Friends
Good friends are great to have.
Very few people, very few understand my goals. I know that many of you can relate to this.. People don’t understand why we dedicate so much of our free time (some of us, ALL our spare time) to going to the gym, measuring and pre-packing meals. I usually get a strange look when I explain to people that I go to bed at 6pm because I get up at 3am to head to the gym.. Even people who have the same kind of life style as me give me strange looks and give me the “man your dedicated” speech.. But hey, the gym isn’t crowded at 3:30 am is it? No, its not.. and that’s what fits into my schedule the best.. And if I want to have a rockin bod.. I will fit gym time in, no excuses!…..So, I work with the usual crowd.. The fatty’s that eat McDonalds everyday.. and the lady that has a desk full of 100-calorie packs.. but proceeds to eat 6 of them.. The “I’m starting my diet on Monday”, and the “But I ate a salad for lunch” people…We all know them… Today we had a department potluck at noon… Well, with my eating schedule I’m suppose to eat at 10:30 am.. So I did.. But I still attended the potluck to socialize… Not more than 5 minutes into the potluck I’m getting weird looks as I’m sitting alone while everyone gets up and gathers there food.. I don’t care.. doesn’t bother me at all…. A few Moments later its “You’re not eating?!?!” I simply say “no, I ate earlier, I’m not hungry, thanks though”.. Minutes later I hear some team mates of mine behind me and they say “Marlo, were making fun of you.. You didn’t eat earlier did you?!” I said “no I did at 10:30, like I ALWAYS do”…. Some more comments are made.. blah blah blah.. whatever.. I don’t let comments like this bother me.. Not anymore at least.. At one point and time I felt insecure about busting out my Tupperware at family parties, or simply not eating while others were at events.. I hated the stares, and the whispers.. But that ship has long since sailed.. I’m much more confident in who I am, and I don’t feel the need to explain myself and my fitness goals to people anymore.. because they simply just don’t get it.. and I don’t expect them to.. I mean after all the majority of America is obese anyways.. YES I know IM DIFFERENT.. Yes I know its WEIRD.. But when I’m confident on the beach this summer, and there hiding under there baggy clothes, or avoiding the beach all together they are going to wish they made some lifestyle changes to.. “Maybe next summer” right… LOL.. yeah keep telling yourself that..
I have a wonderful lady that I work with that I love dearly.. She supports me 110% in my goals.. And although she let herself go quite some time ago.. she understands that even though I am thin, and that I have a great body NOW.. that I still want a better one.. After the potluck, I was sitting at my desk reading some emails and she came over to me and gives me a BIG hug.. and she goes “I don’t want you listening to any of that crap those people say.. I support you, and I think you are wonderful.. You are a great inspiration to me and you keep doing what you’re doing”…. Yeah.. Good friends are great to have.. They truly are to be loved and appreciated.. I hope that all you guys out there have at least 1 person that supports you. I know that I have several in my life.. and some days its still hard…
May 14, 2008 at 3:56 am
hahahahaha oh god do i know exactly what you mean. though i usually get ‘ur eating…. AGAIN!??’ or ‘how much food is in your bag there?’, or ‘why are you eating a tuna salad, thats such a chick meal’
and its hard that most of ur friends (in general) dont understand but its you have some that do support you. I tend to hit the gym when its a little busier so I at least have some otheres there who i can relate with.
keep it up though, sounds like you will
May 14, 2008 at 3:14 pm
3:30 am, wow! People here think I am crazy because I go home at 8pm so I can be at the gym at 4:30am, but nobody is in the gym then except 1 guy on the treadmill. Really small gym on a really small island.
Good luck.
May 16, 2008 at 2:02 pm
I can totally emphasize with your life. I am a 49 year old guy who has been getting up at 3:30 am every morning to go down to my basement gym to lift…people say I am nuts, but its in me. Please do not stop working out, friends will try to pull you down, maybe even insult you from time to time…but you like me know that in the end its all worth it. We all have goals, I look better now that I ever have in my whole life and its due to dedication and caring about my health. You have a great attitude, seem very charming, great body, lots ahead for you!!! Peace, Rob St. Louis
May 20, 2008 at 2:32 pm
Great post! This kind of thing happen to me all the time. Some people will never get what we do and thats ok. I get weird looks all the time when I eat my chicken breast and sweat potato’s while my co-workers scarf down Big-Macs. I thought was the only one experincing this kind of thing lol.
