“Don’t be so intentionally stupid!”
My fellow bloggers! 
I can’t believe May is already here! My goal for this month is to make a combined total of 40 workouts with this Bloke’s help! 
I tracked the exact number of days I was at the gym for the past few months and decided I needed the numbers to be higher and more consistent! So we’ll see how this goes! My diet has been sorta kinda clean. But not really. 
Okay, it’s sucked the big turd since I got back from Vegas. ALL RIGHT, ALL RIGHT, if I must be completely honest. It sucked for ALL of April. *cringes*. Hehehehehe. But that’s changing now! May WILL be a month of GREAT nutrition.
Maybe. 
I was talking to one of my closest friends. She lives abroad so our phone conversations are far and few in between because of the time difference. But anyway, we were gabbing like girls do, and I was marveling to her how NICE I think people are! For example, it was raining earlier, and I didn’t bring an umbrella (I never do - it doesn’t really bother me when I get a bit wet!), but this guy who was in the front area of the gym went out of his way to walk me to my car covering me with his umbrella. HOW NICE is that? So I was telling her that sometimes it amazes me how kind people are.
She rolled her eyes at me. (I COULD TELL!!!) And she was like, “Don’t be so intentionally stupid, Janet. He probably had NO kind intentions whatsoever, and was probably using it as an opportunity to talk to you and get to know you better.”
EH. So I ROLLED my eyes right back at her (And I know SHE could tell, too! Hehehe!), and said that I wasn’t about to assume that any time a guy did something kind for me, it was because he found me attractive. How stuck on myself would I be to assume that? It reminded me of fair Pixi’s entry about the dude and the email and stuff. I mean, I’m not a complete idiot, and sometimes they make it clear that they are interested in me, but other times when it’s just kind gestures like that, to me, that’s just human kindness.
It makes me wonder how hesitent people must be to do something kind for somebody else because their intentions will be misunderstood. For instance, I have taken to smiling at people all the time these days. Men, women, children. Men almost always smile back. Women seem to smile back about half the time, and the other half of the time, they turn away and avoid me. Children always smile back or glance away shyly, but I notice their mothers often seem to think I have other intentions or something! Sheesh, people! It’s just a smile!
Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. A kind gesture is JUST a kind gesture. I would prefer to think people are good and kind rather than think they are interested in me. Does that make me intentionally stupid? Who knows. I’m just going to keep smiling.
May 6, 2008 at 1:02 pm
Some people are kind, most people have intentions. Which one am I??? Now that’s the question that needs asking!! : ) I’m a smiler too. I don’t smile at the same sex though. Guys smiling at other guys they don’t know…wait even their buddies sometimes, is just weird. The world could use a lot more smilers. Kind or intentions, I’m not gonna rub shoulders with ya under an umbrella, unless I think you’re cute or a mother with children…crap there I go back to the being kind thing.
May 6, 2008 at 1:06 pm
**rolls eyes** Didn’t your mother teach you guys are all out for one thing….lol. I don’t think every guy is out to hit on you for doing something nice. Women rarely smile back and children run from me….wtf?
May 6, 2008 at 1:11 pm
LOL, funny post. I think it’s great to have such a positive outlook on other people. I for one would hate to think that everytime a guy smiles at a woman, or performs an act of kindness that it may be misconstrued. Although in your specific example of how a guy went "out of his way" to help you to his car does seem like he may have had other intentions.. haha. I don’t think it’s always the case. So without actually knowing the situation, it’s hard to say. But I think it’s great that you didn’t automatically think he had other intentions. And instead thought that he was just being nice. I think more women should think that about nice guys that are simply trying to help. =)
May 6, 2008 at 1:24 pm
Studies show that a pretty woman can influence a man into making poor financial decisions. Yes, yes, its true. When I do something that I don’t really want to do does that make what I do bad. Bad because a part of me resents the act and resentment is not a virtue. So if I do something good even though I like you is does that make it bad? A cigar is just a cigar until proven otherwise, and even then there will always remain a certain cigar nature.
May 6, 2008 at 1:35 pm
You’re better then me….wait, well no-one ever say anything nice about me, might be that I go out of my way to make people cry….
like that little kid in the mall that walked in front of me like all kids do. He thought that I’d slow down, dodge him, or smile as I gently moved him while dodging. NOPE!!! I didn’t even break my stride, WHACK!!! kid goes flying off the knee and on to the floor, I thought I her a gasp from the mother, but that was cut short by me saying, Keep your brat on a leash like responsible parents do. LMAO!!!! Just kidding, but tell me that you have never wanted to just keep walking a roll a brat over…. OMG!!!!!! I know I have… 
May 6, 2008 at 1:43 pm
I would view his act of kindness much like you did - I don’t flatter myself enough thinking that he (or any guy) wants me. And even if he did do it to hit on you… at least you didn’t get wet from the rain so bonus for you!
Guys and chicks smile equally as much here, especially around the beach and artsy areas. I remember going to New York awhile back and everyone looked at me like I had a horn on my forehead because I was always smiling at people
May 6, 2008 at 1:47 pm
It’s probably both! You can do nice things for people, all people… even if they are smoking hot!
May 6, 2008 at 4:23 pm
I think he was just being a nice guy, those still exist right? And even if he was using it as a way to talk to you, so what? Is there some stigma to hitting on/being hit on these days? I think people are just getting way too paranoid these days.
May 6, 2008 at 5:52 pm
I’m glad you are seeing the best in people. Time to send a nice 2000 mile hug all the way to Houston. Hope you meet your ambitious May goals. Good luck.
