Coulda, Shoula, Woulda…It’s worth a read if you get a chance….
Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven’t thought about it, don’t have it on their schedule, didn’t know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine. I got to thinking one day about all those people on the Titanic who passed up dessert at dinner that fateful night in an effort to cut back. From then on, I’ve tried to be a little more flexible. How many women out there will eat at home because their husband didn’t suggest going out to dinner until after something had been thawed? Does the word "refrigeration" mean nothing to you? How often have your kids dropped in to talk and sat in silence while you watched ‘Jeopardy’ on television?
I cannot count the times I called my sister and said, "How about going to lunch in a half hour?" She would gas up and stammer, "I can’t. I have clothes on the line. My hair is dirty. I wish I had known yesterday, I had a late breakfast, It looks like rain." And my personal favorite: "It’s Monday." She died a few years ago. We never did have lunch together. Because we cram so much into their lives, we tend to schedule our headaches..
We live on a sparse diet of promises we make to ourselves when all the conditions are perfect! We’ll go back and visit the grandparents when we get Steve toilet-trained. We’ll entertain when we replace the living-room carpet. We’ll go on a second honeymoon when we get two more kids out of college. Life has a way of accelerating as we get older. The days get shorter, and the list of promises to ourselves gets longer. One morning, we awaken, and all we have to show for our lives is a litany of "I’m going to," "I plan on," and "Someday, when things are settled down a bit."
When anyone calls my ’seize the moment’ friend, she is open to adventure and available for trips. She keeps an open mind on new ideas. Her enthusiasm for life is contagious. You talk with her for five minutes, and you’re ready to trade your bad feet for a pair of Roller blades and skip an elevator for a bungee cord. My lips have not touched ice cream in 10 years. I love ice cream. It’s just that I might as well apply it directly to my stomach with a spatula and eliminate the digestive process. The other day, I stopped the car and bought a triple-decker. If my car had hit an iceberg on the way home, I would have died happy. Now..go on and have a nice day.
Do something you WANT to……not something on your SHOULD DO list.
If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting? Have you ever watched kids playing on a merry go round or listened to the rain lapping on the ground? Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight or gazed at the sun into the fading night?
Do you run through each day on the fly? When you ask "How are you?" Do you hear the reply? When the day is done, do you lie in your bed with the next hundred chores running through your head? Ever told your child, "We’ll do it tomorrow." And in your haste, not see his sorrow? Ever lost touch? Let a good friendship die? Just call to say "Hi"? When you worry and hurry through your day, it is like an unopened gift….Thrown away…. Life is not a race. Take it slower. Hear the music before the song is over.
"Life may not be the party we hoped for… but while we are here we might as well dance!"






August 21, 2009 at 3:51 am
Yeah, nice one.
August 21, 2009 at 4:07 am
Awesome wording mam
August 21, 2009 at 4:49 am
good, very good read
August 21, 2009 at 5:17 am
That was great! i will make sure i dance!
August 21, 2009 at 5:45 am
Hell yeah girl…I’m gonna dance like nobodys watching
August 21, 2009 at 7:07 am
Finally..a blog that make that makes sense! I have been on this site a couple years , I thought it was a great place for encouragement and motivation. But lately there are so many on here that are self absorbed and if they are not whining about that pound they did not lose they are complaining about someone in "their gym" not doing an exercise correctly ,talking to them or something.Life is about balance and there are so many things that we cannot control so we should take time and enjoy it when we can.
August 21, 2009 at 7:30 am
Thanks guys, I am learning to really be ALIVE..NOW, if NOT NOW, WHEN…LIFE IS GREAT..
LIVE JUICY
August 21, 2009 at 7:32 am
this really hits home. my 17 yr old daughter’s best friend left our house sunday night at 8 and by 8:30 he was and still is fighting for his life after a horrific car accident. it happens in a blink of an eye. i now have the picture he colored with my 4 yr old before he left on the fridge and look at it every morning to remind me what is important and how quickly we might lose it. live your life like it might be your last day. dont sweat the small stuff, he wont mean a thing in the end…
August 21, 2009 at 7:34 am
WOW, I loved this!
Spontaneity is undervalued by too many people.
My favorite thing to do with my kids is to wake up, think of somewhere unusual to go and take them there….as soon as we can get ourselves dressed, fed and out the door.
Like John Lennon said, "Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans."
August 22, 2009 at 1:18 am
Nice entry Mikie.I couldn’t agree with you more.