temptation
i was having an interesting conversation with one of my clients…female…over 37 yrs with kids and family and has reached a point in her life and is bored with what she has…
now this woman has it all…good home…husband and kids…but she let her self go a bit. she focused on her kids while her husband traveled the world as he is in the army. faithful and honorable…but she surpressed her inner wants.. but years have passed and now she is improving herself. she is in college, she is playing tennis and now in the gym and adopting the nutrition design i laid out for her…its been two months and she is down 30lbs…
she recently went to a high school reunion and met up with an old boy friend…of course sparks flew and she has been infatuated with thoughts … the what ifs and only if i had this chance…stuff like that
now i am not here to say what is right or wrong but obviously she does not want to to lose her family but she does want excitement. husband came home noticed all her improvements but instead of praising her he ridiculed her. asked her why she was doing all this…that what he does should make her happy enough…and then he let his insecurities surface…why are you getting in shape…who are you seducing???
words that cause problems…why did he not say…wow honey you look hott…what your doing we could double our income…the kids will be grown soon and we can travel more…somethings that would excite her…
so of course this increases her curiousity to get the attention she wants…and ex high school boy friend is knocking at her door…now here is where i stop because people have so many opinions and yet things like body space and myspace have wives fliting with the hotty online…yes men are not the only ones…
i am not saying anything is right or wrong but realizing that this is the truth…so i tell you…be aware of what your doing ..know the consequences and make a choice…it has good and bad…for those who want wonderful relationship…improve with your spouse or mate …change and adopt to the times… not stuck in a box…
for those who are considering adventuring…again…just realize its a choice..no right or wrong…but it comes with good and bad…there is nothing wrong with you…your human nature is just at the surface…and like a crying baby..must be embraced…held and given some attention
today….training…i did some back…still working on width and reps to keep the detail in my back. cardio will begin again tomorrow…my health is better…still a cough but overall much better
all my best
November 8, 2009 at 9:18 pm
Interesting story…I believe life is a set of choices and marriages have their ups and downs, but just like anything when you make a commtment you should follow through with it. I have been married, my husband cheated on me and we got divorced. Good thing now, because I know more of who i am and what I want. I know that person was not riight for me and i am much happier now. I just think there is a certain way things should be handeled and if there are problems in the marriage, turning outside of it to someone else to make you happy is not the right place to start. I think you have to work from the inside otu and try all options before you call it quits. Ok, enough about that! Haha…You look great. Good luck to you on reaching all of your goals.
November 8, 2009 at 9:19 pm
Nice post man… funny how sometimes we never realize just how much of an an impact our criticism or comments to others might have… her husband being a case in point…
November 8, 2009 at 9:39 pm
This problem was created by both of them. In his case, his words are hurting their relationship. He is being a fool by allowing his insecurities get to him. In her case, her silence is hurting their relatonship. She is not communicating to him about her unhappiness. ‘Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world’- Buddha. Great blog.