Defining goals………where to next?
This is a tough one that I have spoken of before. Im not talking just me though, Im talking about others. We all know beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so what you see yourself as may gross someone else out. But feeling good about the way you look is empowering. Who do you want to look like? is it attainable? I used to have lots of photos of Monica Brant posted around because I wanted to look like her and still do. Though realistically she has been training for years and years and me………just 2 years. I try not to be dissapointed in myself because of this reason. I will train and train and I will end up looking like……..ME. Im doing okay looking like me. I have alot going on really for a newbie. If I was never to "grow" I would still do fine. Would I do better if I had an inch or 2 more on my legs? I doubt it. I like to do shows, but was hired by Gaspari before I ever won anything. Hardly anyone gets a pro card anymore so to get to National level is pretty much as high as you go…….Im there already. I will compete this year Nationally.
As far as fitness modeling….it doesnt pay squat and even the best of the best cant quit their day jobs. Sure, would love to be in a magazine as some mommy fitness inspiration though. Because then someone can’t say "I bet she doesnt have kids. I bet she doesnt work full time. I bet she has a rich hubby so she can afford to work out all day" none of that pertains to me now does it? I just want people to know that if I did it, you can do it. Im not talking getting ripped, jacked, but just losing weight if thats what you want. For many, thats all they want…and thats fine too.
I try never to be narrow in thinking of others goals and what they want for themselves unlessw its something that will kill them. I know the mind plays tricks on us and if we stare in the mirror long enough, we get grossed out about something. Thank God I didnt have funds for plastic surgery years ago. Im happy I did things the right way…liked myself more as a person. Otherwise I would probably just have a set of hooties , be anorexic, have a nose job 4 times , big lips and be so botoxed i couldnt smile. Even right now my teeth are whiter and straighter than most…..but I still see them as dingy. We must stop doing this at a certain point where it become obsessive and dangerous.
Ok, thats it. Lets promise to be realistic and pat ourselves on the backs more, instead of focusing on the negative. Amen
January 9, 2009 at 9:00 am
not sure if you’re implying that those who have implants either/both (a) did not like themselves as a person and/or (b) did not do things the "right" way? most of the top figure competitors - ava, etc. have implants - i’m pretty sure they were comfortable with themselves both before and after, and your blog from a week ago stated that you were contemplating implants.
January 9, 2009 at 10:00 pm
what the hell are you talking about…look at Michael Jackson…….and that freaky cat lady. Beauty is a mind "f@ck"…..and if they felt comfortable without them, they wouldnt have gotten them. i CAN LOOK AT YOU ISP AND TRACE YOU IDIOT.OH AND AVA IS A FRIEND OF MINE……SO KISS MY ASS
January 12, 2009 at 8:03 pm
your "guest" was a lil obnoxious…lol…i’ve actually noticed that on some blogs/forums…people bitch alot on here. I found what you wrote was great.yes,be happy with who we are, which is one of the hardest things anyone can do for themselves. my self-esteem is like a rollercoaster…one day i’ll figure out how to get off.;p