May 6, 2008 at 6:10 pm
Not all men are bad!!!! Like myself…. I’m all about the fine art of Male Member Malipulation….. if I got a woman involved… I would have to form little pony’s….lol I really love busting out a manly Bulldog …..
Bulldog @ ya! Wanna pet it? Okay that was the man in me sorry…lmao
Real Men Have Mass!
May 6, 2008 at 6:33 pm
LOL, I’m not going to lie. I had the same reaction your friend had.
May 6, 2008 at 6:49 pm
I still believe in human kindness and that not all guys have ‘intentions’ when they talk to a pretty lady! Some men are just true gentlemen with sincere gentleman manors!!
I think the difference is usually obvious! Sometimes i’m fooled too…but I do believe some men are sincere!
THEN THERE ARE THE DOGS!! THEY KNOW WHO THEY ARE!!
AND the posers who pretend to be all sweet to get the girl…but secretly are BIGGER DOGS than the obvious ones! lmao
May 6, 2008 at 6:52 pm
Stormi you just described me. Thanks. You’re so very correct
May 7, 2008 at 12:57 am
I understand where you are coming from. I just a good ole country boy. We were taught to always say hello to everybody and be polite. When I moved to California, it is totally different. Peopel either just ignore you or be pricks about it. I have lived in different places and it seems California is the worst. You are no where near being intetionally stupid; just becareful! Hope you have a great day!
May 7, 2008 at 1:28 am
You are always sunshine and rainbows!!! I know no matter how bad my day was i can read your blog and you will be talking about somthing that will make me smile. My training partner is the same way that you are. I will usually keep to myself at the gym and just try to get my workout done, but he is always friendly and outgoing. I couldn’t tell you the name of a single person at my gym and he knows every person from 1-99 who walks in. I think there are people who are just nice all the time.
May 7, 2008 at 4:17 am
Hey Janet! It’s good to see that some women can interpret things properly. Honestly, since I’ve been married I’ve been much more of a gentleman because it’s how I want the world to treat my wife.
You have a great attitude and I promise my son, wife, and I will smile back!
May 7, 2008 at 9:55 am
I like the idea of you out there staring down punk kids!
May 7, 2008 at 2:40 pm
The question would be "Would he have done it for someone not so attractive?" Who knows but he did for you and maybe it was innocent.
May 7, 2008 at 3:57 pm
I believe he is or could easily be interested in you, however I applaud him for 1 doing something nice for you, and 2 not bringing up his "intentions" while doing something nice for you. .
If everytime a guy liked a girl or found her attractive, if they did something nice instead of trying to hit on you there would be a lot more nice gestures in the world. And wouldn’t that be better then some lame pickup line?
May 8, 2008 at 2:28 am
he may very well be a nice guy. I like to do kind things for other people. BUT…truth be told! How many of you would be more likely to do kind things for an attractive person of the opposite sex than a not so attractive person of the same or opposite sex? Whether you are hitting on them or not, it seems as though attractive people are treated better than the not so attractive people. Not by intention….but by our human nature.
May 8, 2008 at 8:40 am
KEEP SMILING!! For as little faith in humanity as I have, it has been found that there are still a few kind people in this world. Keep believing that people are nice, but don’t let your world come shattering down when ulterior motives are exposed. I have also found that when you smile, people are in general more kind to you in return. I’d say it was just a kind gesture
And I agree with you for thinking you have to be pretty self absorbed to think that EVERY nice deed done for you was out of attraction. WTG girl! 
May 8, 2008 at 8:05 pm
I am kind I open the door for people all the time I help them out to their car from the grocery store if they need it. As for where have I been I have been hiding.
Big James
May 9, 2008 at 6:40 am
Ok not all guys are dogs and they are not all out for one thing. Even though he is not out for that I guarantee you being a little hottie had something to do with his decision to walk you out. I would make a safe bet and say he would not have walked me out to my car or lets say a girl your height with another maybe 80-100lbs on her.
Keep us posted if the maybe talks to you more now or makes an approach we can see if it was just true kindness or putting himself in prime position to be in your presence. This is the part where I can go into a long spill about how attraction works and how proximity is a huge factor, but I will resist and let this one play out.
May 10, 2008 at 7:47 pm
Well hello fellow smiler. Yes it does seem most people avart glances these days. I think this is just because the media has made the world out to be such an unfriendly place. Most of the times smiles are not returned, but that’s ok.
May 12, 2008 at 6:40 am
Hey JJ, You are the dream girl! Super nice and smokin’ hot. What man wouldn’t go out of his way to do something nice for you? You probably made umbrella man’s day by letting him share his umbrella. Now, if he did the same thing for an unattractive woman, or an elderly man, he would be a gallant man indeed.
I think we get jaded and cautious about people’s intentions after getting burned a few times. Like when I was in Puerto Vallarta, about 70 % of the people who were friendly on the street wanted to sell me something (usually a time share). I could have shut out all the locals, but I didn’t because I realized 30% of the people I met were nice, regular people. They were just nice to be nice! When I followed their advice, it led me out of the tourist zone to even more nice people who weren’t just on the make. And it made them feel good to be nice. I’m glad you are one of those people. Maybe umbrella man was too. One thing I’ve learned is that when we are confident in ourselves, we don’t have to worry so much about people’s initial intentions. By being ourselves, we might even change that pickup artist’s intentions for the better. And if not, we can simply walk away. Certainly as a woman, you have to be smart enough to be cautious with strange men who just approach you, though. There is the rare predator/sicko out there. So do be nice. But be smart too!
May 12, 2008 at 7:28 pm
JJ— I think it is great that you don’t read into kind acts as anything more than that….it shows your kindness….however, I think umbrella man was hoping for some close time…..