Melinda F’s BodyBlog

I am your constant companion, I am your greatest helper or your heaviest burden.

I will push you onward or drag you down to failure.

I am at your command.

Half of the tasks that you do you might just as well Turn over to me and I will do them quickly and correctly.

 I am easily managed; you must merely be firm with me.

Show me exactly how you want something done. After a few lessons, I will do it automatically.

I am the servant of all great people And the regret of all failures as well.

Those who are great, I have made great.

 Those who are failures, I have made failures.

 I am not a machine but I will work with all its precision Plus the intelligence of a person.

 Now you may run me for profit or you may run me for ruin. It makes no difference to me.

Take me, train me, be firm with me and I will lay the world at your feet.

 Be easy with me and I will destroy you.

Who Am I?

I am called Habit!

There are a lot of bad situations one can get themselves into. Making the wrong decisions, taking the wrong path in life, and so on, but I believe one of the worst possible situations one could ever find themselves in is a comfortable situation. When we become comfortable, do you know what happens around us? Absolutely nothing. Each day becomes just like the one before. We do what we have always done, therefore we get what we have always gotten. We lose our edge on life, our hunger and determination to move ahead and to achieve. When we are comfortable, sometimes we are merely existing, and just existing is not my cup of tea(wait I should coffee–lurve de stuff) and shouldn’t be yours either, when we are capable of so much more in life. It would seem that one strives to move forward and accomplish their goals, they will find themselves under constant attack from others who don’t want to see them succeed. However, this is not a bad thing. It is what you should be looking for. This simply means you are good at what you do, you are making a change, and a lot of people don’t like change.Change is some people’s worst fear… It means an unexpected event in their comfortable lives; it throws them off balance. Change is necessary if you want to reach your goals. You can’t please everyone, and it is never a good idea to try. The trick is becoming absolutely immune to all the negativity others try to push your way. The bonus shall be…. While you are blocking these negative people out of your life, you’ll look around and notice a change. You’ll now find yourself surrounded by a whole new set of positive people who support you and your goals. "Positive breeds more positive!"  Positive friends, accomplished goals, and a better life… Now that’s my cup of tea…uhmm coffee. "When you climb a flagpole, people are going to see you and they’ll want to knock you down, not because they want to be up there themselves - but because they don’t want YOU there." Jerry Lewis, comedian.

So the past few weeks have really been soul searching for me…evaluating where I am, where I am going to..decided to write my personal mission statement of what I expect out of this life—dont just want to sort of arrive at 50 and then see — oh those years –yes—they flew by pretty quick–I want to look back and say — yes was there and decided want to go there and did it—and enjoyed the process.

I always tell myself that I have either have reasons or I have results. I really want results, I know what it takes to get results—its like fitness–its easy to get knowledge…some people spend a lot of time finding all the answers…what to eat…what not to eat…lift heavy…periodize…creatine…glutamine and then after a while they say…oh but I just dont see results…if we are really truthful its because knowledge is easy to get but is not so easy to practice—we have to learn that certain things have to become habits…brushing teeth is the same thing as eating clean…if you want results - you have to do it and maybe the once or twice you fall of the horse…well your thighs wont grow overnight and your teeth wont fall off…its just learning to make them permanent habits that will ensure you suceed. I asked myself recently what can I do in my business that will ensure I keep getting results—so I wrote down the single most important thing that I know for sure will work and have made a commitment to do it every time I get to my office—its not the favourite part of my job…but its a necessary leadership quality that I need to ingrain in myself before I can truly say I have done everything it takes and before I can teach anyone else to follow.

Recently I read this statement…"you cant hire someone to do your pushups for you"and I thought wow—yes—in fitness that is absolutely true and in business that is even more relevant—if you want results get your hands dirty—’show’ them how its done before you ‘tell’ them how its done..

I’v realise how important it is to write a mission statement for your life—sort of to give you direction–and then to constantly re-evaluate it as people change as we grow and learn and the things we wanted 10 years ago are different to what we want now—also to know what our definition of success truly is….what do you want your family to truly remember when you’re no longer on this Earth—how much money you made? How much time you took to listen and play? Everyone has different definitions—maybe your mission statement make make you decide what your definition is—sometimes its rather different from what you think it is—start writing and see what I mean……I’m still not finished and dont think I’ll be for a while..

But—-I am on a sexy mission to get some hot muscle—ooooh now that wont end…and I am on a mission to listen to my childrens voices and remember what they really sound like right now in their lives and hopefully remember it when they are older-maybe need to work on more omega3’s and 6’s there —aid the memory and all….I am also on a mission to live a fabulous fullfilling life—to treat everyday like an unopened present expecting only the best–to start every day with positive affirmations but most of all to be who I say I am to myself—to love the woman I see in the mirror and treat her with respect and love so that I can treat those around me like that…to be authentic.

So I take 100% responsibility for my life—no blame—just make it happen–create my life my way remaining true and truly valueing the end product that I so desire to create…

Like I tell my sweet children everyday—Choose happiness—its a choice make it—dont let others make it for you—You’re in Charge of your Life. 

The circumstances amid which you life determine your reputation;
the truth you believe determines your character.

Reputation is what you are supposed to be;
character is what you are.

Reputation is the photograph;
character is the face.

Reputation comes over one from without;
character grows up from within.

Reputation is what you have when you come to a new community;
character is what you have when you go away.

Your reputation is learned in an hour;
your character does not come to light for a year.

Reputation is made in a moment;
character is built in a lifetime.

Reputation grows like a mushroom;
character grows like the oak.

A single newspaper report gives you your reputation;
a life of toil gives you your character.

Reputation makes you rich or makes you poor;
character makes you happy or makes you miserable.

Reputation is what men say about you on your tombstone;
character is what angels say about you before the throne of God.