Quick el bloggooooooo…and help for a friend being scammed on the internet
I went and did some abs tonight and decided to try a little upper chest. I did a little bit of bench and actually got the nads to go up to 65. Ok, not even close to my 190 maX but I have to make adjustments cus of the whole implant thing. Ya, Im talking about it….its a real issue in the gym. NOT all the time, but when it comes to dips and pull ups and doing chest its a freakin issue. Lots of women got em and we do need to still do some chest to keep the muscles tight, correct? I have seem some saggy ones and I dont want that to happen to me…or anyone else. I havent figured out how much is going to be too much….so bear with me.
My ab workout was strong and I forgot my superpump so it was all me. Im always suprised how I feel tired and then get a second wind. Im happy to be there, guess that helps.
Tomorrow I am doing legs again. I modified the manta-ray smith attachement I got here on bb.com . I added padding to see if it helps with my boney collarbones. I hope so. It was alot better with it than without the manta ray, hope this just ups it a notch. My show is in 3 and 1/2 weeks. It used to be 2 shows, CT state residents and another show combined, but now its just state. NO masters. Im like "oh shit". Sometimes competiting with the youger women sucks. I may be in good shape, but Im certainly NOT 25. A younger women leans out differently, tends to be able to keep what fat she has higher and can dehydrate without looking hollow in the face. A male judge may think he is "judging" but he may in fact be checking out the 25 year old……………….who knows.
Anywhooooooo……….I have an issue with a friend I want to run by you real quick. She met a guy online..match.com. He is certainly not a "real guy". I see it, most of my office sees it, yet she does not. Now I come to find this prince charming has 2 first names…………david john or something like that. ANY of us who get spam emails knows that 2 first names is clearly a foreigner, usually nigerian spammer, con artist. Go ahead, check your spam files nowwwwwwww…………
Supposedly he is an artist, has a house with a private beach in Brazil, has a home in maryland, living in the UK right now and when he called with a bad connection……….has an irish accent. Also, he says he texts badly like he has trouble with american words. Ok, if he has an irish accent……….the speak english and probably write it better than we would understand it spoken, even with a heavy accent. Get it? NOW he is supposed to come visit next month. Here is what will probably happen……his AMERICAN bank account with be "frozen" and he will need money while he is stuck in the airport on his way to see her and could she wire him some asap? No, this did not happen to me before. I "met" one guy, figured his ass out, messed with him until he confessed he was from Nigeria………..Im blonde but I AINT THAT blonde.
Ok, so help me out. How am I going to tell her? She is totally in love……this sucks!!!
May 20, 2009 at 8:24 pm
ANY of us who get spam emails knows that 2 first names is clearly a foreigner, usually nigerian spammer
Probably the stupidest thing you said. What a absolutely absurd stereotype/ accusation. I am far from Nigerian but i would certainly take offense to that.
Your friend is clearly not as smart of a "dumb blonde" as you. Let her figure it out the hard way if shes being blinded by emails filled with broken up english?
May 20, 2009 at 8:26 pm
Definately a 419 Scam aka Nigerian Scam. I did a huge term paper on it, and set a trap by going to one of those sites and setting a fake profile, it was hilarious how the person was trying to avoid or redirect the questions i was asking. Tell her to watch out cuz their last resort is ransom!
May 20, 2009 at 8:28 pm
ANY of us who get spam emails knows that 2 first names is clearly a foreigner, usually nigerian spammer
^ What a far out absurd accusation. Good job for that. Im not Nigerian but I sure do take offense
Your friend clearly isnt as smart of a "dumb blond" as you.. let her figure out this scam for herself if she’s being blinded by broken up english emails.
May 20, 2009 at 8:55 pm
My opinion… love is blind unfortunately she probably will be too. I have found no matter what you say to help someone in love they will seldomly take advice let alone listen. That said you still got try and say something.
May 20, 2009 at 9:17 pm
OH dear…As far as your friend goes, tread lightly. If she is totally in "love" w/this guy, she will probably not listen to you and it could be that it hurts your friendship. I’m not saying not to say anything, I would if I were you. But be prepared for the repercussions. I told a very close friend that my husband saw hers w/ someone else and the result of that revelation to her is that we are no longer friends??? Whatever…sometimes people don’t want to hear the truth and want to stay in what the perceive as bliss/love. Is there any way you can contact him to kind of "let him know" subtly that you are looking into who he really is? Maybe if he feels like the heat is on him he will back off. Sorry I can’t be of more help, but this is such a touchy thing to be dealing with. Good luck and best to you!
BTW…You are one of the ladies I am useing for inspiration on this site…so thank you for helping to keep me focused on what it is that I am working so hard for!
May 20, 2009 at 9:19 pm
I almost got scammed by Africans in a yorkie scam. hate those people, they are the lowest of scum.
May 20, 2009 at 9:29 pm
I would just ask her to be careful. Tell her the exact story you just mentioned..as a ‘this is what happened to someone I know’..so then at least if it DOES happen, she will click pretty quick herself without you having to be the wet blanket on the situation directly.
