Why So Hostile? A Blog To ‘hdsegal’
Isn’t it funny how some people can be total hypocrites? As defined by Webster’s Dictionary a ‘hypocrite’ is either 1 : a person who puts on a false appearance of virtue or religion and/or 2 : a person who acts in contradiction to his or her stated beliefs or feelings. I have not been a member of BodyBuilding.com for very long, but I have had a chance to read through a lot of people’s blogs and comments. I came across one yesterday that, honestly, stumped me. Her blog was full of criticism towards other people and hypocrisy, because she certainly didn’t practice what she preached. So I sent her a comment pointing out some of the blatant ‘do as I say, not as I do’ comments. If you’re going to dish out the criticism to other people, you should damn well be able to take it directed back at you. That is really not true in this persons case. Not only did she go into her blog and delete my profile name (she changed it to ‘anonymous’), and delete all of my comments, but she found the time to then go to my blog and leave a rude comment and leave a couple of rude comments on my profile page. I find it interesting that she does not have ANY comments listed on her profile page. Maybe because she gets a lot of negative comments regarding her attitude. I decided not to direct anything to her directly because she will just delete it, which takes away the option of anyone being able to form their own opinion based on the evidence presented. Instead, I decided to blog about it, so that the comments and points can’t be deleted. I don’t expect everyone to agree with me and with so many different types of personalities I don’t expect everyone on this site to get along and play nicely together. But I do believe in fairness and since she deleted everything I wrote, I am using this as my opportunity to state my case. And I am pretty certain that she will read this blog and have plenty to say, but unlike her, I won’t delete any of her comments because I think her comments will show her true personality better than anything else.
So, here are some of the posts that I read from ‘hdsegal’ that I ended up commenting on…
On Feb. 20th she wrote… “MsFitness, I think everyone is tired about reading about your implants. It’s old news now, alot of women have been there and done that, next….. Anyway, I’ve been noticing alot of people on this site have to tell us when they shit, throw up, get implants, get sick, etc….Who ****ing cares, we just want to know your workout progress, not when you shit and throw up. I mean please people, we all have been there and done that!” On Feb. 22nd she starts off her post with this… “I’ve had a bit of a cold since Fri. So not feeling too great…” and ends with this… “p.s. Please people stop posing in your underwear and bra no one wants to see that crap unless they are at a strip club! This is a ****ing bodybuilding site, not an audition to be a stripper or male dancer.” And on Feb. 23rd she has this to say… “By the way people, if you don’t want the truth about something, then don’t ask me. And if you don’t like what I have to say on my blogs, then don’t read it! It’s just that simple.”
After reading these and seeing so many different instances of hypocrisy I left her a comment on her blog (the one she deleted). I can’t recreate exactly what I said but here’s the gist of it… ‘I find it funny that you tell people that if they don’t like what you say on your blog, then don’t read it, yet you are constantly commenting about other people’s blogs… why don’t you practice what you preach and not read it or say anything about it. You comment about Ms. Fitness and the fact that she is sharing something personal about herself to the women who admire her on this site… why comment or read her posts if you don’t like what she has to say? She has been a member of this site since 2006 and is a positive influence on a LOT of the women here. You say that you are tired of people blogging about being sick, having boob jobs, etc., yet your very next blog post is about you being sick! Why tell other people not to write and then turn around and write about it yourself a few days later? You talk about people posing in their bras and panties and how this is a body building site and not a porn site, yet you post just a head and shoulder shot of you that no one knows the age of (it could be 15 years old for all we know), and disgusting pictures of Beavis and Butthead as your progress pictures… then tell people who comment about it not to look at it if they don’t like it. Well if you don’t like the bra a panty pictures… don’t look at them. Practice what you preach!’
She obviously didn’t like my comments and after commenting to me several times (which I will post below) she deleted my original post to her. Here’s the comment she posted on my blog…
<cite>hdsegal</cite> Says:
<small class=”commentmetadata”>February 24, 2009 at 5:55 pm edit
I told you, if you don’t like what I have to say then don’t read my blogs. And this is a free country and I speak my peace. It’s funny, I’m 40 but look a hell of alot better than you. Lol
And here are the comments she posted on my profile page…
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hdsegal [ View Profile ] [ Reply ]
Yesterday, 5:59pm
Where are yr freaking prog. pics. All I see is your ****ing belly which doesn’t look that great. Bet watch what you eat cause you will end up fat when you get older, lol.
