Luvsfitness’s BodyBlog

The posing coach who ridiculed me in front of others refuses to refund my money. I hired her solely for posing, she wanted to trai n me and do my nutrition, I told her I had a trainer, She wanted to know who and I took her to Jay’s website, should her his work with Gymrat, she read and critiqued his credentials and brought others over to look at the website. She agreed to do the my posing. When I went Wed., I got O…ZERo posing but what I did get was public ridicule. She wanted to see my diet, I did not show her, told her the breakdown and the calories, she laid her head on the table, got others involved, said out loud in an open forum waht I was doing, one girl said well, she is taking in enough protien. She made me weight and do my body fat…I was there for posing, not that stuff. She told me I would never make it on stage, that it was hard work, that I should be doing this and that, that I had too much body fat and that her name would be associated with me if she was my posing coach and she did not want that representation.  She instead wanted to do my nutrition, I told her no, I had that covered. She said well, let me see how you train, what my INTENSITY was like so we scheduled for next Wed.

So, I came home, humiliated….and then got a little angry. I HAVE A TRAINER, I do not NEED a personal trainer, I NEEDED a posing coach which is what she agree to do! She is from the land of USETA, she useta compete, she useta have a great body before "excuse number 56", blah, blah, blah.

Public ridicule and humiliation serve no useful purpose. Accountability  does. Motivation is fear based, out of feaar of failure we are motivated to work harder, study for a test, etc. It has its place and serves a purpose.
To inspire someone means that you admire them and aspire to imitate. Spiritually it is a much better deal. Jay inspires me. Gymrat inspires me.  A good coach should inspire someone.

That is why I love training women. I seek to inspire them to be their own personal best, not ridicule them and make a public example of what  failure looks like. NOT tell them they will never succeed at their goal. Not tell them what I useta could do. I seek to show them their potential and help them achieve….

Life sucks right now….but this too shall pass. I am ashamed to even go to they gym. She has told so many people about my goals and made such ridicule of them I feel they all are laughing at me and my body….

I go anyway…hang my head and work hard…..what else can I do!

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