AND if it does happen..just don’t do the ‘I told you so’..just tell her you are glad she was careful and leave it at that. Not all on-line romances are scams..hell I met my husband on line 7yrs ago..we are not married with two beautiful boys
May 20, 2009 at 9:58 pm
Ummm, damn. This has bogus written all over it. And either 1 of 2 things will happen.
1-she listens to you and everyone else trying to get her to open her eyes, she ends contact with this illiterate irishman from brazil or UK or Mars and ends up being happier. OR
2-She learns the hard way. She wires him money. MORE money disappears from her bank account, leaving her with either ZERO money or maybe some spare change, she never hears from him again, and she cant trace him or report him because he never really ‘existed’ in the first place.
I wish there was a way to get them to listen. I had a somewhat similar situation with my sister and in the end, I decided (because I could NOT get it through her) to let her go with her ex because shes going to HAVE to learn the hard way.
Im sure your friend is a lot wiser than my 19 year old sister, and hope that she listens to ya. If not, let her learn the hard way, THAT way she learns.
May 20, 2009 at 10:20 pm
break it down for her. ALWAYS speak your truth. don’t alienate her, and tell her that you’re always there for her. you don’t want her to sneak around about it and then really end up hosed by this lame ass bastard because she feels like you’ll give her the "told you so". can you hook her up with any REAL LIFE guys that you know? (guess who just had her own run in with a cyber psycho?!!!)
May 20, 2009 at 11:34 pm
That’s too bad your friend is setup for a huge letdown, telling her may not the easiest thing to do as most people don’t listen anyway but maybe finding some of the many blogs about these scams and getting her to read some might put her on track to get her guard up and not be shocked……..I have a friend that did something similar on myspace with a girl in our town and I did tell him to watchout but of course he did not listen and until he found out the real deal he didn’t associate with me like he was mad cause I told him the supermodel looking picture she sent him was not her nor did she have a condo, bmw, and single, afterwards he found out whoever this person was had a good con going because he sent money for a plane ticket and sent flowers/gifts to who knows where
May 21, 2009 at 1:54 am
I just love reading your blogs! You have a waywith words that just make me chuckle! On a more serious note
I think you should tell your friend or show her your blog - better to have a broken heart than a broken bank balance.
May 21, 2009 at 6:16 am
There is a creepy guy at my office named David who is on about 20 dating sites after he struck out with every chick here. At first I was like, aw shit, he got a hold of your friend!!!!! Glad to here it’s just a spammer…much safer than creepy office David.
May 21, 2009 at 6:40 am
Fern like the plant tell you friend what you think plus what is she thinking I have not heard of any long distant relationships that have lasted. This dude if he is real lives in another country half the time. Yikes wake up:)
Later
May 21, 2009 at 12:18 pm
That does suck. All you can do is tell her how concerned you are and pray she’ll listen. No man, EVER, should be asking a woman for money - EVER. If a man can’t take care of himself, that’s an immediate deal breaker.
May 21, 2009 at 1:37 pm
I am inspired by your hard work. I just started lifting heaving 3 times a week and doing cardio 30 minutes 3x a week and I am so tired and uncomfortable. Any suggestions? I can’t afford to be cranky with my kids/hubby.
Did you have a trainer when you started. Thanks and congrats!
May 21, 2009 at 7:46 pm
You said you "met" one guy and figured him out. Maybe you could tell your friend about your story so she will realize you’re talking from experience and not just trying to tell her what to do. Say, "Look, I hope he’s not like this one guy I met because this is what happend,,,, "
That’s what I’d do. Hopefully she’ll appreciate you’re being a good friend and watching her back.
May 22, 2009 at 9:39 am
wow, that is really unfortunate about your friend…you obviously care about her, so I would be honest and give it to her straight. All you can do is give her the information and let her do what she will with it. I knew someone in a similar situation and when people are ‘in lust’ they tend to be blind to reality. Just be there for her, I’m sure she’ll need you.
May 22, 2009 at 2:45 pm
Hey just a comment on the implants. Actually,…it is working the chest that will make your implants eventually dislodge and sag. Take this from a person who ruined her first set with heavy bench pressing and had to get some new ones. I no longer lift for my chest directly at all. If you do anything, it should be inclines only….and that not much.
May 22, 2009 at 2:54 pm
my manny (man nanny) left the room the other night to get a drink and left his laptop open and logged into his match.com account. i spent about seven minutes destroying everythin he had created over three months on match.com. not only that, but my manny is a "small business owner" in the lucrative "home health care business" and lives in a ‘great house" (mine!) That site is responsible for one marriage that i know of and about a thousand dissappointed dates with my manny. rasta.
May 25, 2009 at 11:41 am
Tell her what you think. Then its up to her. Either she listens or she doesn’t. If she doesn’t, move on and don’t bring it up again. She is responsible for herself.