good friend/bad friend
So I started going to the gym about a month or so ago with a girlfriend in the a.m. this messed things up for me b/c i usually go in the p.m with my guy. I was juggling workouts for a few weeks and now im not even going in the evenings b/c its too much. I did this b/c she was shy and wanted me to go with her. ive totally been there so i couldnt say no. welll……she turned crazy!!!! she drives off of doing better than me!!!!! a little healthy competion is good but this is too far! I only get a half assed workout b/c of her asma and she takes so damn long getting to the gym that we dont have much time before classes, it ticks me off because ive talked to her about it and nothing changes. she will tell me about how shes going to work out at home after class ….onyl on days when she knows i work or have clinc so i might feel guilty that i cannot workout. She’s started drinkign the tea i drink, eating the food i eat and even dressing like me! its driving me nuts! and anything i do good, shes trying to do better…like everything!
on valentines day i took some naughty pics for my guy and i told her i was gonna do it. what happens? the day after v-day she shows up with her camera to show me the pics she took for her guy!!! we went shopping togetehr and i said about how much i loved a dress, there was only one left and the moment i took my hand off it to go look at another one she grabbed it, tried it on and bought it!
I have been doing REALLY good with my diet and that and id been saying how much better i felt…what does she do? invite me over, buys chips and ice cream…we start eating and soon into the movie i notice that IM eating. she may have had 10 chips and i tottaly saw how my bowl was rounded with ice cream and hers only had a few spoon fulls. also today she didnt show up at the gym….she come to class with a huge chocolate bar and an apology sign on it?!!?!?! seriously maybe im analzing this too much but i hate it.
Im now at the point where i dont want to tell her anything good baout my life because she takes it..she even went so far as to buy the exact same teapot as me after i came to class saying how much i loved it!!! LIke i said a little bit of competition is healthy but having a friend who intentionally does not want you to good sucks. im b/w a rock and a hard place…i love her but i hate this 
February 25, 2009 at 1:37 pm
Well, you can look on the bright side, she obviously admires you and wants to be like you! That is a little crazy though, I would go nuts if someone kept copying my every move.
February 25, 2009 at 1:41 pm
Whew…that almost sounds a little freaky. Make some excuse and start doin what you used to do before all this started. I know…easy for me to say. Wish you luck.
February 25, 2009 at 1:42 pm
Nothing wrong with a little competition, but it’s sounding like this is getting out of hand.
I can’t do training partners, i’d rather ask a random person for a spot if needed then have someone else I have to depend on everyday that isn’t very dependable….
Best of luck.
February 25, 2009 at 1:51 pm
Can you say single white female?? LOL…I say go back to the routine that works for YOU. If she wants to be like you then she shoud be confident like you and work out either by herself or with her dude.
February 25, 2009 at 1:54 pm
Wow, Not really sure what your options are especially if she’s a close friend. You should tell her how you feel, if she’s really your friend she will be understanding and back off a little.
February 25, 2009 at 1:56 pm
TRY THIS FROM NOW ON…EVERYTHING YOU HATE TELL HER YOU LOVE.IF SOMETHING IS GOOD TELL HER ITS BAD..ETC.REVERSE PSYCHOLOGY..THEN HAVE THE LAST LAUGH!!