at war with my training partner
ughh. my trainign partner is my boyfriend. so of course things are different, no touchy touchy lol we keep that outta the gym. but things are still different. He always trying to change our routine on me once we get there which drives me nuts. i want to stick to what im doing and see what works not change it up everyday we train. and we will talk about the plans before hand then we get in there and hes like trying to do somehing completly different. i mean whatever thats okay but if im gonna train with someone then i want it to sutit me too. i like training with him, but i feel like he ruins my workout. he is rarely "there" with me. I spot him every set he needs it, try to encourage him and help in what ways i can. when its my time to do a set he is either staring off in space or playing with his stupid mp3. I want help pushing out that last 1 or 2 reps but by the time i have to hollar for him ive lost it. also hes now doing this pause thing during sets where he goes heavy, gets a few reps then pauses for 15 second and does some more then pauses then does some more. this mean thta im waiting to do my set this whole time including taking the weights on and off..which drives me mad, that was not the plan! Ive thought about traning another body part during his sets but then id be done way before him. I feel like he wants me to be there but to follow him around and i dont want to doo that. honestly it takes almost 2 hours everynight at the gym with him!
needed to vent sorry 
January 22, 2009 at 1:01 pm
LOL. It seems like bad news bears to train with a boyfriend/girlfriend. And plus probably have different goals.
Go together but lift separately. =P avoid tension the gym is a place for endorphins to run wild naturally =D
January 22, 2009 at 1:02 pm
Hi there, Ive been there with Ex girlfriends, trying to add them into my life in the gym.It doesnt work when your in a relationship with them. You need to branch out on your own in the gym and do the workouts you feel are working for you. It sounds like your partner is just using you as a spot partner. Work out separately from each other, this will make you guys stronger in the relationship. I feel working out with someone close is a distraction you dont need, so at least try it out for a couple of weeks. Im sure once your boyfriend sees you workout on your own it might bring him more involved in your training program. Peace.Jay
January 24, 2009 at 8:48 am
Eh, I’ve kinda done the same thing to GJ before, but not that bad. Usually I used to change the routine every 4 weeks and she said that wasn’t long enough. Or I’d change an exercise if she couldn’t get the form right and that’d irritate her. Things are better now though since we’ve figured out routines that work and also ditching the iPods. The gym music is bad, but when it comes time to do a set it all gets tuned out and all I hear is my breathing and the plates ringing!