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hdsegal [ View Profile ] [ Reply ]
Yesterday, 5:52pm
And you don’t know what the **** you are talking about so go to hell if you don’t like it!
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I didn’t reply to her comments directly, because she would just delete them. And I will keep her comments posted on my profile page along with my comment back to her (it is on my profile page).
So, just like she comments on my blog.. ‘this is a free country and I speak my peace’ and ‘if you don’t like my blogs, don’t read them’. I am speaking my peace and if you don’t like this blog, don’t read it. And let me just remark on a couple of your comments. I never said you weren’t a beautiful woman, your profile picture shows that you are so I’m not sure why you feel the need to comment that you are so much more attractive than me. I never said anything at all about your looks. There are many factors that determine beauty, and I know that I am beautiful on the inside, and that’s where it counts. And I don’t have progress pictures posted because my mom made sure that I was ALWAYS physically active and ate quality food. So I have never been overweight and therefore have no progress pictures to show a transformation. And I don’t feel the need to post a bunch of pictures of myself wearing bathing suits or a bra and panties. I personally don’t do it, but I’m not knocking anyone else who does it either. Like you said, if I don’t like them, I don’t look at them! As for my belly, I happen to like my belly. I have never wanted to compete so I keep my body fat levels around 16% which is a healthy range for an athlete. But 16% does not shed enough bodyfat (on me) to show a "washboard" abdomen like a lot of the women on this site achieve. Oh, and I have spent a lifetime watching what I eat so I am not worried about what I will look like later on in life. Your comments are mean spirited and petty and really show the type of person you are.
With all that said… I will take your advice and not read your blogs.
February 25, 2009 at 9:55 am
Wow, nice call out!
February 25, 2009 at 9:56 am
BS is all about the journey you take with your body and everyone has the right on here to share that. Some people just dont get that, maybe you should offer her a hug. haha..
February 25, 2009 at 9:58 am
Can’t we all just get along?
-Rodney.
February 25, 2009 at 9:58 am
LOL, You Put her on Blast!!!
February 25, 2009 at 10:06 am
I completely agree with your premise - don’t be a hypocrite!!
With that said, MsFitness falls into that very same category - she has complained repeatedly over the past couple of years about implants and has denigrated those who got them. Now that she finally has the cash to do so herself, all is well in her land. I left her a couple of comments on her blog, but much like hdsegal, she will not allow any negative comments to be posted - so you will only read glowing comments that praise her (and I am fairly certain there were many more not so glowing comments that she is not allowing to be posted).
February 25, 2009 at 10:07 am
Nicely put.
February 25, 2009 at 10:27 am
Great job for sticking up for yourself!
February 25, 2009 at 10:31 am
Your stomach looks fabulous babe!! Ms.Fitness can do whatever the hell she wants and more power to her.
February 25, 2009 at 10:39 am
Very classy post. It’s very disappointing to see those kinds of comments. I don’t agree with a lot of what I read or see on BB.com, but I do believe in showing respect. Or respectfully disagreeing. Kudos for sticking with the facts & not resorting to name calling.
February 25, 2009 at 10:41 am
Wow….
February 25, 2009 at 11:17 am
OUCH!
February 25, 2009 at 11:22 am
People on this web sit are way too funny.
LOL That just made my day.
Talk about a bunch of fake people. this web site is full of them if you can read between the lines.
Good day Kids
February 25, 2009 at 11:32 am
I hesitate to say anything here, since I tend to avoid this sort of thing like the plague… However, I must respectfully disagree with your friend’s comment on your ****ing belly, which I think does in fact look… well… great.
February 25, 2009 at 11:38 am
I am sorry i have to coment on this.
WAY TOO FUNNY !!!!!!!!!!!
February 25, 2009 at 2:02 pm
I"m not sure why hdsegal, or anyone, feels the need to express themselves so negatively.