Keep doing ya thing girl!!!
May 27, 2008 at 3:40 pm
I FULLY understand your lifestyle. Keep up the good work, and don’t let the fat and disgusting people bother your or slow you down.
June 19, 2008 at 4:00 pm
You are my preacher
=)
!!!
August 4, 2008 at 11:08 am
I used to get that crap all of the time when I competed. I just learned to ignore them.. They are just jealous because they dont have the modivation to do it. Ofcourse they want to look like you, but they are lazy. So they would rather just make fun of you. Dont let them get to you. Keep up your healthy lifestyle, its definatley worth it.
August 9, 2008 at 9:26 pm
You are so cute
August 9, 2008 at 10:24 pm
The most uncomfortable times are meeting with friends for dinner.. they order a couple beers and a mini pizza.. Me? I order a diet soda and tell them I ate just before I came so I didn’t have to there. They laugh now that they are used to it… but they make sure to give me a jab each and everytime.
August 21, 2008 at 12:48 pm
Hi there!
I LOVED what you last wrote in your blog! I SO RELATE! I, too, go to bed at 6:30 pm or 7 to work out at 3 a.m (YAY 24 hour fitness!) and love it and other people just can’t stand it! My lifestyle is totally alien to them! I am so glad you wrote what you did so now I don’t feel so crazy!
What part of Washington do you live in? I live in Olympia!
Sincerely,
Kathy
October 9, 2008 at 6:14 pm
Wow so true! I feel the same with BB.com that everyone gets where you’re coming from cause we all do (or strive to) have to turn down temptation and dedicate countless hours to the gym and kitchen. This is a place where you can compare what everyone is doing and try and up one over them!! Stay Strong and you ALWAYS have someone on your side…even when it feels like you’re alone. Train Hard xo~z
October 11, 2008 at 1:58 pm
People are always quick to assume because it re-assures themselves & reinforces their bad choice.
No one double takes the chubby who eats 3 snickers yet they frown & my (our) nutritional discipline. & I just dont eat ****, nothing mad.
You need to stand under to under - stand. Understand? Thing is they dont & never will (because they have none)
The chubby & Obese are so because they consume, but never from their own resource.
"Like the candle, I am my own fuel, consuming myself" - Bruce Lee
November 19, 2008 at 11:41 am
I hear ya girl 100%. People dont like anything thats different, They fear it.
whenever someone hears that Im following a strict diet I always get the same responses:
"You dont need to diet, dont be silly!"
"If YOU need to diet then what do I need to do"
(These peopel are always heavy… yet telling them "YES, YOU SHOULD DIET!" is rude..
"Yea, cuz your pushing 90lbs!"
or a sarcastic "Oh your soooooo fat!"
Dont ya love it! People who cant understand why on earth youd wanna be the best you can be? Or the ignorance of thinking that every girl who diets and isnt obese ihas some sort of eating disorder…. ugh
The only one who understands me is my training partner… my BF
February 9, 2009 at 10:57 am
I know this is a late response to this blog but even if it true you have to maintain your character. Everyone has difficult situations in their life and make excuses for why they are the way they are but be carefull not to raise yourself above them or one day you may find yourself in a simular situation.
I am extremely inspired by your dedication to your goals and you have shown me that it is possible if you desire it enough. Therefore, use your commitment and desire to inspire. You are making a huge impact on the people around you or they would not notice what you are doing just emit a positive light and not a negative light.
If I misunderstood this blog as a vent session then I apologize but know that your story has shown me how it is possible to have a better diet on my journey to a better me. Thanks.
May 21, 2009 at 9:27 am
find inspiration thru the people that do the same thing .. like all other bodybuilders in the entire world.
your not the only one, but do what you do with complete confidence. If they understood what health and fitness was, they would be doing the same.