Don’t date in the gym
I did it once and will never do it again. Sure, lots of people there look good and some are into fitness like you are, but most relationships end for one reason or another…………the end result can be disasterous. The relationship is kind of public, the gym gets gossipy of course and the breakup is probably more public than you want it to be. Plus you have to factor it in (like a divorce) who gets to go to the gym when so you wont run into each other. Yeah, it was MY gym first…..he stopped going there despite the fact he said he was going to. It was a long time ago and I have moved on, but I have learned my lesson.
For me the gym was a feel good place and after a break up a "feel bad" place. I go there to get away, not be reminded of crap. Yes, still got some good looking men there. I just pretend they are all married and chat a little but thats it. if I want to be cranky someplace i will just go to work!
Many of us women Im sure have been targets of gym gossip. I have been going to mine for 3 years and have had a problem with someone saying really terrible things about me, but I just went on smiling and it went away. I refused to get chased out due to cheap lies from someone I didnt even know who didnt even know me. My actions speak for themselves, you know?
Im going to go do chest and tris I think. we are expecting a messy snowstorm, so got to get in a workout. I was supposed to dothe figure posing, but we changed it to tomorrow night. Hope the weather is clear by then. NewEngland really sucks this winter.
Fern
January 27, 2009 at 4:04 pm
I know what you mean. A long time ago I had to go to another gym due to someone talking alot of crap that wasn’t true! But in the end she got hers, I got her ex boyfriend, lol. You look great by the way!
January 27, 2009 at 4:29 pm
Does it make it ok if you don’t go to that gym all that often? :p
January 27, 2009 at 5:27 pm
Dating at the gym is like dating at work….DON’T Do It!
January 27, 2009 at 11:17 pm
Fern I’m sorry but I have to disagree.. I meant my wife at the gym and we are still together. We don’t lift together but I still train her and some of her trainer friends a few times a week. maybe i just lucked out?
Marky Mark
January 27, 2009 at 11:40 pm
gossips doesnt effect you performance and doesnt do anything and if you think about it more it only make you feel bad.
and if you try to reply and answer to the gossip and rumors you just lowering you standard to theres.
January 28, 2009 at 7:14 am
Fern, I agree !The gym is a feel good place for me as well.. n people can create such bad vibes..I work at Gold’s gym an there can be a lot of mixed signals..between club members n co-worker’s..talk is cheap.. n yes action do speak louder than words!
Although I think It’s great to be in a relationship with someone that shares that same passion for the gym.. working out together I think is so healthy for the relationship something i didn’t share with my husband… n it was a big part of our problems. he didn’t support my passion for the gym… I choose to stay within the boundaries.. n not get to close .with co- workers n members..Lessons learned!
Fern your inspiring ..keep doing what you do best!I have great respect for all u have accomplished .. You look Fantastic! *hugs*
January 28, 2009 at 7:51 am
Yeah… I dated with someone in the gym who i worked with. Didn’t end as bad as it could have because I made it not be awkward. But still bad move. And gyms are just like nail and hair salons in the gossip sense…. Terrible. Good luck with all you do!
January 28, 2009 at 7:55 am
agreed. good post.
January 28, 2009 at 3:12 pm
Geez, I keep to myself so much at the gym they must think I’m a stuck up B*#@h. I just get in, do my thang and get out. I see people I know there and have the occasional 2 minute chat and that’s about it. If anyone were to gossip about me it would be a miracle! My mother says "if people gossip about you it usually means they’re jealous", so take it as a compliment.
January 28, 2009 at 3:45 pm
People at my gym must think I’m a real stuck up B*%$#! I just get in, do my thang and get out. There are a few people I know there that I have the occasional 2 minute chat with, but that’s it. If anyone ever gossiped about me it would be a fricken miracle! My mother says "if people gossip about you it usually means they’re jealous". I like that way of thinking, so take gossip as a compliment no matter what the nature of it!
January 28, 2009 at 5:28 pm
Your right dating at the gym can lead to bigger problems. I know…..
January 28, 2009 at 5:33 pm
Great article…. Your abs look fantastic! I can only hope!
January 28, 2009 at 5:35 pm
I don’t know. Maybe I am just a softee but I think if I was single I would rather take the chance on true love even if it meant problems if the relationship ended badly. It would be a shame if you never dated someone who could be the love of your life just because he/she happens to share your passion for fitness and good taste in gyms.
January 29, 2009 at 12:59 pm
ew yes… i was working in the gym and when the new boy started working there, i didn’t even like him, but before long i was dating him… i had to quit working there but was still working out there when it ended and it was painfully public… needless to say, i now can’t even go to the gym closest to my home with the best cardio classes in the county!!!
on the other hand… i married the guy that i used to like to watch chest pressing years ago hahaha
(but we weren’t going to the same gym by the time i started seeing him hehe… so overall i still agree with you!)
January 31, 2009 at 11:20 pm
I guess sometimes you risk it anyway. My gym is a chain, but I like the one I go to……..THEY can go elsewhere!