Even if we disagree, we should express ourselves without being spiteful, hurtful or vindicitve. I believe one of the primary purposes of this web site is support and constructive criticism. The petty antics of hdsegal don’t do anyone any good. Congratulations for such a complete review of the situation without stooping to mud slinging and name calling. A better world is waiting for us when we can all take the high road and behave like the ladies and gentlemen we are.
February 25, 2009 at 3:54 pm
That’s sad you had a negative experience in what’s supposed to be a positive place for support and information. That being said, i was just about to thank you for dropping by. I think you’re truly blessed to have a mother who was looking out for your health from an early age–and 16% bf is nothing to scoff at !– a lot of women like myself wish we could get our #s down to that. kudos for standing up.
February 25, 2009 at 6:38 pm
Damn girl, you really need to get a life! I think you need to see a psychiatrist for yr problems. Lol
February 25, 2009 at 7:06 pm
One should pay no heed to another whose progress pics are of Beavis and Butthead.
Ignore her, do your own thing. Be proud of who you are and pay no mind to the naysayers, they will only drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.
Rise above it and do what you need to do for you.
February 25, 2009 at 7:12 pm
LOL
February 26, 2009 at 1:03 am
After hdsegal’s latest blog entry, I’m declaring FitKiara winner!!
But seriously: not everybody have the ability to see that they’re full of s***, and if they did they wouldn’t admit it. That’s when the "you’re so stupid and I’m prettier than you"-comments come flying. Hdsegal practically went back to kindergarten with her "criticism" of FitKiara.
February 26, 2009 at 4:48 am
FitKiara and hdsegal– you are both gorgeous women. I agree with Heather’s points regarding the semi-pornographic nature of many of the avatar shots of people on this site, especially the men (men–be men, and pull up your underwear!). You might be miss-reading some of Heather’s tone. She’s "tongue-in-cheek", similar to ChickenTuna’s tone, only a better (or bitter which is as matter of opinion).–Manny
February 26, 2009 at 4:54 am
regarding heather’s lack of comments on her profile page. she reads and deletes them (or keeps them invisible). i’ve left positive comments, and they don’t show up on her profile page. she seems to be private about her photos, so posts cartoons. sugamomma does this too, except she posts political cartoons. i guess our ages might have something to do with this–we’re 40-somethings? anyhow, you look great. keep living a clean and healthy lifestyle. your ethic shows in your photos.–manny
February 26, 2009 at 8:50 am
As heather is fond of saying… Been there, done that.
It’ll work out for the best if you just ignore her, and those like her. They aren’t what this site is supposed to be about.
February 26, 2009 at 9:28 am
wow, bodyspace drama.
February 26, 2009 at 9:40 am
I just thought of something else…i though endorphins were supposed to make you happy??
just keep your head up ‘kiara’ you are greater than mini drama.
February 26, 2009 at 9:43 am
i do understand however, the annoyance with hypocrisy. take care. hope things get better.
February 26, 2009 at 11:37 am
stay positive n everyone lives happy
February 26, 2009 at 11:48 pm
I like your style… and love how u handled the situation.
Luv ur pics by the way…hehe ur stomach is actually very nice in my opinion.
Obesity runs in my family too unfortunately so im trying to change that now…ur profile and stories keep me motivated.. thanks doll!!
"girls should be two things, classy and fabulous" coco chanel
ciao luv
March 2, 2009 at 6:36 am
You needed to stand up for yourself and you did it so well I’m giving you a PhD.
March 2, 2009 at 1:19 pm
I thought this was very well written. I commented on her blog before I came here and really knew what all the drama was about. At first I said I was glad to hear her standing up for what she believes but now I think I should have gotten all the facts first! I hate the drama but do like to read well written blogs and yours definitely qualifies. Good job!
March 2, 2009 at 11:58 pm
Well said. She seems to be on the attack all of the time. She should definitely take a look in the old psychological mirror!
March 13, 2009 at 8:39 am
Funny that "hdsegal" thinks she looks so much "better than you" at 40…. Why cant she act more grown up than you at 40!! Hmm.. ISSUES! =)
March 13, 2009 at 8:44 am
Did you read that she does an HOUR AND A HALF of CARDIO!!?? She obviously has NO IDEA what she is doing! WOW!! Couldnt be MORE counter-productive!! She should be using this site to further her exercise knowledge, not using it as a high school lunch room.