Raise each other up..
Yesterday I spoke to a dear friend on bodyspace that was so down after someone left a nasty message on his profile page, basically the person Mike0618 left a comment telling him he is as ugly as hell along with some other ridiculously insulting comments. Mike0618 is a personal trainer! This is just shocking, the need to be cruel is beyond my understanding especially to someone who is procatively trying to change his life, his body and is undergoing a transformation of note.
There are so many people in the world who talk about commiting to a clean lifetsyle and never actually do it and here is this dear guy who is trying his very best and some nasty person comes along to try to crush him - all from a PT who doesnt even have a photo up.
I have learned so much from this site, there are fabulous articles to help with every aspect of lifting and nutrition but what makes this journey so fabulous on bodyspace is that there are truly some fantastic people on this site that will give up their time to inspire you and motivate you and support you to your next level in fitness and in life in general - I have had the pleasure of making some fabulous friends on this site that I will most propably know for the rest of my life.
My point is that just like in life once in a while we come across an individual or a circumstance that presents itself with a real negative force and the minute that happens I advise you to cut out that negative influence immediately, dont let it anywhere near your life. As for you my dear friend - do not feel hurt by someone elses’s insecurity - it will eventually catch up to him and serve him the fate he deserves or just maybe he will be influenced by the good spirit of the majority on bodyspace and have a mental transformation.
To me personally what makes each day so beautiful is the ability to affect someone’s life in a positive manner of some sort, so when I see the opposite it makes me feel hurt and upset. We have no right to judge each other and although at some point each of us is guilty of that, we shouldnt try to hurt each other for our own satisfaction - there can be no joy in this life if your aim is to see another down.There is however great joy and fulfillment is raising each other up as that truly takes you even closer to reaching your own goals.
The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.
Fabulous day to all - make each other smile - it is so worth it.
June 27, 2008 at 7:29 am
How ignorant of this Mike0618. He is not a personal trainer….he just probably says he is. He is a jerk to the uummpp degree. You are a fab friend!!!!!
June 27, 2008 at 7:34 am
Yuck. Mean people suck.
I have not been on bodyspace all that long, and I am blessed in that almost all of the people I have met are kind, sweet, and encouraging. You’re right - we MUST raise each other up, because the gift of helping each other is priceless. It IS amazingly fulfilling to help one another, and I have been SO BLESSED by so many on this site, including YOU, fabulous Melinda! 
I hope YOU have a wonderful day and a fabulous workout!
June 27, 2008 at 9:35 am
I really enjoy reading what you write, you do it with passion and conviction. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts.
June 27, 2008 at 1:40 pm
thank you for the kind words… with people like you in my life, how could I feel down! You are a true treasure my friend!!!
June 28, 2008 at 11:38 am
You have your friend’s back. That speaks volumes. Well done on the call out & support!
June 29, 2008 at 4:02 pm
I never understood why people put others down, but most of the time I’ve realized it’s more about the person’s insecurities that are acting out and saying such mean, destructive things… you are a great friend for being there for them!!
July 1, 2008 at 2:17 pm
You know what, that’s crazy! Why even speak if you are not going to say anything nice or worth wild! i haerd a sermon by joel olsteen, be a people builder! build people up, because you have NO idea how it helps propel them in teh right direction! it helps to build character and the whole 9. i take pride in this! i try to give it where it is due all of the time! i rather build someone and help them build there dreams and cheer them on then be a naysayer! what good does that do anyone?! None! i take pride in building others up! I thank God for the builders he has put in my life that help me and encorouge me! alot of times they saw more in me then i ever saw in myself! at the end of it all, i remember what they said. i’m embarking on my first show in November and i’m scared as hell, but i have such a wonderful group of people around me who just push me up, up, an up and I know that the Lord put those people in my path and i’m thankful for it everyday.
so, i encourge everyone to go and build someone up! it truly is free, yet it’s priceless.
Take care & be blessed.