master. The Avatar Program exposed me to a similar exercise. I learned to appreciate and respect my physical body through non-sexual touching/feeling. The experience changed the way I felt and saw myself. It was a major turning point in my life and my transition really took off. I lost 75 pounds with commitment, work and the new appreciation I had for my body.
I continue to take time to complete this exercise and stay in touch with my inner spirit. I would recommend similar exercises to anyone that truly appreciates who they are. We have been blessed with 5 senses for a reason. Learn to use and appreciate the gifts whenever and wherever you can. Life is for living, learning, loving and enjoying.
June 14, 2008 at 3:35 pm
"Turn phone off and walk away from BodySpace." Sorry, can’t do that ;P LOL Great line, though! I will definitely have to give that a whirl sometime!
June 14, 2008 at 11:41 pm
Hi Stormi
Wow, that really sounds nice. Meditation in it self is really nice and a good investment for a healthy mind and spirit.
Thanks for sharing this technique
June 15, 2008 at 7:38 am
That sounds like a great technique Stormi. I will definitely have to try that, particularly before the bash lol
June 15, 2008 at 10:07 am
Very cool Stormi, thanks for sharing
June 15, 2008 at 7:30 pm
Printed and saved! WOW - thanks for sharing this, Stormi!! Your inner beauty always emanates in your posts so I am eager to explore this experience that you’ve discovered! Thank you again for sharing this.
June 15, 2008 at 9:40 pm
As you predicted, it would definitely take me ten or so tries to complete this!
But I can definitely see how this turns negative self-image into a truly self-loving and positive one… thank you for sharing this, sweet friend!!
June 20, 2008 at 3:50 pm
thanks stormi just catchng up on my blogs check out kal lake photos on my photos. I love kal lookout run takes me to an inner piece as well Thanks for the mediatation piece. You are an inspiration and a good writer
July 5, 2008 at 6:45 pm
Ohh, I like. Very nice energy..Very healthy and cleansing. Wonderful!!