How long can I do this
I have a 12 yr old cute little girl. She is growing in to a little lady real fast and boys are snifing around. I have put fear in them so far. Soon I fell I might have to snap one in half just to keep them away. So how do I choose, is it the "punk kid" but then the other could think I did not like him. So do I break the "goodie goodie" kid but he is helpful with my smaller kids when they are out playing. How do I pick well I will just keep making faces at all of them til one makes the wrong move then "WAM". Just kidding can’t kill them just teach her how to kick them in the ding-ding. No I will teach her right and wrong, and pray everyday she does the right things.
March 4, 2009 at 1:25 pm
you said ding-ding haha love it!!1
March 4, 2009 at 1:29 pm
That last sentence covers it, I have three daughters, all out of the house now and I did a lot of both, and stayed very invloved in their lives while they were growing up. Best to you!
March 4, 2009 at 1:29 pm
Oh dear! You’re getting into the ‘difficult’ teenage years, huh?
Best advice I can give (speaking as a former 12 year old girl myself) is just to continue to be a great dad, a great example and a strong role model. There is an element of truth in the saying that girls marry their fathers, in that the man they end up with will usually be a reflection upon the man who brought them up. (Not saying she won’t make some mistakes along the way, but who doesn’t??!)
Good luck
March 4, 2009 at 1:31 pm
Hey man, know exactly where you are coming from. I have a 13 year old "little girl", and man, I face the same decision; which one to possibly let hang around and which ones to help get lost! But as you said, try to teach right and wrong along with a good swift kick and a hard right hook! Good Luck!!
March 4, 2009 at 2:30 pm
If I ever have a daughter, Im gonna be super protective of her. Shoot, I have my sister living with me right now and shes 19, and quite attractive. Now all these military douches are sniffin around when we’re at the store or where ever, and I have to give the alpha male, ‘Dont even ****IN try it.’ look. And if one approaches I will say with a cheerful smile on my face, ‘ HI!, (shakes his hand) My names, Mike. (straight face) walk away.’
Im not saying all military are douches, but I am one too. And I know what they’re after.
March 4, 2009 at 3:34 pm
Girls who grow up with good fathers know how to pick good guys later on… You love her and teach her how valuable she is and then she will never settle for a guy you wouldn’t approve of.
For now, keeping putting the fear into the boys…
March 5, 2009 at 7:50 am
Play that country song "Cleaning My Gun" a lot when they are around
lol
Sometimes it’s hard to keep your cool with the "prospects". I have two step-children, 20 year old daughter and 15 year old son. Daughter is in college now but I remember her little "prospects"…. I had to get pretty nasty with one. Even the girls that are infatuated with my son… the majority of them are wack-O’s! Immediately possessive and the text messaging is absolutely non-stop! You wonder what their parents are doing.
You are in for a treat but maintain a firm position on what’s going with her. Just let all of them know that you will not tolerate any BS, and that you and she discuss things that she want’s to do, but you ultimately make the final decision. Remind the "prospects" that they are required to be little gentlemen when they are around your daughter and anyone who has trouble doing that gets the "boot".
March 5, 2009 at 9:51 am
last night she came to the gym with me @ our apt. the boys hang out over there. I showed her how to lift correctly but more I let the boys see me move alot of weight. Even let them spot me on my last set of bench . Used all the free weight we have in the gym (315)so they got the idea. My little girl was smiling proud and the boys had fear in there eyes….man it was a good night
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April 7, 2009 at 1:21 pm
well, i have a daughter and she is almost 6 years old when she reaches her 12 i think i teach her myself how to manage DING DING things:-)
April 21, 2009 at 7:39 am
The best thing you can do is tell her straight what goes on in boys’ minds and then be ready to break one in half at any second. lol j/k on the last half. Tell her to run the minute she hears ‘just trust me’. lol
May 12, 2009 at 10:40 am
Just love her and be her friend so she knows she can come to you with the hard questions. My daughter is 17 and about to graduate. She has always had respect for me, but knew she could tell me anything, and yep, I scared a few boys off. But when it came down to it I knew I raised her to have a good head on her shoulders, she has always made great choices, and she has picked a winner. Best of luck to you and your daughter!
June 22, 2009 at 8:57 pm
teach them well, and they will take it to heart my friend.
July 8, 2009 at 6:42 am
just flex when the boys come around
July 29, 2009 at 11:44 pm
It’s more then just teaching her right or wrong. Teach her how guys think. There was once a young man who wanted to come to my house at eleven o’clock at night for coffee when I was alone. I was much too naive to know that coffee had nothing to do with it. That sort of thing won’t always come natural for girls. Also, when she wears something revealing, don’t get too mad at her, she may really not know what she’s doing to her male peers. One more thing, pick up the American Girl book "The Care and Keeping of You," if you haven’t already.