Iron it Out
I woke up this morning immediately craving some iron. Really, it was the second thing on my mind - the first one was my friend J. We went out last night - supposedly as a group - but she isolated herself in her own boozy pity-party. I’ve seen it many times before, but this time she directed some of that anger at me and I was pretty hurt by it. It just seemed like nothing I could say mattered - whether I was nicey nice and coddled her or was honest and told her to relax. I’m glad it happened though, because I’ve seen her do it time and time again to her boyfriend (one of my best friends) and I thought maybe somehow he was instigating it or making it worse. I was SO WRONG. It just totally comes out of left field. She thinks no one cares about her feelings, but in reality the whole night becomes about her and she’s oblivious to that. It was that much worse being stone sober for the thing. Worse because I clearly remember everything she said and did, but she will remember absolutely zero. Seriously. She will not remember any of it. I really, REALLY feel for my friend. Both Jenna and her boyfriend. Something is very wrong. =( She drank since 5, didn’t have a thing to eat, and spent sooooooo much money. Meanwhile she criticizes him for spending his money, but she can go out and buy whatever, whenever, free of judgement. I’m disgusted.
So ofcourse I would crave a solid dose of iron. It’s free therapy. Clearly this has me stressing and I should go exorcise some of that tension ASAP. Being healthy in my own mind and body makes life so much easier - it’s hard to watch my friends be unhealthy. I just think of how much clearer, calmer, and more focused (not to mention happy, confident, strong) I am because I’m fit and sober and I wish she would try it for just a while. I don’t want to preach to anybody, so I keep these thoughts my own - but it’s hard not to think that way. The best thing I can do is think about me today and get some heavy lifting in. I’m going to tax my body today, not my mind.
November 7, 2009 at 11:23 am
I know people just like that. You definitely hit it on the head saying how much better working out makes you mentally and physically. It is my personal escape time. No matter what is going on in my life I can always go to the gym and crank up the ipod and do some serious work. Free therapy is definitely right. Some people just do not have the patience to put in continuous work for a couple of months do they do not see the results they want and stop. If only they knew how good it feels to leave the gym knowing you did something that was productive with your time other than sitting on your ass at home. People around me say I’m obsessed yet they have their own "obsessions" that they do everyday. It is not even an obsession, its a hobby, I enjoy it. But because I am physically changing and making myself better they feel like they have to put me down because I am assuming it makes them feel worse because they lie around and do nothing. O well, I needed to vent a little bit too, I’m working right now and need to get off so I can get rid of some stress at the gym haha.
November 7, 2009 at 11:25 am
Your friend doesnt sound like much of a friend, more like a little girl that has to have all the attention on her. I am i sure some where in her past there is a reason why.Instead of preaching to her like you said try asking her to join you in working out and stay focouced on it even when she starts whining. Workout even harder. Just a thought
November 7, 2009 at 12:57 pm
I went to the iron therapist today myself…….. works wonders………
November 8, 2009 at 9:17 pm
An ass kicking workout can definitely do wonders for your attitude:)
November 9, 2009 at 9:20 am
The resolution: My friend called me the following evening to delegate blame to the both of us. I told her the truth; that her drinking is way out of hand and that I don’t like being around her when she’s like that, and neither does anyone else - they just don’t want to rock the boat by saying it. I think she hates me right now but she’ll come around someday…patience, patience.
November 16, 2009 at 1:18 pm
It sounds like your friend is a bit of a drag on you. I don’t drink either and being around people that are is just annoying to me now. I think you did the right thing by being up front about the whole situation. Last night I was having one of those fun marital disputes with my wife and she started saying, "why don’t you just take a break from the gym for a week or two until life slows down etc". I just say the day I stop for a week or two the easier it is to keep that going. After standing my ground and taking that time I can handle everything else in my life so much easier.