Approaching Men At The Gym
Do you men like women to approach you in the gym or not? I don’t have many opportunities to meet guys so, my options are on-line dating or the gym, lol. Been doing the on-line thing for about 1.5 yrs now and it’s not really working. Maybe I’m just on the wrong sites. I’m not meeting quality men on-line. The majority are just womanizers and looking for a "fun" time.
I’ve been at my gym now for 7 weeks and just now I’ve started saying hi to people I see regularly, men and women. So, there’s an older gentleman that goes there on the same days and times as me and I look forward to seeing him everyday. For an older guy, he’s HOT! He’s my eye candy when I’m there, but beyond that he knows what he’s doing when it comes to weight training so, I watch him and learn some techniques. I’ve been wanting to chat with him for awhile now, but he’s always concentrating so hard that I don’t want to interrupt him. Do you guys care if women interrupt you while you’re pumping iron? Anyway, today I finally was close enough to him and he had just finished a set and the first thing that came out of my mouth was, "Have you always worked out?" We ended up chatting for a good 15 minutes or so. Got his name and he told me he was 57! He’s so HOT and yes, I have had naughty thoughts about him. He wasn’t wearing a wedding ring. I’d totally go out on a date with him if he asks. I’m hoping now that we’ve broken the ice we’ll talk more. He could very well be married though. Most likely that is the case. He’s old enough to be my dad, lol.
June 10, 2009 at 6:17 pm
Oh, I forgot to add that I did tell him he was a very good looking guy. I’m not sure if he heard me though, lol.
June 10, 2009 at 6:20 pm
Yeah we always like being approached by women, as long as their not our ex.
June 10, 2009 at 6:22 pm
Unless he seems really open to talking (ie u see him chatting with other people). I would wait until the end of his workout to ask him stuff (I really dont like chatting during workouts, and most serious lifters dont either)
IIf it doesn’t seem like he is in a rush and he isint married, ask him for coffee
June 10, 2009 at 6:22 pm
scratch my response, apparently guys dont care, lol.
June 10, 2009 at 6:24 pm
Naughty thoughts. Sounds like you too are looking for fun, LOL. Welp, I’m a pretty solitary guy and I’m really focused at the gym but if a good looking woman approached me I’m sure I would be more than happy to chit-chat for awhile…. maybe even have some naughty thoughts of my own!
June 10, 2009 at 6:25 pm
I would say yes! We would not mind if girls took the imitative especially in the gym, because frankly for a guy to approach a girl at the gym is a little too cliché for women sometimes. Also I just want to say that age is just a number and if you have the opportunity I would not put him off just because he is a little older then you, I say go for it and if it turns out he is not interested that’s cool because at least you can learn from him training wise and maybe he know some of the other guys at the gym who would be into you. “Networking” I guess you could say would be a great word for it.
June 10, 2009 at 6:37 pm
man you have the opposite issue as me..two times now I have had men get the idea I am interested in them and they actually HAVE asked me out when I didn’t want them to at all(so awkward, I am NOT a flirty type) One guy thought I was interested apparently because I asked if anyone was using the machine next to him..lol(seriously… he was 57 too btw…but not eyecandy)
…another time I asked a "regular" at my gym who seemed approachable, for some lower back exercise ideas…he was friendly and by the end of that interaction he asked me out too!!..he and I are friends now, we’ve moved past the initial awkwardness…but good luck with your search at the gym!
June 11, 2009 at 5:37 am
I actually feel the opposite of the other guys on here. I don’t mind if a woman approaches me (not that I’m available, but it is flattering). I’d prefer that it didn’t happen in the middle of my workout though.
I wouldn’t be upset about it, but I wouldn’t want to stop and chat for too long either since I like to keep my intensity pretty high.
As a general rule, I think it’s fine to approach men or women at the gym, as long as you aren’t socially inept. If the person doesn’t want to chat, be willing to move on.