Building Inner Strenght
We often seem to put so much importance on our exterior beauty and strenght, while often neglecting to nurture and focus our inner beauty and strenght. Like polishing the outside of a glass while leaving the inside dirty. We are taught from a young age all the skills needed to get ahead in our outside life, yet nothing is mentioned about the inner life. Our inner life with its many shades of emotions, thoughts and perceptions can paint the tranquil waters of peace and solitude or the crashing waves of anger and despiration.
Hence the importance of building INNER as well as physical strenght. It is only through self-reflection of our inner state that we can ever hope to have true control of our exterior reactions. It is through a personal inner journey of self-realization that each of us can realize our deepest essence….. and at once begin to see that same new found strenght and beauty in others.
We seem to suffer from a collective illusion that we are incomplete and lacking. That we need something and/or someone to find joy, peace and happiness. We think that we need something external, that is outside of ourselves to be complete. So we often become attached to things and people in a misguided attempt to find that WHOLENESS. It is the attachment to things and relationships that brings us pain and much suffering. So many go through relationship after relationship and collect material after material yet still feel lacking. It is a bottomless pit of desire. It is actually IRONIC that the more you let go of things and people the more you actually feel COMPLETE. The answer is not through gainig things, but in letting go that you can find what you are looking for.
True wealth is not who has the most things. True wealth is who needs the least things.
The first will always desire more and appreciate little. The other does not desire anything, but appreciates everthing.
That is the difference between attachment and non-attachment. It is the eternal strenght inside you and me. Your physical strenght can bench 300lbs, but our inner strenght can move MOUNTAINS of obstacles.
August 1, 2009 at 4:18 pm
i think most of us are materialistic, but ridding ourselves of all things external would be just as extreme, on the other side of the spectrum. there has to be some sort of balance.
August 1, 2009 at 5:04 pm
I totally agree with you about balance. I appreciate all of the external things too… I am however aware that these things will not bring me lasting happiness if I have not found it first within myself.
An example is someone that needs another person to feel happy. This person will base there happiness on the NEED that somebody loves them. If the person loves them they are happy. If the relationship ends then they are destroyed and empty again.
If you go into a relationship feeling complete and the relationship ends then you can get over it and you do not feel like you have lost anything. You leave the relationship with an appreciation of the good times and precious moment and things learnt. You did not base your wholeness on anything outside of yourself. Because of this you do not develop a possesive love. A possesive love is one bent with jealousy and control because the person needs you to feel complete. If 2 people that meet and both have found happiness within and beyond outside things, then it is more a relationship of unconditional love. Both are complete without each other and NOW can share that WHOLENESS together.
However I do understand the balance part. I wasn’t talking about sitting under a tree and growing a beard with a dazed look on my face Chanting " I AM COMPLETE…I AM COMPLETE " LOL
August 1, 2009 at 8:00 pm
haha my bad. thats really true though thx for the wisdom ill remember that
August 1, 2009 at 8:22 pm
i just thought of something. what if some people are just less independant and will always seek help/happiness from others. i mean their is always going to be an inferior and superior in any relationship (school, work, family, dating). when a relationship ends the one with less strength is going to get hurt. i dont think both inner strengths will ever be perfectly matched. someones gonna get hurt either way.
maybe its just natural for the superior less clingy person to move on and the weak to mope around and cry about it.
you know its kind of odd…the more i go through life the more i see "survival of the fittest" take effect. in everything….mentally, physically emotionally, the strong thrive and the weak get left in the dust.
August 1, 2009 at 8:59 pm
The good lord gave me a wife to balance me out. I think we’re just the oppisate. She has been balancing me out for the last 29 years. lol
August 1, 2009 at 9:04 pm
Thanks for the reply about stalking. I had 1 I was stalking for a week and I know she has been on a lot of times. I sent 1 pm letter and it was nice. I never send bad letters. That’s not a good way to make friends. She blocked me as a sender the next day. That’s why I wrote the comment about stalking people. Have a great weekend and many more workouts. Catch you later, Bruce
August 1, 2009 at 10:18 pm
Nice blog post. Everyone needs to be reminded of those thoughts from time to time.