You know how it goes: You are born with a sweet innocence, filled with dreams that are watered and pruned through your earlier years...and then pruning becomes chopping...or you just stop tending to it all together as responsibilities increase. All of a sudden, you are working at a place that you don't particularly care for just to pay the bills while your dream is still longing to be nourished.
Let me be the first to say that there is nothing with doing what you have to do to put food on the table and keep a roof over your head. I am in the same situation- working a desk job that drains the life out of me because it doesn't interest me at all- yet it pays the bills. BUT I think it's potentially a problem if you allow your dream to completely disintegrate while taking care of life's responsibilities.
I, in no way, have the most ripped body, the prettiest face or the common "assets" associated with this industry. But my dream of excelling within the business still burns within me, and I truly believe that if the desire is there, I should at least try.
So really, what does it take to make dreams happen? I'm still learning. At this point, it seems like we need:
Drive / Will
We've already established that the dream (or dreams) exist. So then we need to do what we can to gain enough exposure to get our foot in the door or obtain the help we need. For me personally, I know I lack professional photography that most girls have ready for various opportunities because well...after the costs of dieting, I don't have any remaining funds for a shoot. Some people get photographers to shoot for free..and I'm working on ways to find out how to make that happen. In the meantime, I get help from family and am posting pictures via social networking. It's a start, and I plan to grow in this.
Drive and your will to succeed is like the gas pedal to your dream. You can use it to rev it up while it's in park, and/or push it harder to make it go faster toward the destination. Are you scared of what people will think? Have you created a comfort zone in where you are now? Does the idea of moving out of your comfort zone scare you? These questions can apply to anything you want in life. For fitness, we will hear A LOT of opinions (mostly unwanted) and it's a hard pill to swallow. It's like insulting an artists work after he toiled for months on months. With us, we were made the way we were made....slowly sculpting our bodies to become something different. It's not easy- there is sweat and sometimes tears to get to where we are. Some of us had to lose a lot of weight to get there- yet someone can walk by and make a comment that part of your body isn't good enough. It's rough, to say the least. This is where tenacity comes in....
When we hear comments like "You're never going to make it," "You don't have the look we need," "You just don't have what it takes," "You have a lot of work ahead of you," giving up cannot be an option. Your ego and your feelings will get hurt plenty of times, but we have to have the tenacity to keep pursuing the dream.
Faith-I believe that God cares about the desires of our heart and He will help us as long as we do our part. There are some people who just sit around and wait in faith for things to happen. God tells us to wait patiently, but we need to show Him we are serious about it and actively trying with a positive attitude. Faith in knowing that God can do the things we cannot is an extremely helpful thing to keep in mind, not only in achieving dreams, but for life in general.
Resilience ties in with tenacity. Expect to be kicked down a lot. I've always read from successful people that you will hear 1000 "nos" in between every "yes" (or something like that. Lol). In order to get a hold of our dreams, we need to constantly get back up again and keep going. Take the meat of each critique to fuel you and spit out the bones of what won't do you any good. Say "Thank you for your input," and keep moving.
Continuing Ambition- I don't think there is really an "end" to a dream. I think of a dream as an inhabitable destination that needs constant upkeep to maintain its pristine features. You shouldn't just get to your dream, throw your luggage down, and keep your feet up, expecting it to take care of itself. Have ambition- plant a garden, improve the existing furniture, or maybe hire a team to help you keep it up. You get what I'm saying right? If you've gotten this far, don't let it slip by the wayside. Keep going.
And...that's all I have to say for now. Sorry that was so long. Lol...I'm writing this for me and you. Be encouraged today as you reawaken or continue to go for your dreams!