FitnesschickDom’s BodyBlog

 Who says that jus because someone is in shape and attractive that their lives are easy? I am the first to let you know that as fit individuals (which usually means attractive) we are faced with more challenges…that less understood by the vast majority of the population. We are either seen as self-centered, control freaks or we are sought after by some pretty shallow people.

What do we do to protect ourselves from being hurt or stereotyped? I don’t know what the rest of you do but I have taken to being overly caring and obsenely nice. I absolutely enjoy putting a smile on someone else’s face. If I feel myself in a bad mood I just do a deep breathing exercise, paint on a smile an eventually the smile becomes real.

 My downfall is I open myself up to trust many people…too many people and I end up heart broken or mixed up in a situation that I have no business in. In the last 6 months I have discovered this weakness and I am trying to correct it but you know what? It is starting to look an awful lot like the original steretypes of being self-centered. I have chose to be nuetral and keep to myself, thus changig who I am to protect myself from others. This feels like a vicious cycle. Like being stuck in a tornado of emotions and changes.

What to do? I don’t know. I like being friedly and trusting because I don’t feel like there are enough good people in the world. Good people happen to get trampled on. So, I say I will just buil thicker skin and be cautious while being prepared for a stampede.

I am not going to change who I am anymore because there are some shallow users in the world. Pretty girl with a big heart gets abused? No, not anymore but I will not change my nature and become a mean person to ward off predators. Be smart about who I allow into my life but don’t shut everyone out is what I have com up with. I still feel so confused about it because when I was being well….like most guys are and just throwing men to the wayside if there was ANYTHING wrong with them (which let’s face it-that is ALL of them) I was so lonel I couldn’t function. If a gal made me feel bad about being pretty and fit I just cut them off….I had no one in my world at all and was more sad and depressed than EVER. I am learning that changing me for THEM is NOT the way to go. TAKE ME OR LEAVE ME….I AM WHO I AM. I am not perfect but on a quest to find my own version of it.

Thanks for reading and your comments/responses.  -Dom

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