Daily Review - Judgement
Getting back to a more balanced life instead of just sleeping, drinking and eating working out, I’m also getting back into what I used to do before body building and that’s a relaxing meditation or review of my day at night before I go to bed.
I not only want a better body but I want a better mind and just want to be a better person all around.
So the idea of the daily review that I learned through esoteric spiritual studies is that you sit quietly and go through your day in an attempt to review your behavior and how you might have been able to change a situation. Not what someone else did, or how can I change them, but in MY role of the dance, what could I have done differently to make the situation better or how can "I" change. This isn’t to judge myself either but an attempt at being an accepting/loving observer of the moment in review.
My mind was drawn to lunchtime at Subway. There were 2 girls ahead of me. Very overweight, both getting footlongs, the first girl getting ranch dressing and the second literally saying "smother it in mayo". SMOTHER it in mayo.
Well, I guess since I eat better now and I just get a 6" with no cheese or dressing when I go, I must feel somewhat superior to those that don’t eat what I do. If they don’t eat the same then there’s plenty of good room for my ego to judge and feel justified in doing so. I’m constantly looking at "bodies" and comparing. Is that all there is to someone?
In my review I could see that it didn’t do me (or them) any good to have my judgements about them for not living a healthier life. The best thing I can do for everyone is just to accept them where they are and "allow" them to live the life they choose to live. I think it’s the only way I can allow myself the same so that I can be at peace as well.
One thing I can do though if I really want to create change and that is to be the example AND the potential and that’s what I intend to do.
Kymn~
August 19, 2008 at 5:42 am
You affect alot of people in such a positive way on this site. Thank you.
August 19, 2008 at 6:11 am
Be the light. We all have to make the decision on our own to be healthier. When we do, we look to those that are leading by example and did not judge us for help.
August 19, 2008 at 6:25 am
You’ve given me food for thought.
Great post.
August 19, 2008 at 6:47 am
"Our words, our thoughts, and our feelings all contribute to the creation of our reality. Our word is a two-edged sword, it can create or it can destroy. To be impeccable is to create with conscious awareness and love. Ruiz also makes the point that our perceptions of others are merely reflections of ourselves. Therefore, to put another down or project negative words or energy towards another person, is to lash out at the other person because of our own insecurities. The human mind is fertile ground for the seeds that are our word. So plant the seeds of love, not fear. Judging, blaming, shaming, and especially gossiping create poison in ourselves and others. This agreement alone is enough to break all of your old agreements and change the dream of your life." ~Don Miguel Ruiz, (The Four Agreements)
August 19, 2008 at 7:58 am
Hey Kymn!!
Loved this blog.. I do the same comparing and I want to get better, I cannot not judge because I know I am far from perfect but we are human. I
August 21, 2008 at 7:51 pm
hey, nice post
August 22, 2008 at 3:18 pm
I had to read it twice, but that’s because it’s pretty deep Ms. Kymn. I took your advice and did the download the last wo nights. It’s tough to stay objective and not get defensive with myself, if that makes sense. Very constructive post, thanks.
September 22, 2008 at 12:05 pm
I enjoyed your post. I have tried to do this and for the most part I am able, however, if doing this with someone close, with unresolved issues, it become increasing difficult. I do try to constructively state my feelings that way I do not have to carry those around.
Speaking of eating poorly, I just ate like 20 pieces of candy corn…ouch! Sometimes my "old habits" get the best of me. Again, wonderful post! Have a great day!
September 28, 2008 at 12:40 pm
Very profound self-analysis. I like it..Well spoken.. And definitely a motto to live by..Change others by self change..